Is it OK for the girl to be older than the guy? My best friend has a new boyfriend which is 7 years younger than her. I believe that it doesn't work well when the girl is the older one. What do you think about it?
The truth is age is just a number for the most part when it comes to 2 people being attracted to each other that have amazing chemistry and connection together , Me Personally doesn’t hold age as a deciding factor when I meet a beautiful girl that connects well with me , I dated younger girls that were more mature than girls’ my age , so the truth is it just comes down to how that person truly is to you , Attraction is a powerful thing , when 2 people want each other that’s all that really matters , as long as they are both legal age of consent , there isn’t much that can be said , if no one is being forced in that relationship , than other people should honestly keep their mouth shut because It isn’t their relationship , they can talk shit all they want , but the truth is , it’s a waste of Time and energy to critique and judge someone else , because they are still going to choose each other , no matter what anyone else says. If they are both happy together , that’s all that really matters , people that try to get themselves involved in other people’s relationships should look themselves in the mirror first and realize they should stop being a hypocrite , because if they met someone that was amazing to them that had a gap in age , they would so go for it. That’s what’s wrong with this world , most people are so judgmental of other people and that’s why this world is so fucked up , if someone isn’t hurting anyone then they are best to keep shit to themselves and stop assuming shit and causing drama over nothing. Just because you might not like something it doesn’t mean they think the same. We can give someone advice but we can’t make their decision for them. They will make their own decision no matter what.
It rarely works in the long run. Sure, an older woman might date a younger man for a couple of years, but long term, she's not going to have the same level of respect for him when he's young, and if he's closer to middle age, when his value is finally starting to peak while hers has fallen way off, she's going to be jealous and bitter. One way or the other, she will eventually be unhappy and will blame him for it.
Even Hugh Jackman couldn't make it work, and if a younger, very fit, multimillionaire celebrity man can't be enough for a woman, then nothing will.
For me, it is absolutely okay if the woman is older than the man in a relationship. Age should not be a determining factor in the success or acceptability of a romantic relationship. Here are some reasons why age differences in relationships, with the woman being older, are perfectly acceptable and can even be advantageous:
Love and compatibility are not bound by age. Emotional connection, shared values, and mutual respect are far more critical for a healthy relationship than age. An older woman may also bring a wealth of life experience, wisdom, and maturity to the relationship, which can be valuable for both partners.
In any relationship, mutual respect is one of the key factors... As long as both partners respect each other's individuality and autonomy, age should not be a source of conflict. Also, society's norms around relationships have evolved, and today, age-gap relationships are increasingly accepted and commonplace.
So, the most crucial factor in a relationship is whether both partners are happy and fulfilled. If an older woman and a younger man make each other happy, then their relationship is valid and worthwhile. It's important to remember that age is just one aspect of a person's identity and does not define their worth or compatibility as a partner. What truly matters are the dynamics, communication, and connection within the relationship. As long as both individuals are consenting adults and the relationship is built on love and mutual respect, age should not be a cause for concern. Love is love, regardless of age.
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I know a married couple whereby the woman is 7 years older than him. They are relatively newly weds, but he's already tempted to date other women. The women that he is tempted to have sex with are in their 20s, and he says that he would never want to be in a serious relationship with them because they are at two different stages in their lives, that he wouldn't have anything in common with them. His wife is worried that she's not as beautiful and young as other women, and he reassures her that she doesn't have to worry, because she's the one he loves. So, based on that story, the guy can love and be attracted to an older woman, but still want to have sex with younger women, not because they're closer to his age, but because he wants to have variety regardless of who he's married to.
dont all men lust after lots of women? @Bethany22
@rebeliouse they shouldn't be if they are in a relationship. I personally would not put up with that
@Apple1996 how are men supposed to turn off animal instincts?
@rebeliouse because they should be able to control themselves
@rebeliouse Yes, unless they are gay or dead, and I’m not sure about gay. I know men as gay as Liberace who’ve had sex with women.
@Apple1996 there is nothing wrong with open relationships or polyamory.
@Apple1996 yes. It's important that the people in a relationship understand and trust each other and agree on the terms of the relationship.
@Apple1996 maybe they do control themselves but they will still lust
@rebeliouse reasons why I'm mostly gay. Can't deal with lustful men in a relationship
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u Whether the younger man/older woman works depends on the extent of the age difference, common interests, the woman's financial security, whether she is menopausal or post-menopausal and whether that has affected her libido. A 48 year old woman who has lost interest in sex will have a miserable boyfriend if he is 29 years old. If the boyfriend is in his late 50's, he will probably be more accepting of a reduced frequency of sex.
Someone define, libido
@frenulumbig You can easily Google words which are not familiar to you. "Libido" is a medical term for the level of sexual desire that a person feels.
If the man is mature then it won't be a issue
People tend to believe they're more mature than they actually are. He may know what works for him now, but he can't predict the future and know how well he can face the challenges of the future. When I got married, I believed I was flexible enough to deal with her hot temper. Though she wasn't older than me, I learned that wasn't the case. If they're in the same developmental stage, 7 years may not be an issue, but there is a big difference between this being a 25-year-old woman or a 60-year-old woman
@caring__1 yeah I agree within about 10 years is fine. Past that people are in different stages of life
Life stages are closer together when we are young, so it's much easier to cross life stages when we're young than when we are older. Though I could be comfortable with a partner who is 10 years off from my age, I couldn't say the same if we were talking about a 14-year-old and a 24-year-old.
Statistically, women live longer than men, do in a lifelong relationship, it makes sense for the woman go be slightly older.
Nothing wrong there as long as there’s two consenting adults. I’m 6 and a half years older than my fiance. I met him when I was 24, and he was 18. I’ll be 25 next Sunday but he still loves me and he’s way more mature than guys I’ve met my own age to be honest.
