Is she in the right or wrong?

[Slim57]

That's wrong of her

Nothing wrong with it

Neutral

[ShadezMcgee]

I honestly feel bad for the boyfriend. He sounds like a good dude from the way she describes him and how he handles her son and her hints. Personally hope it's a troll post, but she is a defining reason why single moms have a rough go in the dating market.

She claims all these terrible dates only wanted sex and had no understanding of how to deal with a woman who had a child. A guy comes along that should be a good catch, but she obviously wants a dude who dresses and makes what a CEO does.

Ultimately shouldn't have accepted the proposal if she is having doubts about superficial things like this. Hope she ends it before she breaks the dude's heart more than it will be the longer she waits to do it, better yet, divine intervention gives the man a revelation and he dumps her ass first. Dude deserves better than this woman. She defines love on how he carries himself with grooming and spoiling her. Her dad is right. She is grasping at small bullshit.

[SoIcyGang]

She wants romance and passion. But nothing she described about him had anything to do with romance and passion and everything to do with how he doesn't dress nice enough or want to go out to expensive restaurants.

She needs to get her priorities straight.

I wouldn't marry someone unless I love them. I don't know if women look for love or for other shit but it seems like it's mostly "other shit" that women are looking for. Shits weird.

I think the reality for this woman is she thinks passion = nice clothes. If he doesn't dress up for her it doesn't satisfy her view of what love is.

She has a corrupt view of what love is. I think it's gross. Love is blind.

[DizzyDesii]

She shouldn't have accepted his proposal because she's having doubts. she's gonna be unhappily married and most definitely physically or emotionally cheat on him. I personally refuse to “just be nice” and settle for whats not my type again. I’ll always have what ifs, no matter how good of a man he is, like the one she described above. This is why i say physical attraction is important and sometimes just as important as personality/values/beliefs. You can only settle for so long. The man she described above makes a good friend and father figure but thats it. She should let him go because he’s clearly not looking to just be friends

[PinkMichae]

If she feels like they are close roommates then that's a red flag. But she honestly sounds too needy and high maintenance.

If she's gonna constantly try to change him then let him go so he can have a woman he deserves. Because this woman sounds very entitled and ungrateful.

[Anonymous]

mix of both actually - he seems to really care for both her and her son which sounds like it was hard to find for her, but it sounds like she's already got the ick about his grooming and if it affects their sex life now then it's easy for resentment to build - i feel like they should've talked about marriage beforehand so she could put it off and see if they're compatible properly, but it's also been 2 years so she can't just wait around for a guy she likes better then drop this one, either suck it up or break up and i'm leaning more towards break up

[Astarlessnightsky]

There is no real right or wrong.

However when she describes the guy as basically the only one who fits into her family but hss some small flaws, thats about as perfect as it can get.

Because flaws you will find with everyone.

[OfMiceandMen]

I know she is a single mother and all, but, she should not just settle for a guy. She's still young a 28 and can likely find someone, given, a bit more time, that would be more of a match.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Women are always right. The sooner you learn that, the sooner you can move on with your life and find some peace

[gorydetails]

She's lucky to find a guy that at best doesn't give a shit about her kid. But it's probably best for the guy that she dumps him so he can find someone better.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

She's a dumbass and shouldn't have accepted his proposal. She's thinking more of herself and passion as opposed to her welfare as a mother and her son. I hope he leaves her first.

[Exterminatore]

At 28 she’s luck any guy will marry her. Girls with kids can get away with it in their late 30’s or 40’s as there is no one at that age without kids.

[Exterminatore]

Also if she thinks she may be settling she should leave him and pay all her own bills herself.

[TacosRAwesome]

Should have broken up with him when she realised that he'll never satisfy her needs and whatnot.

[Joker_]

she can have those feelings, cause fair enough, but in her position, best thing she can do is probably just communicate with her boyfriend and make compromises

[Anonymous]

She should be down on her knees thanking God anyone is willing to marry first of all, and someone with that kind of baggage. Guy's an idiot.

[Anonymous]

It should totally be the other way around. We have it backwards in society today.

[Pete671]

wrong of her, sounds like the chap is a really great guy, and she moans about his height?

[Flower7]

It’s wrong to marry someone you’re unsure about.