My boyfriend of 3-4 years told me his domestic relations n that money is none of my business?

[Anonymous]

The kicker is he doesn’t see this kid at all Wasn’t with the girl when she got pregnant He didn’t go to hospital n sign anything no birth certificate no paternity How is it none of my business especially when we have a baby and live together. Shouldn’t I know what’s going on or be able to give my opinion. Him saying it is none of my business hurt and I think he is in the wrong He was to get paternity paper work sent and it’s been few weeks n didn’t get papers so I thought he should call n ask them send them again he would rather wait til he goes up n see his po sometime this month but don’t know when yet to go get the papers from domestics. He has to continue to pay u til he get them results. Why would you willingly pay for a child you don’t know is yours. I’ve tried to tell him bout it when she first took him but now I guess I don’t need to know any of it. So how u gonn be together n try pay bills but not know his financial shit he said I didn’t ask u for money or didn’t not have it when u ask yeah cause u had Christmas bonus on ur check this time. Either way I think I have a right to know and voice my opinion or I don’t see how we gonna make forever work

[Guy13]

You are not going to be able to change or fix him. Perhaps there is something more going on there? Why do you feel it necessary to clean-up or organize his life?

[Asker]

I was trying to help him but guess that made me in the wrong

[Guy13]

He thinks you are trying to organize and change his past. His past is his and the Present is yours. These are separate things. I’m sure there is much more to it than you know…..

[surebruh]

It is your business entirely as his life partner and baby mom. He is irresponsible or hiding something. Unfortunately, other than discussing it with him there isn't much you can do to remedy the situation as he has to play his part.
Separately, he doesn't sound too intelligent if he is paying for another child in the context you describe (not with baby mom , not on birth certificate)

[Iron_Man]

Well you have the right to find out as his girlfriend?

[Asker]

And we live together how we supposed to pay bills or think bout long term goals

[Iron_Man]

Well, he has to pay for a child that he has

[Asker]

I agree but he needs to fill paper work out to do paternity n can’t call n say hey I never received the papers no he will keep paying her til he decides to do it. Well I WOULD FIND OUT IF IT WAS MY KID FIRST

[Iron_Man]

Yes they need to take the test

[Pterodon]

Why are you with such a jerk?

[Asker]

I guess that’s what I’m trying to figure out why would he tell me that just cause he feels like I’m telling him what to do or something

[boobliker]

dump him at once