Do you think it's a problem in a relationship that the woman is older than the man?

Question

For example, I'm talking about a relationship where the woman is 10 years older than the man.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

To most women they might eventually see it that way, but the reality of it is age doesn’t really matter , when you have amazing chemistry and connection with someone , Most women are drawn to a man that is older then her mainly for
The fact she feels he is wiser and more mature and she feels he has his shit together , and she feels she can look up to him but honestly that is all garbage cuz age doesn’t really matter , There are a lot of older guys that treat women like shit and there are a lot of younger guys that treat women like shit so what’s important is chemistry and connection , I don’t hold age as a deciding factor when I have amazing chemistry and connection with a girl , Her age is the last thing I am thinking about , now if she is underage then yes I draw the line there but I like to think I am wise enough not to pursue a girl that is under age lol But if I see a beautiful girl that catches my eye and I approach her and talk to her the first thing out of my mouth isn’t going to be how old are you? That would be kind of silly, but if her and I have amazing chemistry and connection and we are both attracted to each other that’s all that matters , if the topic of age Comes up later in the conversation and I find out she is older or younger then me , I am not all of a sudden going to hate her guts and say see ya lol so that’s why I don’t hold age as a deciding factor , when people hold he as a deciding factor they are limiting themselves from someone that actually might be amazing to them , I dated younger girls that were way more mature then girls my age or older so again age is stupid to hold onto as a deciding factor , chemistry and connection is what’s important

burlen · Accepted Answer

The question of whether it is a problem for a woman to be older than a man in a relationship is a complex issue that cannot be answered with a simple "yes" or "no." Relationships are dynamic, and each one is unique, with its own set of challenges, joys, and nuances.

While age is a significant factor in any relationship, it is not necessarily a determinative factor in the success or failure of the relationship. Factors such as emotional maturity, compatibility, shared interests and values, and mutual respect are equally, if not more important than age.

The traditional gender roles in society have made it more common for men to date and marry women who are younger than them. This has led to some degree of social stigma and prejudice towards women who date or marry men who are younger than them, which is often referred to as "cougar" culture.

However, as societal attitudes change, and gender roles become more fluid, the stigma towards relationships where the woman is older is diminishing. In fact, many successful relationships exist between men and women where the woman is older, and age does not play a significant role in the success of the relationship.

Ultimately, the success of a relationship depends on the couple's ability to navigate the challenges that come with any relationship, regardless of age. If both partners are committed to each other and are willing to put in the work to build a strong and healthy relationship, then age should not be a significant factor in their success or failure.

JennaWillow · Accepted Answer

It depends on what they hope to achieve in the relationship, and just how large the age gap is.

If they hope to settle down and have kids of their own, the traditional happy-family style, if the woman is greatly older that could cause complications. However if it isn't that great a distance, or they simply want to enjoy each others company and that is enough, then I say more power to them.

When it gets to age gaps of like someone in their 60s and someone in their 20s, that's worth raising an eyebrow at, but 10 years is nothing.

menina · Accepted Answer

I would say it's ok as long as they're in the relationship for the right reasons. By that, I mean if they're together because they're in love and want to stay together. If one is not taking advantage of the other. Also, it would also depend on their age gap. For instance, I don't see why a 29 year old woman would date a 19 year old guy. However, if he's 30 and she's 40, I don't see a problem.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Not at all. I've always been of the opinion certain people are made for each other, like a soul mate. So to allow an age difference of ten years get in the way of that, when some people spend half their life finding someone, is short sighted.

Those people who look at the situation, may have been lucky to find their ideal mate, that is close in age. Either that, or the person really isn't their true soul mate and they are just playing house.

If they are meant to be together, then outsiders should just leave them alone.

ManOnFire · Answer

That is actually my preference. I guess I'm open to relationships with younger women, but I did that already. I also really like the sex with older women, it's more passionate. Plus I do like the dominance aspect of being a younger guy who is completely breaking down a woman who is like your superior and doing her brains out. And they have a more serious appreciation for good sex I think.

But apart from sex I like the maturity of older women, and you're better able to have conversations about life with them.

MaazHussain · Answer

There is no inherent problem in a relationship where the woman is older than the man. Age differences are a common feature of many relationships, and what is most important is the quality of the relationship and the level of mutual respect, love, and understanding between the partners.

It is true that in some cultures and societies, there may be negative attitudes towards relationships with large age differences, particularly if the woman is older. However, it is important to remember that these are social and cultural attitudes, and not necessarily reflective of the true nature of the relationship.

Ultimately, the success of any relationship depends on the compatibility, communication, and commitment of the partners involved, regardless of their age or gender. It is important for both partners to be comfortable with the age difference and to be open and honest with each other about their needs, expectations, and goals for the relationship.

Miristheiss · Answer

Probably... eventually. Not in all cased but probably more often than not.

First, that is more time for her to have slept around and had lots of casual sex and to have more thoroughly messed up her brain and hardwiring to where it is hard for her to "bond" with just one man. She'll have more baggage and issues due to all of these old sexual romps.

Men are attracted to youth and beauty. She may look good for an older woman but she's going to start aging and at some point she's going to look "OLD" and he'll still be in more of his prime. This will be a temptation to want to end things with her and to find a younger woman who is younger than him.

This is not guaranteed to happen but chances are high these realities could come to pass.

Robbey · Answer

I don’t. I’m a few months shy of being 12 years older than my husband. We get along well enough. He’s a great father to our sons and a great stepfather to my daughters. It’s definitely the happiest relationship I’ve ever had.

