Have you ever met somebody who was not particularly attractive but became more attractive once you notice how nice they were?

Question

Can you get better looking to somebody if they begin to like you?

Rockstarrrrr · Accepted Answer

Never happened to me... It's either I find a girl attractive at first time meeting her or not.. And I'm not talking about looks alone but everything... I think when people start finding someone attractive over the time just because they've been really nice to them and they get along well, that can be deceiving... They're not actually your type... You're just too lonely or too insecure or you had really bad experience so you just kinda play it safe or settling... But deep down you don't really like them... You don't have the hots for them... But more like you want yourself to like them...

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

When I first met the woman that became my wife, neither one of us thought the other was vey attractive. That changed over time and we had 20+ years of marriage before an amicable divorce.

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

I've seen this question come up several times and definitely.

I've had personal experience with it, both directions. There was a guy in college who was super hansom and hot but after getting to know him, going on a couple dates, he had such a poor attitude and personality, he started to look ugly to me.

Then on the other hand there was this guy who wasn't anything special, looked pretty boring and average but after I got to know him, he started to look really attractive to me after a few months. He had a great personality and was a awesome guy.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

There was a guy that I thought was plain as paper and when I learned he was intelligent, I began to view him as extremely facially and physically attractive. He turned me down but I think he may have been interested in one of my classmates cause she was one of the few females he had on his friend’s list and she was so pretty, people would try to be friends with her, just for her looks.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I dated a woman to whom I was extremely attracted. We dated for 2 years - 2015-2017 - and I finally broke up with her because she seemed to be commitment phobic. Now, I see her pictures on FB and I am not attracted at all; in fact, I look at those pictures and ask myself, "OlderAndWiser, what in the fuck were you thinking?"

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Yep both my husbands lol

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Had it the other way around. When he met me, he didn't like me and was not comfortable in some ways because he's not familiar with my features. He was into his fifth grade teacher who was blond (I think) and that was his idea of what he was looking for all his life. He was never exposed to Asians. Since we kinda got "hooked up" by gag... we had to spent time together after I broke my foot. He resisted me for a few years. We fought till our heads bleed so to speak... regarding various issues.

He now wonders where I'm from with this personality he has never encountered and surprised to see my inner beauty, kindness, easy going, smart about certain things, how I interact with my big family, friends and strangers, he realized he had a huge void in his life that he never exposed to this kind of woman and what he has missed all his life. Perhaps, he finally grew up and seeing that there is a whole new world outside of his previous circle. Some gag friends who know my story are still surprised we ended up being happily together.

In terms of me, I don't judge a book by its cover. I like to engage with people, I would go out of my way to get to know them, meet them, talk to them to understand who they are. It's the heart that counts.

sage2021 · Answer

This did happen to me once. It was with this newly divorced guy that lived directly across the street from me. I wasn't very physically attracted to him, but his personality was so great it made him very attractive to me. He was one the nicest guys I've ever known. He used to help me fix my car that used to break down all of the time. One day on a hot summer's day he came to my work and installed a brand new radiator in the parking lot. It took him hours!
What a guy!!!

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Almost everyone. I’m not exactly sure why i learned to hate beautiful people so early in life, but i did and i do. You’re better off in my space being a convicted felon than just being beautiful and having done nothing wrong. Ell oh ell! It’s rarely failed me though. So despite my being more than a little hypocritical, i have found no reason to change.
Drax is the first character to give me pause.

https://youtu.be/gO_lFNbE4hk

He’s probably not wrong. I’m just a dick.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Being nice but not having a cute face can get you as far as the friendzone

dustybiker · Answer

No. I don’t judge people like that. It’s the way people treat others that always stands out to me. That is their true self. And it shows from the get go.

Biancam13 · Answer

Yes, but only to an extent. I've had guys who were only fairly attractive to me become very attractive once I got to like their personality, or they charmed me into liking them.

But those guys were already kinda attractive to me already. I don't tend to change my mind if I'm not attracted to them at all.

4ngelic · Answer

yea had that happen before. it's actually a science thing by the way like when you like someone in general they get better looking, and the more you like them the more extreme it will get. same goes in reverse, if you dont like someone they'll look worse

AmyHew1tt · Answer

I think that's pretty normal. It's never happened to me in real life because I don't know many people, but it has happened with a movie character. In fact, I was involved in the fandom and pretty much the entire fanbase had the same thing happen. They started out thinking he was kind of meh. Not ugly, but not that attractive. By the end of the season, there was literal swooning. He was just SUCH a wonderful guy.

HighValue · Answer

There has to be at least some attraction to begin with (minimum of a 5 +) but based on their actions and personality there can become more attractive.

Anemone978 · Answer

Yes this has defiantly happened to me a couple times... but if they are truly ugly to you they never grow better looking lol

TrueConfection · Answer

Absolutely! This has happened to me more than once.

Anonymous · Answer

No. But apparently that happened to this woman I used to work with. One day she came up to me and said "I didn't use to find you attractive till I got to know you". To which I responded "I didn't used to find you attractive either... and I still don't". 😆😆😆

I think in her mind she thought she was complimenting me. 😆😆😆

NathanDavis · Answer

not exactly, no... I do not mix attractiveness with being likeable the more I know someone, the more I might like them yes... but not necessarily will be more attracted to them

Flower7 · Answer

I don’t think I’ve experienced that, but there’s definitely been lots of people that became uglier as I got to know them better. Because their personality was ugly.

Sparkie460 · Answer

Yes quite a few times. Their personality makes them more attractive.

DarkCarousel · Answer

Yes, absolutely— especially when they’re funny.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Yes, good personality can instantly make someone more attractive.

bannacookies · Answer

Yes, that's happened. Good personalities are attractive.

Msputiton · Answer

Yes definitely

Fuentes · Answer

It happens but do I pursue this NO you know why, cause MONEY is nicer. 💵💰🎒

msc545 · Answer

Yes I have. It's a very odd experience.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I have, personality means a lot.

Blackcupcake · Answer

yes, a couple of times

slatyb · Answer

Often.

es20490446e · Answer

Of course.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Yes.

LavLavLuv · Answer

Of course🙂

Pterodon · Answer

Of course

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