How to explain to her she is in the wrong?

[Datboycool]

My partner and I of 6 years. We do not live togather. And her room mate for some reason does not allow me there. I had to shoot someone in self defence a few years back. And that is why the room mate despise me.
On to the problem. She has been remodeling a rental property. But every time I drop by in announced she is not working by no means she is sitting playing on her phone going through bags of clothes. Not working. And always has low life girl friends around so called helping her paint and such.
It's been over 2 weeks still not done. It's a single wide trailer. Now it's a big cussion pallet there where it appears she been sleeping. Then tonight she tells me I can't be hanging out there. Like that is all your doing. Is more less posted up there. So I try and explain to her if I do t need to be hanging out there. Then neither does she. Can some one please help me explain why and how she is in the wrong because I come off as a ass that's trying to fight. Thanks

[OlderAndWiser]

1. I suspect there are many more details that you haven't provided to us, details that would make more sense of this story.

2. You pick a partner for a relationship because you like who they are, how they conduct themselves, their attitudes and beliefs, etc. You don't pick a partner and then try to change them into what you really want them to be.

3. Who's right and who's wrong in a relationship is not very important. I can't remember a relationship ever improving because I convinced my partner that I was right/she was wrong about something.

4. You aren't entitled to have everything done the way you want it. If you don't like the way your girlfriend is acting, break up and find a new girlfriend.

5. If you don't understand what I have written, I doubt that additional explanations will help you to understand.

[inhua]

you can't because the gynocentric social order dictates you as a man are always in the wrong no matter what

[devilish-cutie]

What is she wrong in exactly? I mean what exactly is your question cause its not clear in whote you wrote. If you want to live with her somwhere you can propse that but if she doesn't wanna do that there is nothing you can do.

[Anonymous]

You sound like a loose and dangerous canon. I would have nothing to do with you if I was her.

[Bubbatech24065]

Be useful, don't just go to hang out. Ask her to help paint, or anything else. If she is sincere about renovation, maybe helping her out will allow your relationship to develop, like her renovation project.

[Iron_Man]

Why doesn’t she live with you?