Do you think it’s harder to maintain a relationship as compared to an friends with benefits?

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The commitment is not an issue, but the effort it takes from both sides and the time and emotions invested need to be equal or at least balanced on most days. While, I understand that in the end it’s all worth it and takes time to build a real solid relationship but sometimes, does it feel difficult?

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

For me. When I'm in a relationship or the start of a relationship it's like I hold myself back I become too serious that I think
 In my own skin.
 You're saying something about being an equal. Well, that's given. I mean, I don't care who it is whether I'm in a relationship with them or not. They are an equal, we are equal, no matter what. But I think in time that you get comfortable with each other and. For me I just I wouldn't let all myself out In a friends with benefit. That is the best relationship I've ever had. Because I am me. I get to be a smart a**I get a laugh joke. Make her laugh and joke  We would go do things.  We would talk openly as friends would do. There's a respect I trust there's a bug there and it's a different type of bond than in a relationship. You don't have to worry , what you say is going to be taken the wrong way because this never is , but in a relationship , it might be a lot , sometimes it is So I think my goaln should be be find a friend's benefits. You hook up let things happen and try that this time LO. L

dynamicyandere · Accepted Answer

Oh definitely. A serious relationship requires a tremendous amount of effort, especially when your love is stronger than inconvenience.

I’ve only done friends with benefits once. And the girl ended up falling for me. So, things got complicated and I need to stop things with her because I didn’t want to keep her attached by continuing to see her.

The level of effort though is a night and day difference. Because when I commit, I commit HARD. e. g. Moving to my current girl’s country to be with her.

Luv2BRealExotic13 · Accepted Answer

I just had this conversation because a guy brought it up and ghosted me. I don’t think he actually knew the definition or stunned to find out I was okay with it. friends with benefits no one really has to be emotionally invested but don’t be a jack*ss either because STD/STIs are very real things. Being responsible in that regard is apparently not everyone’s strong suit. I’ve been in friends with benefits before with responsible people. Simple rule we’re smashing each other if we want to go the relationship route or see someone else we want to be involved with instead just let each other know. It doesn’t have to be messy and drama filled. Which leads me back to my theory of how chronically immature some people are that they want to involve feelings in a sex-only agreement. As long as everyone is doing the bare minimum of getting tested knowing their status, using protection, and not being any type of sexual predator, and not a serial killer everyone is all good.

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

Of course. FWBs are sexual only. You don't share confidences, you don't share living space, you don't plan vacations or have children you're raising together, or have to work out finances.

But, hopefully, you have more in common with your values and life plans and what you enjoy together that people who only get together when they're mutually horny.

FWBs aren't shoulders to cry on, can't be called on to listen to your problems or cheer your successes. You can't call them over to watch a movie with you, or help with a sick kid. BUT, all this involvement, this closeness, CAN be stressful.

You do need boundaries, even in a SO relationship. That is what takes balancing, as you so wisely said. But people who are only sex partners have none of the advantages of committed partners, except sex. Sex is great, but sex with a commited partner who is regularly part of your life is a far deeper experience, and deepens as time goes on.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Navigating the love jungle, aren't we? Maintaining a relationship can certainly be trickier than a friends-with-benefits situation. With a relationship, you've got emotions, future plans, and potential lovebombing, which can make things feel intense and exhilarating, like a rollercoaster ride! Friends-with-benefits is more like a merry-go-round—fun and relaxed but doesn't usually delve too deep. Both require effort, just in different flavors. 🌟 It's really about what your heart's up for and what you're willing to invest! 😘❤️

Finchie40 · Answer

I prefer FWB’s with some strings attached with a girl especially these days it gives her and I time to really get to know each other , before making the decision to be completely committed to each other , FWB’s with some strings attached works if the both of you are on the same exact page with things. And honest with each other. I have a FWB’s now but I feel it’s temporary because she is still young , but I am having fun with her and I am in no rush to be in a committed relationship with anyone at this time , mainly because I just got out of a marriage that went to shit

AviatorTom · Answer

I would think it's the opposite.
In friends with benefits, you have to repeatedly find ways to pleasure your partner with sex, and keep them interested. It's easy to get bored.
In a relationship, there are many ways to keep your partner interested in keeping the relationship going, not just sex.

HawkPerception · Answer

Never had a friends with benefits, but I doubt it. Friends with benefits usually ends up with one person catching feelings based on many stories I've heard over many years and someone almost always cuts off.

DishLady · Answer

I don't do friends with benefits. Relationships are important, whether they're romantic or friendly.

MrOracle · Answer

There's no easy answer because it depends on several things.

For some people, friends with benefits means you call, you agree that you are available, you meet up, you bang, and you leave. This kind of friends with benefits can be easier to maintain for a lot of people, but it's also less fulfilling for most.

