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Am I in the wrong?

So, I had a fight with my boyfriend, and I am having a difficult time understanding who is in the wrong.

so, we were having a conversation where he gave me his opinion. So, I asked him why he thought the thing he thought (no animosity). He explained to me why he thought it. We definitely disagree on the topic, and it’s something I am passionate about, but nothing that is integral to me as a person, lol. Now, from him explanation I got interested in his explanation and so I asked him “when you say ____ what do you mean by that?” So, from his explanation, again, I said “well what about _____” and offered like counter information or a different perspective to his.

It was a fine conversation, and we went back and forth with this, but then he kinda snaps and gets instantly irritated and accuses me of digging at him and picking his opinion apart. I said that all I was doing was asking questions. It’s a topic I am interested in and we have differing opinions, so I want to understand his opinion, while also giving my opinion on the topic. I thought we were having a fine conversation until that point. I was actually shocked he got so irritated so quickly.

he consistently thinks that when we have conversations I am trying ti change or manipulate him when all I am trying ti do is have him see my perspective (because I am someone who likes to explain myself) and give him a new way to look at things that he might not see. I am not trying ti change his mind, but rather have genuine discourse and interesting conversation.

however, this turned into an argument almost instantly. I am trying to see if I really was “picking.” I was just trying to have a conversation with him, but he accused me of having some crappy ulterior motive for trying ti get him ti change his answer ti agree with me. I told him just because I’m asking him questions and offering my side does not mean I am trying to change him. Did I really do something wrong?

Am I in the wrong?
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