So this guy stopped speaking to me after he saw I went on a date, on my snap story. He misunderstood the whole thing.. he was acting very petty by unsending his chat and being bitter. I didn’t even get the chance to explain everything to him he was being dramatic. So this was story behind it.. my friend asked if I can go on a double date with her as her guy would bring a friend. First I said no then agreed cause I felt bad! (You will see that chat in the image I post) so I put something about the date and the guy I’m only SPEAKING to NOT dating gets bitter cutting contact with me (even though he left me on deliver for a week!) so it’s been 2 months we haven’t spoke. I decided to reach out to him, he was fine with me at first! Then when I mention how I haven’t seen him in ages he says “it’s cause you’re meeting multiple man everyday.” So I said “is this what you really think of me?” He replied “bro, you were about to go on a date while we were talking, it’s not what I think it’s what I know.” Then I explained the situation he thought I was lying.. and said how he isn’t trying to talk to someone whose going on a date with someone.” So then I sent him these screenshots saying to him “just so you know I’m not lying.” After that it’s been 2 days he hasn’t opened my message and he’s avoiding me! I know he’s seen the screenshots though! But now he knows he’s wrong!
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Should I double text him saying “not nice being wrong and judging someone without knowing them is it?” I’m just finding it rude how he’s left me on deliver for 2 days when I gave clear evidence!!!
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So he finally responded with “fair enough x.” He hasn’t put a x ever since the dating incident.
Is he ghosting me cause he knows he’s in the wrong?
OK, this is a person who is obviously in your “friend zone“. He obviously has feelings for you that he thought were probably similar. In his mind, the interactions U2 had together were leading up to a relationship. I imagine that when he saw you were going on another date it was crushing to him. This is not your fault, although I don’t know anything about your all‘s prior relationship or communications. He seems very upset for somebody who was just a “friend“. Are you sure that you didn’t notice that he really may have liked you before this? He’s obviously into you because he almost is acting like he’s been cheated out of his opportunity to date you. And he’s taking it personally which is a sign that he was very emotionally attached to you This is why I warn both men and women about keeping people of the opposite sex in your friend zone. You’re always going to have a few people who feel as if they are “Next In Line“. It’s just like that. Whenever men and women are together somebody’s going to develop feelings so you have to be very careful. This is a perfect example. The bottom line is this, obviously you cannot be friends with this person because of his feelings for you. He cares more about you than you do for him in a romantic sense. Now that it’s in the open you’re not gonna be able to go back to just being friends. Just move on, be polite, but keep your distance. It’s the best way to get past some thing like this. Good luck
Listen, if he's going to be so immature about this are you sure you are going to want to deal with him at all? If you weren't IN a relationship then it's none of his business what you do. Sounds to me like you dodged a bullet. Who needs drama? He sounds immature, he won't listen to you, he'll be unforgiving and not understanding in a relationship. Good riddance.
I think he is ghosting you, cause his ego is hurt. But honestly I wouldn't bother, he jumped to conclusions without even communicating with you first, just cause he probably has a poor self-esteem. He could have just asked you immediately "who is this guy" and everything would've been okay. Or like at least listen to you and not ignoring you for two months, for something he made up in his mind. I think you could show him every prove on this planet and he will still think in his head that you "cheated" ... not worth the effort and energy.
Is it most important that he's wrong and you're right? Your relationship with him is secondary? People make mistakes all the time. Try to create an environment where he can admit to a mistake and grow.
I suggest you talk to him instead of posting on the internet. It seems like you care about him but your pride is stronger than your relationship.
He ghosted you because he probably thought that you and him had something more than what you actually have he probably thought that you and him was exclusive and when he seen that you were still going on dates he thought you was playing games so he ghosted you. When your dating you have to make your intentions clear
He’s not interested in you. Whether he’s wrong or not, it’s time to move on. Why would you want to be with a guy who is petty and makes so many assumptions about you.
Even if this guy recognized he made some incorrect assumptions about you, he hasn’t apologized. I think the risk with him is that you’ll probably have this sort of drama again. If the two of you want to “talk” or “see each other” or make out, I think it would be helpful if you have a conversation to determine what the status of your relationship is. Are you dating each other exclusively? Are you having no strings attached fun? This might help avoid misunderstandings.
A real man would own up to his mistakes and apologize. I've had to do it several times. If I'm wrong I'll admit it. If I'm right, she'll never live in down. Hahaha. Only kidding. Do you really want to have a relationship with a coward
Now I look at it I don’t! He put me off by saying stuff like that to me about meeting so many men. Would you say there was a bit of jealousy there too?
You just said he liked me, now he’s moving on? I literally gave him evidence on how this whole thing was innocent! He could just move past it now.. but instead he’s ignoring me still
