Well, I think he gave you the answer to your question. Whatever benefit he did get from the relationship isn't enough to put up with all the hassle he seems to think you are causing him.
Now I am not getting into all semantics of if you think you are doing what he seems to think it is. But was married 22 years, and around about year 15 I was feed up with my ex-wife's complaints, picking at, and over all seemingly endless wants and needs... she refused to be satisfied or just in general happy in life. No matter what it was I did, she never was satisfied happy or grateful and she seemed to develop this since of entitlement as if I continuously owed her more and more.
So, now she is my ex-wife and honestly, I have never been happier. If you truly think you have a good man, then you need to treat him how he feels he deserves to be treated. If you think you are not getting what you deserve or need then you need to do what whatever it is, you feel you need to do. But if you want this man, then listen to what he is saying and take it to heart.
Because in my situation, in the end... my ex-wife thought she deserved better from me, but she failed to realize that whatever she thought her value was... it was too high of price for me to want to pay. Bottom line being she was not worth it, to me. She was not willing to make changes, compromise, or value what my needs and wants were. So, she put more value on herself then on me, and she was not anywhere worth what she thought she was worth.
Since then, I have done so much better for myself and my quality of life has increased 10-fold without her, and I have no idea how life after me is for her... but I don't even care.
So, listen to my story, because you man might be telling you the same things, but you may not be listening to him. Love is not forever; it requires lots of work and effort and you have to be willing to make sacrifices.
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It sounds like he is taking a passive aggressive approach to tell you that you aren't being fun to be around. You aren't being easy going and pleasant but it sounds like you complain all the time, you always nag and are in a bad mood and you don't have a fun side with him anymore.
His friends are fun and easy going and make him laugh. You probably did too at one point but apparently that side of you went away or you share that side with your friends and give him the endless critical, naggy, miserable side.
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I have been there too. Sometimes the woman is too much…before and after sex is nonstop with emotion, critiquing, and nagging.
Chilling 😎 with the guys is more relaxing…hm, he sounds terrible. you should leave his ass and find a better man. or communicate your feelings with him, try and make things work out.
Well I suppose there's a possibility he said that because you have been together for 9 years and you still haven't gotten married it seems kind of strange so perhaps he doesn't see the relationship going anywhere
Because he wanted you to know that you don't hang out much anymore due to him not getting any benefit from it
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