Is ideology of your partner important?

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Is ideology of your partner important? If it is important, why?

sawno · Accepted Answer

Absolutely, she needs to be on the same page on some fundamental issues so we can plan our lives and raise our children around that.

Imagine this, I don't believe our energy consumption is responsible for climate change and even if it is that's not my fault they are making the energy grid inefficient. If she is a climate activist that would cause constant fighting.

Or how about this one, I love eating meat and think a healthy male body requires meat consumption. If she is a hardcore vegan and demands we don't have meat in the house that won't work. If she's fine with me grilling my own meat thats already more workable, but how do you then raise the child? Meat or no meat?

And one last one, if I am of the opinion you should keep all sexualization and sex/gender related issues away from children until they are old enough to develop their sexuality and identity and she is an avid LGBT supporter who thinks children should choose their gender at a young age that makes it impossible to raise a child.

All these 3 examples are pretty typical of a right wing bias versus a left wing bias since we have different solutions and different sources of information. With guys like me leaning more right wing, and many girls leaning left wing. Not only is it important that we'd find a middle ground on these things, its getting increasingly problematic in our generation since the divide keeps growing.

ADFSDF1996 · Accepted Answer

Yes she should have similar views to my own. She doesn't need to have all of the exact same views but as long as most of them are similar, then we could be compatible.

By the way I would totally clap the cheeks of both of those chicks even though I don't support either ideology.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

He can prefer a different political candidate as long as his preference is surface level and does not reflect a deeper lifestyle of hate and ignorance in the world. I will not date a guy that does not have a good sense of equality. If he thinks it's okay to mistreat strangers when he does not like his skin colour, he won't even be on my friend's list, as well as guys who discriminate in other ways. I've met pastors who try to ban mentally ill people from joining their intercessory prayer group. They were banned from forming prayer groups at the University of Toronto for their socially exclusive gospel of hate and wrath and judgment and discrimination against weak or hurting people. I believe they were also banned from setting foot on university property. Healthy people can disagree with somebody without humiliating them and praying for horrible things to happen to them.

DaisyM23 · Accepted Answer

If you're okay to have a partner with different ideologies, you shouldn't let it get in the way of your relationship then which is pretty hard unless you have zero cares about what you believe in - it's all about compromise, people of opposite ideologies probably wouldn't date unless they were crazy lol, but it depends on the person I guess and what they're okay with putting up with

Soteris · Answer

To a point, yes. Many ideologies are simply not internally consistent and only people who are either stupid or fundamentally uninformed enough could honestly adopt such a contradictory position. The other alternative is that they are dishonest, which either or is not a very good trait to have in a partner.

Aside from that I do not actually care that much. If we have something to disagree on politically, religiously or economically then that is something I would find enjoyable to spend countless nights arguing over. If its better to favor collectivism or individualism for example or privacy vs everything else. Questions without any real definitive answers which you can make arguments for either side depending on what you value more can make for great conversations.

Being in a relationship with someone who has the exact same views as me would probably get fairly boring.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

We must share at least some views so we don't end up killing each other during discussions :D

What is completely unacceptable for one partner can't be the basis of the other partner's views. Because then there's no chance for any relationship.

Flatmanlewis · Answer

Yes. Politically, somewhat. Religiously, yes. Socially, absolutely. I would not want my children being pipelined a bunch of woke, leftist, racial-lens, silliness any more or less than any QAnon, militia, craziness. How my mate raises our children will impact my life and happiness forever and it’s too important to not factor in.

ZackBan · Answer

Yes in a sense that I won't partner up with someone who's extremist no matter what towards.

The current girl I'm seeing irritates me sometimes because she's muslim and made it her whole identity. We get along great, but just over that I think we won't work in the long run. Can't build anything together since I will never be converted and refuse to have a religion impact my household. It's sad really.

wiltingrosepetal · Answer

You're dating the mind just as much as you're dating the body. If someone has some really disgusting ideas (eg, sympathing paedophilia, being a nazi, liking Andrew Tate, Jeffrey Epstein, Harvey Weinstein...) then I will find him disgusting. We can have different political or sociological beliefs, but some ideologies are too detrimental to a relationship

Bella2423 · Answer

Yes, it is. Especially if we decide to have children. I need a partner who shares the same opinion as me.

Alexandrubaschet08 · Answer

I am an anti-communist and anti-Nazi.
My friend is from communist China, but she is not loyal to the regime and does not want to return. If she had been a person dedicated to the communist cause, then our relationship would not have been the same.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

Definitely. I don't wanna be arguing all the time. That Nazi chick is hot by the way

MemeSupreme · Answer

idc if bro is a nazi we can be friends as long as they're not piece of shit but im not gonna date the fucker lol

it gotta be similar bc im not trying to get married one day and become another divorce statistic lmfao

Al_Musafir · Answer

Definitely. Either a firm adherent of Islam or nothing.

aceleon · Answer

yes. i'm not having a feminist, egalitarian, atheist/deist, free-sex bullshit, materialistic and capitalist girl.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

My ex and I disagreed at some topics, but we didn’t care. Our outlook on life was mostly similar.

AliceM611 · Answer

It was important that we shared similar christian beliefs

Dargil · Answer

It wasn't in the past but the poles have become extreme.

RavVid · Answer

Mostly because girls are very indoctrinated and don't think it out.

loveslongnails · Answer

Of course it's important. How could you partner up with someone whose ideology is way too different than yours?

badkarma22 · Answer

Yes because same ideology usually means more shared values. Then it's easier to get along.

Staximus · Answer

Nazis and commies are both retards

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Yes. No Nazis and no Communists. Thank you.

Tomisworthless · Answer

If she’s not a Nazi I don’t want her 😤

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