How to take things easily when I miss him even when we're still together?

[Anonymous]

I'm e-dating a guy for the last 6 months. I just have him as a best friend at this point in my life. But we're not together. We will never meet even. Also we're from different country and different religion. I don't know how it's going to work. But sometimes I feel like my heart is tearing apart when I think that we will split up one day. sometimes we discuss it and we cry. I miss him even if we're 2000 kms away. This is making me go crazy when I think about it. I can't stay sane if I don't talk to him for a day even. I don't know what I will do without him. Please someone tell me what to do.

[SueShe]

You are talking about kilometers and thus, I presume that you are in Europe. Since you have different religions, I again presume that you are Christian and that he is Muslim (or the other way round).

Wherever you are from and if he is the Muslim, then you may have to face the fact that if you get together, he will want you to convert to his religion and that is where the problems will start.

I fear that religion will be the one factor that will be in your way in the future. Also, you never met and that is another major issue. You can never know a person well enough if you don't meet face-to-face because it is much easier to hide who you really are when you only text or have a video call.

I don't recommend you make hasty decision solely on the base of you knowing him only through texting and video calls.

You can try to meet in a neutral place outside your respective countries and see how things develop from there but realize that it is difficult to really know a person well enough after just 6 months.

[ElyaM]

Muslim men can marry christian & jew women without them converting. Actually prophet muhammed was married to coptic mary… i know this from my muslim friends so spreading misinformation is useless, only the kids have to be raised as muslims

[Anonymous]

Why can’t you be with him somedays?
If it’s because of different religions than that’s not a valid reason because you are easily connecting with him right? Even though he is a different religion so you can follow your religion him his religion
If you don’t have money you both can save up
Also we are in 2023 stop making things seem impossible !! If he likes you and you like him then FIND A WAY you guys be together in the future
But if you worry again bc of your parents or religion then I’m sorry you are very close minded and have to change your mindset first before finding love

[TheVigilantFox]

I think you and him need to talk about this, 1200 miles away is some distance, you could maybe meet halfway?


What has religion got to do with anything? Unless of course he’s Muslim which is not going to work as they have very different and somewhat strange beliefs, he will want you to convert to Islam which you never want to do that as it’s not a good thing to get mingled up with.

The only thing you can do is either put up with life how it is or maybe get a real person to date?


But talk to him and tell him how you feel that’s all you can do really.


Have you ever even seen him? Like in photos or a video?

[ElyaM]

Again I don't know where y’all are getting ur misinformation from muslim men can marry christians & jews without them converting & in fact prophet muhammed was married to a christian woman mary the coptic lmao… only the kids have to be raised as muslim but his wife doesn’t have to convert, you are all spreading misinformation so confidently & calling their beliefs weird when you don’t even know what their beliefs are

[TheVigilantFox]

I know because my brother married a Muslim woman before he died he had to convert to Islam I’d he couldn’t marry her, and Muslim beliefs are weird and borderline insane.

[Asker]

yes. we always do facetime.

[Guy13]

Different worldview can make things complicated. Even with family which is very important. Sounds like you are in a difficult circumstance

[Anonymous]

Enjoy the present and time will tell.

I lived something similar, a guy and I met online when we were 13, we kept contact till we were 20. We always liked each other, we are very similar, spent a lot of time together, we basically grew together but very far from each other, he's in another country way too far. We started sort of dating at 19, like seriously and being romantic, it was nice, but it's just painful to be so far, at some point unbearable as you say. He started distancing trying to detach a bit, that made me sad and angry so I started ignoring him when he came back to say sorry. I cried a lot, but the best was to just stop, we talked about it and so we did.

[Anonymous]

This is your way of avoiding having to deal with a REAL relationship. You know this will never work. You build yourself up into a frenzy... "I can't stay sane if I don't talk to him for even a day". Bullshit. This is all nothing but fantasy, and the longer you feed it, the more difficult it will be to have a real relationship.

It's got no future, none at all. Give up on the charade and find someone you can build a life with. All this is doing is wasting your time and energy. What will you DO without him - you'll wake up.

[Anonymous]

Humbug

If it is meant to be, it will be. I am dating someone I've known for nearly 11 years. For the first 10, no matter how much I wanted to be with her, no matter how much chemistry she admitted to there being, she outright refused.

After 10 years of being just friends, we finally had a real conversation about it because of a comment. She had outright refused for a decade because she was afraid of not being good enough, that we would have a fight, and never speak again. I explained that our relationship status had 0 bearing on how we felt about each other and therefore on whether that fight would ever happen.

We've gone out twice starting New Years Day and we talk each other to sleep every night now. While we aren't exclusive (yet) we are the happiest we've ever been.

My point is simply, time is a human construct, fate rarely abides by it. If you want it to be, and it is meant to be, then even if it takes 10 years, you will make it so.

[menina]

I've been there, so I know how you feel. Perhaps you should find a way of meeting him. Or you can keep talking to him and see how things go. Just don't have high expectations, because you might end up hurting yourself.

[Anonymous]

This is what's called "puppy love".

It's just infatuation, not real love. It's impossible to be real love because neither of you have met in person and it's very easy to pretend to be someone you are not in texting.

You "love" the attention that he is giving you. By responding to your messages, etc.

[Anonymous]

Why did you ever call this dating? You convinced yourself to believe a lie and now you are payng the price.

[Asker]

I don't know what to do at this point. seems like he's more mature than me. and he's taking things lightly.

[Opinion Owner]

Best thing to do is to stop all communications wth him. How else will you ever resolve your feelings enough to move forward wth someone else?

[MaryLeee]

Emotions are the most complicated things in this world. My point is that if you like it. Take a gamble then.

[Iron_Man]

Make a plan to me what religions are you both?

[Asker]

I'm Muslim. He's Hindu

[ilikesnow]

Ask him if he feels the same way. If he does, then you could try to meet up (if it is possible) then get to know each other irl.

[Anonymous]

Have you discussed this with him? Maybe you can make a plan and raise money for a trip abroad

[Asker]

I discussed this with him. that I'm finding it complicated. but i love him and miss him everyday. he is consoling me. and ask me to calm down

[KrakenAttackin]

"E-dating"... Unbelievable. Your generation self-inflicts almost all of your problems.

[ElyaM]

The ignorant islamophobes are insane not to mention she never once mentioned that he or she are muslims lmao

[Anonymous]

if you will never meet, what's the point?

[NachtjaegerSS]

I stopped reading at "E-dating".

[Danny_dan92]

By calming down