Has someone ever become more attractive looking to you after you get to know more about them?

Question

We all have eyes and can instantly see someone and judge how they look. But have you ever met someone and gotten an initial impression of their attraction and then they became more attractive over time? Do you know why if it happened?

Lliam · Accepted Answer

Yes.

There was a lady who worked at a place I had to frequent for my job. She was short and cute, but she wore weird, old lady clothes. She thought they were professional.

I asked her out one day and she accepted. As it turned out, we got along great and continued dating. Once we became an exclusive couple, I discovered that, under that clothing, her body was exquisite. She was actually my physical ideal from hair, eyes, skin, height and measurements. And she was hypersexual and orgasmic. We lived together for over a year.

So I was quite surprised when I got to know her.

It was different with my wife. We connected on a pre-internet dating service and arranged to meet at a restaurant.

When I first saw her, she didn't fit my imagined physical ideal. She was really pretty and had a really nice figure, but she was taller and her hair and eyes weren't what I had expected.

But when we sat down, we totally connected. Time flew by as we chatted, and we wound up closing down the restaurant. Then I walked her to the parking lot where we continued to chat.

I went from having a luke warm visual impression to thinking she was amazing.

After one more date, we started seeing each other exclusively and got married two years later.

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

definitely, yes...

when I think about it... first I would see a person that is obviously attractive, but I don't know them, and most of the time I not interacting or engaging with them, I just can see they're good looking

but, as I get to know them and know more about them and they do so with me... certain things start to emerge, they get more comfortable, they open up... now they are laughing, smiling more, you see them happier, having fun and perhaps very interested on you as well so I think that yes, it is natural then, to find them much more attractive than the already good impressions

and then there's that "psychological factor" in which, if you get along with someone and they have great attitudes, personalities and stuff that will just add up and enhance their appeal some more... or maybe not, maybe they don't have the best attitude, lack a personality or you just find them to be awful people so you start to feel a certain "turn off" or it will cost you a lot more to appreciate their good looks and attractiveness because the "bad taste" of their off putting personalities are still, always there... lol

Changiis07 · Accepted Answer

Yes it's happened and it's currently happening to me. I was never actually attracted to them but it was their actions that made them attractive in a way. The fact that actions speak louder than words. The fact that they call, and sound like they always wanted to get to know me on a deeper level

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

Yes and the opposite too. They’re attractive in the beginning and then the more you know them, the less attractive they get…

Ga-girl · Answer

I don't know of attracted to is the right word in my situation. When meeting someone new I like to figure out if they would add value to my life is in a friend who could support you

Celeste951 · Answer

Yes definitely! It kind of happened that way with my ex, I wasn’t initially attracted to him but the more I got to know him I saw him in a better light

Middleman · Answer

Yes it happened to me before also. My date looked rather unflattering in the photo but way better and more attractive after I met her in person.

HaveNoName · Answer

It is not that suddenly you start finding them visually attractive. Its just that the mental and emotional connection starts making everything else secondary.

THIS is the reason all those questios about physical preferences on GAG are actually so meaningless.

melanieeeB · Answer

Yeah but I already found him attractive in the first place and after getting to know him, the already existing attractiveness towards him grew way bigger

Ps: Please folks don't stay in friendzones, hoping they might change their mind

IveGotNoName · Answer

Isn't that what feelings does to a person naturally?

When I met my current boyfriend, he didn't really stand out to me. Since we had mutual friends, we knew one another for about one year, before we had any actual conversations with each other. Now, 3.5 years into our relationship, he is the most attractive guy I've ever seen, and I find it weird that I never saw it that first year we knew each other.

Literalbillionaire17 · Answer

Yes. I think it has a lot to do with getting to know them rlly.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Yeah! That's how it was with the sexiest woman I've ever met. I found her extremely average looking when we first met, but then I spent some time with her and started to fall for her personality.

Oliviaarkansas · Answer

OMG yes for sure. and toher way too. u think someone is hot but then after knwoign them ur confused if ur friend says they are. hot lol cause you know they just are a bad human

DizzyDesii · Answer

Not their overall face but certain features like the lips or smile became more appealing. Still didn't wanna look at the for long

Ezra_lila · Answer

yes, its actually normal. Having attraction at first and when you came to know more about that person the next stage is desire and love. Just my point of view.

Zolly99999 · Answer

Omg absolutely!!!

A personality will make or break a person.. I found people less attractive after getting to know them. It works both ways.

Fwiw girls tell me this all the time.. they find me more attractive after they get to know me.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

Yes. But its more I start to notice certain features. There overall attraction level dosen't really change its more " I never realized she had such beautiful eyes" or something of the such. So I more than likely still not attracted to them just that certain features begin to stand out the more I get to know them.

devilish-cutie · Answer

yeah but not a lot, not to the point id want to date them, im not that type i usually feel attraction pretty fast or not at all

AsaKyo · Answer

Why yes, of course  I think it's because that's when the person matters, not the looks when you take time to get to know them

HighValue · Answer

Yeah. They need to be at least somewhat attractive to begin with. A 5 or more. But if I get to know her and I like her personality it can affect how physically attractive she is to me eventually by a couple points.

Dinklex3 · Answer

All the time. The more I like them the more attractive they look. Total gaga eyes.

Berethor · Answer

Usually it the opposite, when I find out that the girl is slutty.

linka_pat307 · Answer

It has ever (I think because as we get to know them, we realize how good they are and hence liking them on physical appearance too

jgirl99 · Answer

oh 100% yes, attraction for me is physical but also builds emotionally over time

Staximus · Answer

Yes, people can grow on you. Also most women only are attracted to me after they get to know me, which makes things more difficult

annabananna · Answer

Yes, if I love a persons personality they become more attractive over time.

Ill_made_Knight · Answer

Sure... a lot of it has to do with how they treat others. Says a lot about a person. And of course that can go the other way as well.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, 100%. I've also found the opposite to be true as well. At least for me

zagor · Answer

Yes. Their mannerisms and personality are very important in overall image.

Kabluie · Answer

Always. I can definitely count on two hands people whom I've done a 180 with after knowing them more.

BrownSugar00 · Answer

Yes. That has happened to me before.

genericname85 · Answer

someone has gotten more attractive looking to me once i saw them naked xD

Anonymous · Answer

Yes but it’s not a huge increase in attraction. It’s a level up though.  This is usually more of a phenomenon with women.

lexysax · Answer

Definitely has happened to me.

Idkwtfimdoing96 · Answer

happens every time

Anonymous · Answer

Everyone has said... YES!

Brandi555 · Answer

Absolutely.

sheikalana · Answer

Many times.

maximumpower · Answer

Oh yes.

goodgirlsteven · Answer

Always

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