Sun_Kim-Ai · Answer

Honestly I don't see the problem.

My wife is just a couple years older than me, but an ex I have had - and perhaps one of the two women I've ever truly loved was over ten years older than me. We would have probably still been together now if Destiny didn't conspire against it.

Haha456 · Answer

10 years is the furthest I would go. I wouldn't go any more than that.

Its been proven through data that marriages with larger age gaps tend to have higher rates of divorce. Because large age gaps tend to cause issues and problems down the road.

CaptainOverthink · Answer

Assuming the youngest is at least 20/21yo, not a problem. Once you're grown up it all comes down to compatability, realistic expectations and having mature and honest thoughts.

If the youngest is under 25 or seem naive though, I think a pinch of salt is very healthy as it's easy to get engulfed by overwhelming feelings in the beginning, relationships are supposed to be longterm afterall, right?

Subarugirl · Answer

Once the youngest person is older than 25, a 10 year age gap isn't really an issue. Younger than 25 presents an issue because the person's prefrontal cortex is not fully developed and presents a power imbalance making abuse and it easier for the adult to take advantage and manipulate the younger partner.

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

Absolutely not girlfriend. If a stupid 30 year old men can date a dumb 20 year old woman with daddy issues. I am sure a 21 year old young guy wouldn't mind dating a beautiful smart successful woman that has it all.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I know a lady who is 50 and her fiancé is 35. They have been together for 5 years. So far it has worked for them. Overall though I think it would be a bit too much of an age gap for "most" people.

Anonymous · Answer

If you want kids, yes, if not then no. At your age that would make her 37. If you what kids, you have less than 10 years of fertility left, and less than 5 years where there are little chances of birth defects and miscarriages. As she gets older those risks grow exponentially.

TommyWiseau69 · Answer

I don't find the idea of me being with a woman older appealing. It just seems weird. Even if she's older by a few months it feels weird. I would ideally want to be the older one

samuluaa · Answer

As long as they are both over 18 it is fine. I personally wouldn’t want to date a person who is 10 years or more older than me though but that’s just my preference.

Anon833 · Answer

Not at all. I’ve been married for thirteen years to a woman who is 38 years older than me. I’m 32, and she’s 70. We have a daughter who is 12.

Uzi777 · Answer

No, in fact, I date younger guys all the time. But at times, boys 20 years younger than me gets weird just thinking about it.

TrueConfection · Answer

I have a good friend who married a man 10 years younger than she is and you would never even know there was a gap.

fonduegirl · Answer

I think it's fine unless she's his mother's age

AdithyaR · Answer

If there's a relationship where the guy is 10 years older than the girl and everyone thinks it's fine, then why should the opposite be a problem. As long they're both consenting adults it's fine.

LovingJo · Answer

It's fine, at long as everyone is legal, and you respect and love one another, there shouldn't be any issues.

annabananna · Answer

Both my uncles married women 10 years older and it worked out fine.

Anemone978 · Answer

10 or within 10 years is fine any over is a bit much...

kramchancel · Answer

One you are pass 21 years old in my opinion it doesn't matter what your age is. If you want to date some younger or older go for it.

Sasha0426 · Answer

I mean, if the couple is happy and it’s between two consenting adults, who cares? 🤷‍♀️ No harm, no foul.

exitseven · Answer

If the both of you are happy then that is all that matters

marish01 · Answer

If she looks 10 years younger than her age then iy's fine

EaterPeter · Answer

I don't think so. I haven't had one of those. I have been in relationship with days and months older womens.

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

Nasty, why on earth would a man go for older women?🤮 only a guy with issues with go for older women.

Sparkie460 · Answer

As long as they are both happy who cares about the gap

noohair · Answer

I don't follow social convention because it might keep two adults from finding love.

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

Not at all. My wife is a year older than me.

PatriceONeal · Answer

This is womens last hope and they'll all support this debauchery.

Damcky · Answer

That’s a fantasy for some guys. I personally love older women, more personal life experiences.

Minahh · Answer

Not a problem if they're are compatible and she's not a groomer.

Anonymous · Answer

I usually ate older. The main issue for me has been when she allows other people to get to her about the age gap.

Anonymous · Answer

I reckon it's a lot better than a Young Girl Dating an older Guy, Because the Young Girl is more likely to get used than the Young Guy.

teddybearthefirst · Answer

It's better for me because I also like to be pampered

Manjeetcoolguy · Answer

Yes tbh I have been in a relationship with a lady who was 5 years elder to me

handsomeblackoutlaw · Answer

I'm nearly 70, so don't expect me to date someone in their 80's or 90's.

lightbulb27 · Answer

not for a long time.

UCrayCray · Answer

A problem for who?

DizzyDesii · Answer

Its nasty either way if its a big age gap

Date_a_Snob · Answer

I could never date a younger guy

AsaKyo · Answer

Why would that be an issue?

Anonymous · Answer

10 years older is a bit odd.

Stevefiveo · Answer

No, as long as they are both happy.

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

No, if the people see no age.

Mayo503 · Answer

No that’s fine  Any age really up to you …

Pohjolan · Answer

It might be if he wants to have kids.

RobT312 · Answer

Not at all.

playerr · Answer

It depends on the Couples

Cheerfull009 · Answer

Age does not matter, if both are consenting

Klove0202 · Answer

if it is legal then it is not a problem

hornyvirgin · Answer

no i no problem

Orion76 · Answer

I’ve done worse.

skyee_727 · Answer

nope

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

No..

La_isla_bonita23 · Answer

Not at all.

jimmy2 · Answer

Not really

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