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That is a superb question that has evolved with the development of birth control. Genesis tells us that God's wishes are for us to remain naked and copulate to populate. later on the old testament we hear that a wife's duty to her new family was to deliver many children, the family's strength was in its number. Catholicism seems to have built on that. There also is stated that the only sex that is without sin is sex that ends with an unprotected penis delivering ejaculate into an unprotected vagina. It was not until the average couple could exert some degree of control over finances that controlling the number of births became an issue. At first the problem was feeding the family. but as the family became more affluent, maintaining financial status became more important than having more children than one could educate and feed. The options were evident through the Roaring 20's. If the wife is fertile then pay someone to deliver the pleasure, and let any pregnancy be a work expense for them. Birth control was on it's way. Condoms and a new Pill showed up to help reduce the desire to look elsewhere for fulfillment. So we arrive at a point where the decision is ours. That puts the question to a matter of trust. I know of situations where women have stopped taking the pill in secrecy and gotten pregnant because they wanted a child. It used to be a common ploy to force a male into marriage. In my experience, those relationships don't last because they are built on mistrust. Don't be surprised to see the divorce papers on their way.0
Most people's deas about marriage revolve around partnership, having common goals, and making important decisions together. If she wants more kids and he doesn't, she should accept his decision or leave him.30
Nah but that's kind of on him like he shouldn't be having unprotected sex if he doesn't want anymore kids regardless of if she's on birth control or not225
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Hell NO! That would be totally dishonest, and probably break up the marriage, which would do unknown harm to the child. Having kids is not what the parents want, it's what the new child brings to the world.10
Blatant dishonest and long-term relational distrust. This ought to be a lovely environment for all the children. Who thinks this would be a good idea.10
No, that’s not OK0
No. She should not do such things to her husband. If he doesn’t want kids or her they should both sit down and talk about it and convince each other about points and make it work out somehow. This exact problem happening with my uncle. His wife got pregnant with their first baby after marrige then she lost it. Then got pregnant again and had a boy & right after that she got pregnant with her second baby and now she just gave birth to their new daughter. They’re suffering financially now and he has to get extra work to support and still she wants to have more and they’re always fighting and complaining about it. Some women think from their ass instead of their brain.10
No that’s disgusting. This is why many fathers don’t pay child support or are even in the child’s life. There are tons of cases of the woman getting herself pregnant, unbeknownst towards her husband or boyfriend. Many of the times, the woman KNOWs he doesn’t want kids. Then, when she has the kid, YEET he is gone! And she is sitting there whining her ass off wondering why he isn’t around. Ladies, y’all play yourselves when y’all do that type of shit😂😂😂😂😂322
it doesn't really matter if she does. because truth is, in marriage you're supposed to compromise with your spouse even if it means you lose what you want.
i was talking to my uber driver who was a 64 yr old senior citizen who said he and his wife are now retired and owned a very expensive home in new york city which was passed down from his wife's dead father. he desperately wanted to move down to florida to spend the rest of his life vacationing there. But his wife refused because she didn't want to sell the house her father gave her. it was the only memory that she had left of him.
he ended up compromising by giving up his dream to live in florida.
marriage is all about compromise. you both make decisions as a couple, not as 1 person18
I think it was California (but I might be wrong) that tried (possibly successfully) a few years ago to make removing a condom during sex a crime; if you're going to do THAT, you really need go both ways with it.21
She shouldn’t. As far as I understand, marriages don’t/shouldn’t function that way. It causes mistrust and dysfunction…they are out there.
But I have heard more from those who said…the wife wants another and another. Or the husband wants more.30
No, she shouldn't. She needs to respect her husband and understand that he doesn't want any more babies. Doing so is against his limitations and boundaries.30
No. But if he can’t trust his spouse why is he married to her? Follow up questions would be if he doesn’t want more kids why doesn’t he use protection or get a vasectomy? Tell his wife he doesn’t want to risk having more and then get a simple procedure done to circumvent having another child. Or simply putting on a condom11
that's really dishonest as hell and women do it all the time anyway. What's even worse is when they stop taking their birth control and they get pregnant by the guy that they're seeing on the side and try and pass it off as the husband's kid usually successfully. The husband gets to pay for another man's kid.10
That’s a massive recipe for disaster.
there’s always going to be a level of animosity.30
Sounds like the worst idea ever.
She's being dishonest to her husband, is just as bad as a man taking off his condom during sex without her knowing.
She will end up ruining her marriage, her husband life, and the poor child who she has brought to the world.10
- That's deceitful, disrespectful, immoral, cruel, (I can go on and on) to make him get her pregnant without him knowing. He probably doesn't want the financial burden anymore. It costs a lot to raise a child.
He should leave her. That’s so manipulative. If I were that man I’d rather put up with paying child support than be forced to father yet another brat, because the c-nt says so. She can pop out more brats from other 🍆’s on her own. She can ruin her body more on her own.
F—K THATTTTT. 🖕
He already have overpopulation. He don’t need these insane c-nts bringing forth more brats for the man to pay for. They think money grows from trees.0
If he doesn't want kids he could always cover up. That's what my ex did. These days, condoms are SOO thin, you could hardly feel that they are there!
And no, doing what you are suggesting would lead to resentment (obviously), but it may or may not be short lived because everyone thinks kids are cute, especially their own. And they don't STAY kids, they grow up fast! Who could ever regret making life? !0
No that is dishonest. This is why we need to red pill more men before they become a victim of this kind of shit.20
Kids are a huge responsibility and they coat boatloads of cash. There is a tremendous investment in time as well. Some people like to raise their kids and then do something else with their lives.20
Dishonesty is never acceptable.. Glad to see most people voted the same.14
It’s not just husband and wife is boyfriend and girlfriend too. I mean if you don’t want kids or more kids then wrap that thing.10
I couldn’t even choose “No it’s dishonest” because if any woman who does that (and I know it happens) it would be the most unethical, and immoral betrayal of her husband, EVER! To violate your husband in that way and obtain fraudulent consent for sex… That’s RAPE! If he knew she was off birth control, he would NEVER have consented to sex, and even if he did, it would not be informed consent, so he could have pulled out! That is the biggest betrayal any wife could engage in. She is completely violating her vows, his trust, and his human rights.
Very true. In fact, it's right up there with paternity fraud.