Would you get a little bit upset if your ex got engaged?

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I am but at the same time it didn't work out for a reason. It just kinda sucks when you thought you were the one for the longest time and suddenly you weren't. I want him to be happy but it hurts a bit.

Qdbrown · Accepted Answer

These kinds of questions are very telling. You thought you were the better person. You figured no one else could see any value in your Ex, much less marry them? And now you realize that he was marriage-grade, and you somehow missed it.

Here the sad reality. There are girls a guy will date, love and will hang around, but will never marry. Then a month later they can find the marriage-grade girl and get married. Maybe it's a great, maybe it's not.

The biggest takeaway is that now you know he was not your one, and it's time to go find yours, by just being you, and not find self value by getting married. To do so, would be a mistake, and a small prize to make yourself seem valuable in your own mind.

Its best to shut the door on that realtionship and go be the best person you can be for your future relationship.

JamesDiaz11 · Accepted Answer

Absolutely it hurts, and I'd get upset. Since I know my ex and I aren't getting back together I figure it's only a matter of time before this happens (not that I keep up with her on social media).

It's extremely likely that I'll get engaged before her tho, so she'll have to deal with that first.

When you love someone that doesn't just go away, even if you hate them. When your partner gets with someone else, and eventually commits to them it's going to cause a reaction because you're still bonded to them.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It took me 3 years to move on from my ex. I only let go when he was with someone new

I was heartbroken at first. It cut me to the core when I found out he loved another woman and I meant nothing to him anymore

For 3 years I clung to false hope. I hoped he thought about me and missed me. I really thought we'd get back together one day. But reality set in when I found out he was in a happy and loving relationship with someone else

So even though it breaks your heart now, you will finally accept it and the pain will lessen. But for now just live in the moment and break down if you need to. Its all part of grieving what couldn't been

Vesuvius87 · Accepted Answer

With my first ex boyfriend, I wouldn't even know if it's engaged or not. My family and I have blocked him on all pages. In order for me to know he would have to send me a message and picture from another username or someone else's computer. In that case I would block him again.

With my 2nd ex boyfriend, he wasn't that great anyway. I don't care about his life.

Someone being your ex means they're not in your life anymore and you were never the love of their life. They can both take a hike.

AviatorTom · Answer

Not at all. My ex-wife did get engaged... and remarried. I'm happy for her.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Upset is not the word. Its already happened for one and all i could think is wow does that girl know what she's about to marry? Clearly she must have because they broke off that engagement the same year 🤣 The only ones that would hurt would be the guys who say stuff like “i never want to marry” yet they propose to someone else. NOw that would suck

2ndCenturyWarlord · Answer

Once, but not anymore.

At a certain point in life I was absolutely devastated by a failed relationship. During that time, all the romantic suffering I had in me was exhausted. Now whenever it happens, it's a mild curiosity and occasionally, amusement.

Anonymous · Answer

The former girlfriend from my past who I enjoyed the most, we split up for just "distance" reasons and she wanted kids and I didn't. For a few years I would have been a little upset if I found out that she got engaged. But after that I did find out that she got married several years after she and I dated. At that point I was OK with it. I don't think we would have been compatible in the long run anyway.

catiecatie · Answer

Depends on how long ago the breakup was. Plus I wouldn’t care about my last ex. He got a girl pregnant about four months after we stopped talking. What would be upsetting would be my crush if he got engaged.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I think that would be the initial-shock reaction, but then I would come around and realize, I wouldn't want her to go through life alone, just bc we didn't work out.

Fireguy17 · Answer

no, not at all, hence the ex-part.
I always hope that things turn out well for them, but once I'm gone, I move on.
I know my ex-wife remarried and divorced after we broke up, he was not a great person, he got really lazy as time past.

KittyKat90210 · Answer

I wouldn't be upset unless I wasn't the one who ended it and still had feelings for him. In general I don't think I'd be upset though

electromagnetic · Answer

Not in the slightest bit. They’re an ex for a reason. Congratulations to them.  Ask yourself why it hurts? Why is he an ex? Those are factors.

chicosuave · Answer

i dont know if they even exists but even if i did know i would not. My feelings have dissipated for them. i see them as complete strangers.

es20490446e · Answer

When I got these knew I knew they were into a bullshit relationship, as they entered marriage only a year after meeting each other. And I got that right, they recently broke up.

villainfantasy · Answer

You only get to make the choices the concequences are not choice but the result of your action. Face it. Think about it , and make a sensible decision.

WellGreetingsISay · Answer

I'd be glad if my ex got engaged so she would stop trying to get me back.

worldscolide · Answer

Fuck no, I would however be worried for her fiance's safety, as my ex was incredibly physically abusive.

loveslongnails · Answer

Why would I be upset? LOL If it makes her happy, more power to her. She's my ex for a reason but I don't hate her and I wouldn't be envious.

libsaretards · Answer

Not at all. I would not know if either of them ever got engaged anyways.

exitseven · Answer

Nope, I don't know what happened to her but I hope she is doing well.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I wouldn't. They've all been great ladies, so just because the romance did not work out does not mean I do not want them all to be happy.

AdithyaR · Answer

I'm cordial with my ex and still friends so I'd definitely be happy for her.

Hardworkingguy · Answer

Actually that already happened and I honestly don't care. I really hope that these other person she met can make their relationship work out

Paul09 · Answer

You women are too obbssed with marriages and exes. Life isn't all about that. Leave your exes in the past. You just hurt yourself for nothing.

Straight2thepoint · Answer

Nope. Not my problem, no need to be hateful or anything.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

I don't get it. They're an ex, good for them.

ryancg · Answer

Yeah probably, I'd be a little confused who tf she found that was cool with being beat on.

Babygirl_S · Answer

I don't know what he's doing right now. I don't care.

PatriceONeal · Answer

If you wanted him to be happy, him being engaged wouldn't anger you.

admles · Answer

I wouldn’t care in the slightest, I have her blocked everywhere I can.

msc545 · Answer

I would worry for the poor guy, so yes - upset indeed.

Anonymous · Answer

Don't care. That gold digger can get married and divorced and i wouldn't know, wouldn't care.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Why would I be upset? That would take a very immature person to feel like that.

straightmax12 · Answer

I wouldn't because my ex is not in my life anymore.

Anonymous · Answer

If he is a good catch then yes. But it's not your style in the end. It's not worth it

SixOfClubs · Answer

No, I'm not interested his life.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

That is an immature thing to do.

TheVigilantFox · Answer

No, I’d pity the fool who married it. 🤣🤣🤣

Adam1978 · Answer

No I wouldn't even keep track.

itsalyssaagain · Answer

Yeah and I have been before. It’s the ego lol

annabananna · Answer

No not at all. I’m completely over any ex.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Nope. His problem not mine

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Suck it up. He found a better woman.

Alex8736 · Answer

life goes on. people come and go

Jltakk · Answer

I would have expected it so no.

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

Nope good for em

Anonymous · Answer

He still loves you

sheikalana · Answer

Not at all.

Kelly6 · Answer

nope

red324 · Answer

Yeah

dudeinohio · Answer

Nope

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

Not at all

TrillXHippy · Answer

Lol.

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

Nope.

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