Is a friends with benefits relationship worth having or does it just hurt more in the long run?

[Anonymous]

[Finchie40]

, yes , as long as you are both on the same exact page with things , some people just can’t handle relationships mainly because they have been burned so many times by giving their heart to someone that took advantage of it and took a dump on it so there trust is broken or they just aren’t ready to jump into a Néw relationship, I don’t mind FWB’s as long as we are both on the same exact page with things , I won’t do a FWB’s with someone that is planning To go screw other people including me at the same time , I will only do a FWB’s with a girl that is honest with me , meaning she isn’t screwing anyone else but she has to options of meeting someone else , if she does meet someone else or interested in someone else or she sleeps with someone else , then out of respect she tells
Me and we end the benefits part with me and we remain friends , The same thing I will do for her , If her and I stay true to that, then there is the possibility her and I could possibly end up together , yes usually one starts getting deeper feelings before the other does and if that happens, it’s their job to act on it and say I want us to be together officially , it’s a 50/50 chance on whether the other person feels the same , just don’t wait to long because the other person might already be getting involved with someone else , So yes it’s still

A 50/50 chance on what occurs, but at least you are both on the same page and being honest with each other , it’s honestly a good way to really Get to know each other before making that big commitment, if you are both meant To be it will happen if not, oh well at least you tried and still have respect for each other, instead of hating each other and ending on bad terms , You might be sad that they moved on , but you still have respect for each other I only had a few FWB’s in my lifetime and the one for sure I kick myself in the ass for til this day , I was a dumbass , She was an amazing girl and best friend to me , we had so much chemistry me connection and the sex was amazing but I was so blind to it at the time , She was showing the signs that she wanted to be more with me but I was blind to it and being selfish , it didn’t really hit me until she was gone , I still kick myself in the ass til this day for not grabbing on to it , I think about her from time and hope she is doing well , she was the one I regret losing. I often wonder if she still thinks of me because her and I always smiled together , I tried looking her up but I can’t find her , I am sure she is married with kids by now , she will always be in my heart

[OlderAndWiser]

If it hurts, then it really wasn't a friends with benefits, was it?

[Asker]

Well if one develop feelings and the other doesn’t wouldn’t it hurt?

[OlderAndWiser]

I am not saying it doesn't hurt. What I am saying is that friends with benefits is supposed to be just sex with no feelings involved, but quite often people who are uncomfortable with expressing feelings use friends with benefits as a pretext to get into a type of relationship, then they break the rules and develop feelings and hope that their partner feels the same way. So it isn't truly a friends with benefits.

[Anemone978]

Yes it really isn't worth it... you are giving the milk for free... at least charge money for it LOL

[mark000h]

friends with benefits is basically an unpaid hooker.

[top-J]

I don't get too attached and dependent on people around me so I would say anything that I feel like fits well and doesn't hurt

[Brando10222]

It will affect you in long run even when you will no longer be in it

[Wise4myage]

Someone usually gets hurt in the end.