Do you mind if your potential date has had many lovers?

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JamesDiaz11 · Accepted Answer

Yea, I mind, and I'd think most guys do to a degree. For some they wouldn't even bother with a girl outside of the double digits, others have their mind set on a virgin, but on the opposite side of the spectrum are guys who seemingly wouldn't care until the number is significant (over 20, or for some over 100) or when the details of who she'd been with are released. It's one thing to not let a "number" bother you, but thinking of multiple men shoving their penis up inside your future girlfriend/ wife would probably bother most guys.

From my own experience, I wouldn't date a girl who has had over 5 "lovers." I don't care if they're long term boyfriends, one night stands, or if it was just a single gangbang where she went from 0 to 20. I find the thought repulsive, and as someone who is competitive it's exhausting competing with dozens of hypothetical guys- it tears at a guys mind, invoking retroactive jealousy, and ultimately this lashes out at the girl.

Part of this is a morality thing, as I believe women who are moral and have good values don't sleep around, so I categorically would disqualify women who I do not view as moral (based on their body count). The other part of the thing is that I actually want to think I'm special to the girl, not just the guy she decided to settle down with after riding the c0ck carousel.

Avicenna · Accepted Answer

Depends how many and to some extent how old she is. If she's 50 and has never been in a long-term relationship, she probably has some issue or issues that make her undesirable from my perspective.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

In general it's not a problem. But there are exceptions. Regardless of what some quacks say, nymphomania is real. I've met a few. They lost everything. One lost her husband, kids and family. She's a smart and nice person, but she has an illness.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

Yes, I would mind! I would always have that in the back of my mind. I would think he's a player. I don't want to play any games!

DaveJord · Answer

Nope, so have I... just means she's a good lover. As long as she's had them. one at a time! 😊

Summeroflove · Answer

Depends. Sexual ones yeah. Romantic ones? Yeah I guess it matters but not as much.  If she’s a Christian and isn’t any longer like that. Yeah

AviatorTom · Answer

At my age, I would be surprised if she didn't.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Yes, and no. I feel like i’m more discerning than most boners. In which case, experienced lovers are superior. But quality over quantity is important. If a woman is just banging dudes cuz she’s bored, lonely and indiscriminate, ‘no, thanks!’. Ell oh ell! A virgin with a strong desire to please her lover would be greatly preferable to that.

rudedevon · Answer

No issue if she's honest about it. I don't like how some women hide their past. I had a girlfriend I was with for three years, who pretended she was fairly tame. A guy I vaguely knew told me he'd gangbanged her years before. If I'd known I could have brushed him off, but the shock was not nice.

ShellyB · Answer

It would not bother me if there was little or no drama with them and if some time had passed and he didn't have any diseases, my only concerns would be if somebody shows up drunk at 3am banging on the door or stuff like that.

exitseven · Answer

I think if she had relationships with guys she loved I would be okay with it. Maybe not if they were random hookups, one night stands or drunken encounters.

Finchie40 · Answer

It definitely can be a red flag that they aren’t capable of removing selfishness , if someone canMt remove selfishness for their partner they aren’t going to be able to remove selfishness for you

lightbulb27 · Answer

I'd "mind" that as important information, possibly a sign of trouble and thus work. In general, I don't go for that "energy".

DizzyDesii · Answer

Yea. I dont want a former hoe that was for the streets. I dont care if he had a lot of exes but i do care if he had sex with each

letuswaltzforthedead · Answer

Yes, I wouldn't date a guy with a series of relationships behind him or a high body count. That does depends on his age though.

Fireguy17 · Answer

No, not at all. I've learned over the years don't ask unless you really want to know, and you might not like the answer.

Berethor · Answer

Yea, I don't want to date a ho, I prefer a girl with a clean past, not dirty past.

LazerBean · Answer

Of course, I'm not interested in taking a turn with anyone.

Andres77 · Answer

It depends on why and how long ago. but I’ve had many girlfriend with high lists of lovers.

Iron_Man · Answer

No, I don’t like that that’s like having dinner out at a nice restaurant and 10 people have eaten off of your plate have tried it then the waiter serves it to you

Gabriel-Chicanito · Answer

Not at all.. My last girlfriend wouldn't stop callin' me, e/day & night fer months! (And She was a whore) The reason, I dumped'er cause We got in a fight! I Don't need a Virgin t' make me feel like a Man; like most pussies.

I like Ho'ees..

Gent207-2 · Answer

Define many lovers Are we talking FWBs, stranger hook-ups or serious relationships that ended?

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

Nope. It is all her business. She will setup a new shop with me. Without any scrapes though, hopefully.

TheorionMage · Answer

Never expected to be her FIRST... just doing my best to be her CURRENT, LAST and ONLY since! Got to know 'when' to get off the merry-go-round--- ;)

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

Nope... I'm not that insecure.. Wait, I am.. They have to be as green as me lol

Anonymous · Answer

No, I wouldn't mind if he even had a wife lol

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Depends on whether he believes in what happened in Vegas stays I'm Vegas or sharing is caring.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Yeah eww. Nasty. No hymen no diamond. Suggested serious dating no more than 3. If you must, no more than 10. Sorry but there's a hard limit at that point for sure and I'd personally not even be with a girl approaching that in general.

maximumpower · Answer

Does it matter? If it does, then he/she isn't the one for you.

slatyb · Answer

I would not. I would be happy to have a partner who was enthusiastically sexual.

Quidthonian · Answer

I would be concerned about it; however, her experience could be useful. I would be wary of her using me to increment her body count.

Anonymous · Answer

Not ideal but.. How clean is she physically? How broken is she mentally? How wifely is her demeanor?

Camson22 · Answer

No as long as they dont have lovers while were dating.

musicbrain5 · Answer

Yes I would mind. I don’t want a manwhore.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

I assume she's a slut from day one because every girl is or was

Tellme · Answer

No, I don’t mind it at all.

EaterPeter · Answer

Yes. In a good way. Though would she be honest?

Nikki1989 · Answer

That is none of my business.

Jennz6 · Answer

I don’t think it’s any of his business 💃

SphynxUK · Answer

No, doesn’t make a difference to me.

BJP21 · Answer

Before they met you? As in body count?

INFJTaurusSun · Answer

It is called cheating?

es20490446e · Answer

Why did they had so many lovers?

LiamJHayden · Answer

How would I know?

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah i mind it means she's a whore

msc545 · Answer

I don't mind - I have too.

jimmy2 · Answer

As long as clean otherwise it's experience

QuietRunner · Answer

not at all I like experienced women

panamared1 · Answer

I don't care

SlavicThor · Answer

I do yeah

Alex8736 · Answer

present tense?

Anonymous · Answer

Yes.

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