If your partner supports a political party or a set of political ideologies that you oppose, do you think you'd be able to be with them? Or do you not care about politics at all when it comes to a relationship?
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Yes because ideology mirror values. But you should not look to much on political parties because they really doesn't mirror people wishes. I have 8 parties to pick from in sweden and not a single one get 50% of their answers correctly. So they all fail in moving the country in the direction I would want.42
When my husband and I met, we never asked which politically party the other person belonged to. Discussing politics was poor etiquette and asking who someone voted for was a level of rude that would have been a deal breaker for either of us.
Fast forward to today. We still share the same values, we've raised children with our moral beliefs, but over the years we have disagreed on some political ideologies. Some of those are more important than others.
If I were in the dating scene now and considering a relationship, I would want to discuss our political view points. The divide today is such a huge gap that I could not live with someone who believes in ideologies that I strongly oppose.10
They do matter, although there are many many situations (and people) that I'm able to avoid without ever engaging by just by using my five senses. As for my current interest, we haven't even talked about it yet as it's a new relationship. I know he is all for capitalism, as is a trend with most of the men I find romantically appealing, although, even if he did broach the subject, I can't say I'd be much of a match for a conversation partner in that regard because I don't make time to study current events.10
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Yes it does.10
Not much. Well it depends on how extreme she is and if she is pushing on trying to convert others.
I do like a good respecful debate but if she can't handle me thinking differently than her or don't understand the depth and reason beyond being able to hold a position... or better yet, if she can't understand that a left- or right-leaning person is not the sum of their beliefs, but their actions.
It is possible to cherry-pick leanings in both directions within politics and have actual reasons for that. Also, you don't have to double down on anything you're unsure of, just say you don't know about the details and might have come back later to revise the subject.
Healthy people change their minds all the time, there's no shame in it. I'm not asking you to, just that you can explain it and get to the bottom of the why and how you position will improve the situation.10
For the most part not.
Where I was raised (Balkan) it had to be the case - I was never going to find anything in common with anti-civil society of east Bosnia or Serbia (but most of Balkan is in fact like that, blood thirsty).
Now - considering I am not a 'life long local' anywhere on the globe, I prefer to go with the views of the girl I'd want to have a relationship with - in fact I expect my liking of her to be _because_ she gets those things better than I do (in the 'local city/country' context).
The one thing I'd expect is nothing extreme but moderate views (even if when verbalised for venting purposes the logic can sound extreme)10
I prefer to date someone who’s in the middle yet feels the same about certain things. If they’re walking around screaming shit like Trump 2024 or Biden 2024 then thats the ultimate turnoff. I dont want someone whose that wrapped up in politics.20
I do care! Apparently, males don't give a damn about your political beliefs if you're pretty. I'm conservative and the guy I was talking to was a progressive. He's not ugly.. he's kinda cute but I cannot take him seriously romantically. He still wanted to date me. I rejected him though.33
yes it does to a degree. The political is based upon how they see behavior and government management of issues. My wife is not political but she has her views on how things should be done. I find when we talk about issues, not parties, we are very in synch and that reduces potential stressors, even when she is not into political gossip and junk on tv.
I think if I had someone devout the opposite view it create friction.10
Used to be no, but now that those opposite of me have spent the last 6 years demonizing people like me and causing people to do horrible things to people like me (and pushing policies that would harm people like me) I can't support someone who supports people who would love to see me dead.20
It does if her ideology affects the safety and security of our family.21
Modern politics has a lot to do with morals, so yes, it matters very much to me. I'd never date a liberal or RINO. Why date someone that I can't respect and would be against almost everything they are for.20
Only if I thought it was extreme, unkind or angry. I would not want to be involved in anything that felt mean, to me, and I would not want to hear angry rants on a regular basis, and I mean in either direction, or any direction.10
They do somewhat, but it isn't something that would drive a wedge between us - from my perspective.
If we were great together other than that aspect, I would try to find a way to make the political ideologies a non-issue.10
Just 10-15 years ago this was a very minor issue. What has changed?12
I don't think I could tolerate virtue signalling. And I tend to think the Left thinks that spending money is the same as solving a problem and it isn't. So It would be a problem to me to hear inane simplistic views.20
To a degree, but ultimately I don't care so long as it isn't at the forefront of the relationship or they are on an extreme end of the spectrum.20
Old-school. Not at all. People knew how to have a healthy and often fun debate. These days it’s all hate.30
I think life is bigger than politics, I can be with someone and not care about her political opinion
If we have a real bond, then political opinion is nothing.11
Maybe. Commie, Nazi, or racist are all no fly zones for me. Normal D or R or 3rd Party or independent, no problem.11
That depends. Some slight differences in ideology would probably be inevitable but something significant might be a dealbreaker10
No, as long as she doesn’t want to discuss politics13
Yes. I need someone who has the same morals and values as I do. He needs to be Christian and if he’s a genuine Christian he’ll be conservative even if not Republican (he doesn’t need to be republican idc about that)21
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Matters significantly. They are subjects that come into conversation all the time so I'd have to be with someone who largely agrees with me on things. One the other hand, we don't have to agree on every little thing as long as we're mature about it.
Saying that, there's a few things I can't budge very much on. Wouldn't date/marry a pro-abortionist, wouldn't date/marry an atheist, wouldn't date/marry a fourth wave feminist, and wouldn't date a social justice warrior who is obsessed with gender ideologies.
Luckily for me, I'm in a relationship with a woman who agrees with me on a lot of matters. We don't perfectly line up on some subjects but we're both mature.
A lot of women I've met scream, yell, and go into ad-hominems immediately if you don't agree with them. These kinds of people I cannot stand.
Fully agree with all. Well said.
Couldn’t date the types you mentioned because ones politics stem from their internal values.
My values place me a great opposition to the abortionist, atheist, woke folk, SJW’s and feminists. What these types value I generally do not. Therefore, what concord could there be between me and someone who holds those views? Our values would be polar opposite. Therefore our opinions on not only politics but most things in life would likely be opposite. That doesn’t make any type of relationship possible.
@Exterminatore Exactly! Well said, mate.