Then there are the people who treat a friends with benefits like a full relationship in nearly every respect except the official commitment. This is much harder to maintain over time because one person usually wants more before too long, and the other is perfectly happy the way things are.

A huge mistake that a lot of people make is that they treat a friends with benefits as an "entry-level" relationship or assume that they are good for less experienced daters, when in reality they are advanced relationships suitable only for very experienced and very skilled people when it comes to navigating relationships - MOST people lack the skills and experience to make one work for any length of time (and that's actually a GOOD thing). It's kind of like every doctor can take vital signs, but only a tiny number of doctors can do neurosurgery successfully. If people treated neurosurgery like an entry level medical skill, there would be a ton of dead patients.

sawno · Answer

Yes because a friends with benefits situation is inherently temporary so the expected outcome is that it will inevitably end or become a relationship. While a relationship the goal is to make it last, which means its going to be a longer journey with more opportunities for it to go wrong. In the moment i'd say its similar though, when I was in a friends with benefits it evolved into a relationship because we were originally only friends with benefits since we didn't expect to be able to make the distance work. But when we found out we were so compatible that nobody local could ever compare we tried anyway, and then failed to make the distance work.

beenherebefore · Answer

Relationships can be challenging but worth to put the effort in if it's the love of your life. friends with benefits is easier because there's no commitment and you're not responsible for other people's feelings.

Bitter_Sweet94 · Answer

Yes, it does feel harder.

A relationship asks for depth emotions, honesty, patience, and real effort.

Friends with benefits stays on the surface, so there’s less to lose and less to maintain.

But the difficulty isn’t a bad sign, it’s a sign that something real is being built.

Anything meaningful will challenge you, that’s what makes it worth having.

sage2021 · Answer

It depends on what the other person is like and which of your qualities they bring out in you. Like if you have a great sense of humor and you two are constantly joking around.

I've had 2 relationships that were pretty much effortless and they surely NOT work! They were fun and we got along great! 👍🏼

But as far as all of the other relationships I've had... well...👎🏼

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

It's not really hard to maintain a relationship when there is a balance.

As what I have noticed, those who struggled maintaining their relationship have tendencies to be super clingy, jealous, protective.. making the relationship suffocating. But if people just learn how to maintain balance while in a relationship, there is no need for an friends with benefits situation. If people just learn how to be committed but cool 😎 at the same time.

mysteriousNicholas · Answer

@pearl222 personally 👀 and given my lifestyle, 🧬 I wonder how I could find the time for either. Both require actual effort, is my view. Not to mention things like condoms, birth control, every couple of months testings for diseases, and that is just the relationship one 😂🤭 I'm a germ freak, all i can say.

And dates and all that - time, money, effort. As much as a friends with benefits ironically so nah, nah I think I have minimal regrets staying single and single this long 🥳🥳

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I would think it would be much harder to maintain a friends with benefits since they make you feel loved but yet you know they don't.. That emotional unsafely would be way harder to deal with than just a regular relationship where you know they guy loves you and is exclusive with you.

Zack-Bann · Answer

I would say no

Fwbs are complicated
They might choose to fuck others and get into relationships left and right

It’s a whole mess

A traditional relationship has fairly simple and straightforward rules

katiesmuff · Answer

There is no thinking about it as maintaining a relationship takes effort and work to keep it strong and healthy, where as the friends with benefits only requires being ready to spread your legs at any given moment.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

I learned friends with benefits here on gag. Never done it and would never get into one/

anyone who wants to put anymore meaning into it should end it then seek help.
then get into a good loving committed relationship…

Tarifa · Answer

It's not difficult, but it requires commitment from both sides. A friend with benefits is just sex with a random person in my book. Not even a solid basis to build a true friendship on.

Anonymous · Answer

Don't compare a relationship with friends with benefits. They are millions times different. And a relationship is way better and harder to maintain as compared to getting fucked by a person who fuck someone else as well.

Nice222 · Answer

I believe it is harder to maintain the boundaries in a friends with benefits. But a relationship is obviously more work to maintain.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Anyone who has that mindset shouldn't be in ANY relationship, including a friends with benefits type of situation.

molonski2 · Answer

Two different things , vastly more difficult yes for certain.

Anonymous · Answer

Before I was in a committed relationship I used to like friends with benefits because there wasn't nearly as much to worry about.

Hªnnªh · Answer

I personally prefer friends with benefits because there is only fun and freedom, no stresses.

dougeats · Answer

No doubt! At least with a friends with benefits you just hit it and go

MasterKS · Answer

Yes friends with benefits is just sex relationship is burden of many things.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, I believe so.

Anonymous · Answer

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