It's fine either way as long as neither partner starts to get paranoid about the age difference and what it means. Honestly though there are issues when the gap is large enough. Hell this is true of older parents as well, it's a lot harder to relate to a teenager if you're nearing pension age. With that said it's not the be all and end all.
Some people these days take it way too far. They promote "Granny sex" porn. Then these guys in real life who are like late 50's are having sex with 80 year old ladies. Now that is sick as hell to me, but they think it's ok.
It's called gerontophilia - look it up if you're interested
I think the majority of women prefer the man to be older and the majority of men prefer the women to be younger. But not everyone. For some its comfortable for some its not. So there is no "okay" for everyone. When I was young I had relationships with women who were older than me, as I got older I preferred relationships with younger women. So tastes change too.
One argument women make against men robbing the cradle is that we will leave the woman a widow at a young age. Women, on average, live about eight years longer than men. There are no guarantees in live. A women I went out with when she was 23 and I was 31 passed away last year, so I would have been the widower.
The age gap in and of itself does not dictate how the relationship will go, rather it's likely her leading the relationship that will.
When older men date younger women, what do they say? He groomed me right? He had control. He led the relationship.
The same thing happens the other way around.
This is why many women try and date men their own age because the age differential doesn't automatically put power in one over the other
I’m not sure I ever accepted that age is synonymous with power. I’m pushing sixty and little girls learn to wrap me around their little fingers about the time they learn to talk. All of my cousin’s’ granddaughters know I’m a complete pushover.
Great example, you've convinced me haha
Most speak of different stages of life re. those younger or older. Levels of experience and understanding may always be taught to the younger. Maturity and immaturity are the only two factors that matter. Age has NO bearing on relations with others , except those underage oc.
It's ok if they can make it work. The problem is women are hypergamous by nature, which is one of the reasons they tend to be attracted to men older than themselves. Relationships where the woman is older tend to be less likely to last due to the issues with relationship dynamics that often causes.
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There is plenty of evidence that men are hypogamous and view women who outperform them as a threat to their masculinity. Perhaps, as the weaker sex, women began having more interest in men who outperform them in some way as a defense mechanism to protect themselves against men who might have reacted violently to women more successful than themselves historically, just as women naturally make smaller, quieter movements, to the point that even animals such as wolves can sense the difference and find women and more unassuming, typical feminine ways of moving and speaking to be less unsettling and are less likely to attack them, and probably developed this behavior along with greater agreeableness to compensate for their relative lack of physical strength which could endanger them around stronger, more aggressive men.
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I personally don't see age difference as a problem or something to worry about. If two people get on, they like each other and there's fantastic chemistry that's all that matters.
I dont see too much of a prob. I’ve been older than a good handful. The current is a year younger
My mom is 7 years older than my dad and they’ve been together for 35-40 years (I forgot which).
Age alone isn’t going to be the factor.
It's fine, it's between them, two adults.. If it works out great, if it doesn't work out it wasn't the age difference, but their own values didn't align..
Been in two relationships with woman being older. It all depends on her mindset and maturity. As well as yours (mans) too.
I really don’t know what’s wrong with people’s minds and age, if the guy is older than 30 and she’s younger than 25 it’s a problem, he’s controlling and this and that, if the girl is older it’s a problem, when since age becomes a big deal
Yes as age in my opinion doesn’t effect the way you feel about someone jaja. Just makes it more interesting to share interests!
Why would it be a issue if the women is older sorry?
I think no. When the woman is older she will have to put up with being the "mind" and leader in the relationship. Not the womans duty to be.
I hope so for my relative's sake. A number of them are cougars, some of the men are manthers. I believe a new term coined in WHIP-women who are hot, intelligent, and in their prime.
I don't see why that age gap Wouldn't work. It's okay in my book.
My mother was a year older than my father. I suppose that is a bad example since they got divorced.
When you become of legal adulthood age just becomes a number (as long as base number is that of adulthood). Yes, large age gap is awkward, but there's nothing wrong with it
They can't assert you for it, go ahead. I was always dating older women
i think 7 years is a bit much. i'm 2 1/2 years older than my partner and i think that's more than enough because maturity issues.
Yeah, my exes were older than me and we worked out fine
If they worked out fine, then why are they your exes?
One moved to Poland and the other moved up north, I couldn't follow them but still remain friends with them both
I think it could work. Its not for me at all i find men immature as is. But i think it could work for other people and maybe if you miraculously find a mature younger guy lmao.
Actually it's the better way. Learn to appreciate it. Let them love each other
As long they’re consenting adults and happy, don’t see the problem 🤷♀️
It really depends on them, it's not too much of an age gap in my opinion. I also like older women rather than younger.
It’s perfectly okay.
Depends on how much older. They’re both in their 20s so it’s not a big deal.
My wife is 2 years older then me and it's just fine.
I almost always date older, generally a few years older and up.
It never works , older women are bitter hence why older men go for younger women.
It's okay...
Even i think guys should be older and more responsible for relationship to work
You see it occasionally, it should not be a problem
im sure its ok for the old battleaxe.
But the bloke is stuck with a used up mole when he could be with a nice fresh chick
Its fine when they are in their 30s and older, doesn’t really make a difference
pretty girls always ask the dumbet of questions.
dont see how it wouldn't be okay
Absolutely it's fine. My wife is older than me
If thats what both of you want, sure.
Only two people get a vote.
Thats perfectly fine
See nothing wrong
Yes.
Women that date younger men are insecure.
Why wouldn't it?
its ok as long as both are at least 18
Yes but it depends on how much.
7 years is not that far away
Of course there is no rule or law
of course
It's fine.
Yes it is nice for sure
Yes. Completely ok.
why dont it
sure
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