How do you feel when your boyfriend/girlfriend talks about their ex's with you?

[Anonymous]

Does it bother you when your boyfriend/girlfriend brings up their ex during conversations with you? They mention things they use to do together or things their ex was good at. Would these types of conversations bother you or would you be ok with it? Should conversations about ex's be off limits or is it good to have some conversations about ex's?

[Finchie40]

It’s disrespectful if they mention them a lot and talk about them like they were this amazing person like the only memories they have is with their ex , it just shows that person’s true character that they have insecurities , that they are comparing you to their ex especially if it’s stories they already mentioned to you before , like they are trying to get a rise out of you to make you jealous , Don’t get jealous and realize they are the one that is insecure , cuz if their ex was so great they wouldn’t be their ex period , probably the reason their ex left them in the first place. When a girl talks to me about her ex a lot I straight out tell her I can see why your ex left you , and she will be like what? All confused , Why do you say that? And I will say because you probably talked about your ex to him a lot , it’s disrespectful and shows you are an insecure person so i can see why he went to that next girl in line , cuz you are holding on to something that isn’t there anymore , so you are best to go apologize to your ex and see if he will take you back , cuz I am going to go pursue the next girl in line that doesn’t talk highly of her ex to me so Good luck with that and hope it works out for you and I will walk away. She will usually come chasing me and apologizing for her actions once she realizes how pathetic she sounds , and get on her knees and start sucking my cock , it usually works , Girl’s just like to try to make their men jealous because she is insecure and she likes to get a rise out of him, For some dumb reason it turns her on , Girls love the masculine energy we can give off when we act like we don’t give a fuck , Now if you are a guy and get super jealous of her talking about her ex she will be turned off that you can’t handle her insecurities and she will probably go back to her ex and fuck him but if he is smart he wouldn’t fuck her , I never take an ex back period , and I had plenty of ex girlfriends showing up on my doorstep because they ended up with guys that were weak , something to think about guys , never let a girl make you feel weak always make her feel you will be fine without her because that shit turns her on

[ShadezMcgee]

Why the hell would you want to be in a relationship with someone who constantly brings up their ex? Miss me with that shit. They aren't over them if they don't stop talking about them. Not worth the emotional toll or time. Cut sling load and find someone who won't do that.

[TrueConfection]

I think it's poor etiquette at best. My husband has an ex and he still mentions her from time to time. I finally mentioned my high school boyfriend regarding a cool car he drove. The look on my husband's face was priceless, but it didn't stop him the next time he needed to mention his ex.

I realize that time spent with a person is part of one's life and I'm glad he shares his past. There are ways to say, "I went there once," rather than, "My ex and I ate there," or, "My ex and I stayed there."

I think we should leave the past in the past. That's just my opinion.

[Smc08]

I think at some point in your relationship it’s good to be open about the past. It depends tho on how often it gets brought up. Or how the person feels when they share that information. Are they saying it to compare there ex to you or are they telling you because they want you to do some of the same things? It all depends on the reason of why it’s being talked about.

[Apple1996]

Luckily my husband never dated anyone before me. I think it would have bothered me a lot hearing about a ex

[Emogirl999]

I am curious about my boyfriend's past but I am quite insecure so I prefer not to ask about it and I prefer that he doesn't bring it up because I know I won't handle some things very well. Some things are better left in the past and some things are better not knowing about.

[TacosRAwesome]

If it's something along the lines of "oh yeah I went there with my ex once" then I don't mind. But my most recent ex needed to mention his exes all the damn time and he wonders why I was pissed all the time. Unfortunately I didn't have competitors of equal value.

[TrillXHippy]

Me on the outside

Me on the inside

[Asker]

lol this was a good representation lol

[sage2021]

It's also the way they infer to her. My boyfriend talks about his wife that passes away, but he still calls her "My wife" ... when he refers to her. That would bug me.
Finally I got him to refer to her as "My then wife".

[Apple_Cider]

I know what you're talking about. I've never heard them say "my wife", but they always say "we."
Sage: Have you ever been to the Red Lobster?
Steve: We only went there a few times.

They don't do it intentionally, it's just that it takes a long time for it to sink in that there is no "we" anymore.

[melanieeeB]

If he is just talking about her cause a story came up and she was part of it or like overall casually without hating her - I don't care, I like those talks

If he is only talking about her and it seems like he isn't over her - nope, not good

[Anonymous]

I've learned that you shouldn't talk about exes in thus aspect. Current relationship, when he talks about his ex it makes me feel she was rhe one that got away. She dumped him and he was really heartbroken about it and they are friends.

[Dv_bell]

It's no good. Don't do that.
If my boyfrriend ever talk about his ex, I would definitely leave him.
He doesn't deserve the relationship.

[Zbrody1997]

I feel devalued and consider it a red flag if it happens to often I’m not your ex and the need to compare sickens me

[jorfan3]

I make fun of his exwife so much, it's bad XD

[libsaretards]

Depends on stage of your relationship, context ex is mentioned and the tone/facial expression when ex is discussed.

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[Orion76]

This is one of the worst things ever, very insensitive and inappropriate in my book.

[AimeeKyle]

No issues…. it can be some pretty fun conversations….. and excellent ways to learn more about your girlfriend.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Kinda like this

[panerabricks]

I feel disgusted. Let's stay in the present/.

[dustybiker]

Depends on the context.

[Iron_Man]

She doesn’t have an X

[JustCantSleep]

I usually Try to not fk up like he did

[JaydenKays]

I feel like they are been disrespectful to me