It could be religious beliefs, core values, personal beliefs, etc?
Would you date someone who doesn't?
My partner aligning with me is very important so that clashing of beliefs don't happen.
Obviously, certain lifestyle differences are incompatible with each other, but beliefs aren't necessarily an issue, unless they are forced onto others. If one person is religious and the other an atheist, but both are respectful of the other's belief, that isn't an issue. Unfortunately, too many people feel everyone should conform to their belief, and that is the issue. You'll only get as much respect as you give, yet people often feel entitled to receive more than they give, assuming they're right and everyone else is wrong. If your partner believes it is more convenient to pee standing up, does that mean you need to conform to his belief or the relationship is doomed?
I also live in the country and truly savor the peace and quiet, even with the extra challenges of country living. I would never be with someone who insisted I live in the city or pressured me to conform to what's familiar to her, yet I'd have no problem being with someone who lives her life, respects my life and enjoys sharing the time we choose to connect. Due to people feeling so free to push their agenda onto others, I do tend to pass on opportunities when people declare interests in things that don't fit me, as I don't like disappointing people, and I'm not about to conform to be acceptable. I don't expect them to change for me, and I have no desire to change for them. I'm not about to be a provider of a lifestyle that is contrary to what works for me, but I'm not averse to being with someone who provides herself with things that don't interest me, as long as those choices don't negatively impact my life.
This is a multi-part question...
Religious beliefs - nice to share but not that important if we don't
Core values - important that we share at least most of them, some differences okay
Personal beliefs - like religion, nice to share but not that important if we don't; somewhat different political views are okay... we just don't talk about that
I have a virtual partner that follows a different religion than I do. I've never looked at religion as something that could cause an issue. But that could be due to the fact I'm interested in what others follow & have questions about it.
I don't want my hypothetical partner always agreeing with me every single time who never disagrees with me, but I'd want them to generally be on the same page as me
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Absolutely. I'm a simple-living, rural farming guy. A high maintenance city gal would not work for me at all.
Generally I'm sure there must be a similar core in the field of beliefs in both partners. Some differences nevertheless are certainly enriching for both.
For sincerely religious people, common sense requires partners to have the same religion. In the field of politics, at least some similarity seems in my opinion to be desirable.
You're going to have to be respectful of differences, accommodating, and avoid trigger points. Good practice for everyone but may be more work than you want in this case.
When it comes to your kids, it may become a red flag. Further down the line but worth bearing in mind.
Beliefs do not equate to facts. Therefore they are entirely dismissable until the twain shall meet. At that point i am no longer interested. I am not attracted to people whose conviction to beliefs exceeds their conviction to facts.
Outside of that, i’m VERILY interested in new ideas, ideals and beliefs! As long as you don’t demand conviction, i’m happy to practice with you.
Men and women are different, so it don't matter much to me, unless she don't want children.
They don't have to be exactly the same. Similar beliefs are fine with me. Like they say, Opposites attract. My wife and I had our differences when we were dating.
No one shares or believes the same. Everything varies. What both of you have to do is listen and respect each others. If one of you two don't, then the other is hard headed and disrespectful to their partner. They might not be the one for you.
Just remember opinions are like a-holes, ev1 got one and they both stink.
I believe in core values. There are many religions in the world, some of which I agree with more than others.
I'm not too concerned about their religious beliefs, as long as they hold the same core ethical values i hold
I don't care about the incompatibility as long as he loves me but I expect basic thing her should be a single guy without any girlfriend
I have certain NO NO's like smoking that are definitely a turn off. Everything else is negotiable. Just remember you can never change anyone, that is up to them.
I think there are a few things that must be aligned in order to make a relationship work. Beliefs are one of them. How can you be in love with a person you dread being around because of disagreements?
It is very important. If you disagree with somebody over major issues like money or family can create a lot of friction.
we gotta have a lot of similar values/beliefs and at least be respectful of what ones we don't share
When I "date" someone, I AM her religious belief.
for a relationship that is primarily a philosophical one. no
for a relationship that has long term goals, yeah its important
Religious - needs to be pretty close.
Political - not so much, unless she's full commie or Nazi
Core values and morals definitely do need to be matching for me.
I’d someone who believe as long they don't shove it down my throat as an Atheist I don't need it.
To some degree. I won't date someone who wants to wait until marriage. I won't date someone who wants me to convert to their belief system
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