I’ve been with my boyfriend for 9 months, it happened out of the blue after being single not having sex for 3 years due to a 10 year marriage to a Narcissist. I hadn’t ever wanted to be in a relationship again!! He showed me different the first couple months, it was happiness. Things changed when I had to use his phone one day, he got a text from another chic he was clearly talking too cheating on me!! I was crushed!! He knew I had been in a 10 year abusive marriage with a constant cheater!! He I was in the same situation, he denied SOO anything wrong!! I found he had been talking to numerous women since we got together. My trust for him diminished that day, has been getting worse ever since!! I constantly find girls he talks too, video chats and meets on his phone. He denies everything has an excuse for all claiming he did nothing wrong!! He has hit me in the head, punched me in the eye and jaw on top of many other physically hurtful things. He doesn’t see he is wrong in hurting me, saying it’s not abuse he didn’t use his hand or fist!! I love him so I have stayed despite trying to walk away numerous times!! He cheated on me when I was in jail for 30 days, lied about it the whole time! I lost my place while locked up he didn’t call my landlord. He had me live with him and the woman he cheated with. I left not long after since he was always bringing up sexual comments. Then walking around in front of her naked, I wasn’t having it!! We got back together, he still is horrible to me always blaming me for everything that goes wrong. He has all these emoji apps, sex games and dares on his phone now. He has several different calling and texting apps too that I have watched him messaging other chicks on. He denies everything even when I catch him red handed!! I try changing to make things better…I am tired of having my heart tore out daily. How can he say he loves me when he has done what he has and have no remorse?
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I have left numerous times!! I love him thinking he will be better every time. I know the truth deep down!! I also don’t have a penny to my name or anywhere to go!!
Guys will tell you, and promise you anything, for sex. That includes having multiple girls in his stable, and most have no idea what is going on. But the real issue is, why are you still there? Why are you complaining instead of leaving? Exactly what holds you back? You are not alone. Seems a lot of women on this site have the same issue. They complain about it, when their feet really should be making tracks and getting far away. Sadly, a lot seem to either miss , or ignore, all the red flags. You are not going to change this douche so make haste to get your feet moving out that front door and don't look back.
drop him like a bad habit, get him out of your life, block him on everything you have. do you have friends or family that could take you in till you get on your feet? that situation is not for you, get yourself out, you are in another abusive relationship. much luck to you, you can do this. leave
Sorry to hear this has happened. Not every guy is like this. You may love who he is, but not what he does. Your better off trying to hopefully find a friend that will help you out by letting you stay with them while you get back on your feet.
You staying in this tells this chump your ok with him hitting and abusing you and it will only get worse. Please find a way out of this. Good luck
I understand that you don't have any money or anywhere to go so that's why you stay with him. He is not going to change. Honestly, you would be better off in a woman's shelter than getting abused. You can go to your local social services office and ask for immediate housing assistance. Tell them you just walked out of an abusive relationship and you have no where to go
Do it too, it’s the only way I found peace in my marriage was to accept that he pays the bills he’s a good dad and we can keep our own secrets. Although if I didn’t have 4 children and a green card I would leave him. You are so beautiful (45+ No way, What’s your secret?) it’s never your fault he looks elsewhere some people are never content, don’t look through his stuff it only hurts you and you’re better than that, if you can’t accept the bad behavior leave.
Abuse comes in many different forms. Those who are abusive willtend to be abusive for awhile then tell you they love you especially when you don't have money or aplacw to go because they know it's hard foryou to leave. They get you believing they love you to the point you accept the abuse. I think you shoukd reach out to friends and family to see if any of them will help you out so you can get away from him. You deserve to be treated better than you have been. I wish you luck
You need to dump him and find someone that loves ya back the same way , He doesn’t love you, he likes the convenience of you, , you need to kick this cheating bastard to the curb and find yourself someone that would t cheat on you
I know times are tough right now and you are financially struggling and he knows that, so that’s why he is treating you like a convenience, and in the same sense you are using him as well , You need to focus on yourself and get away from that narcissistic piece of shit or you are Going to keep going down the same path , People that love each other don’t cheat on each other , the second he cheated is the second you should of kicked him to the curb and valued your self worth , and realize there are better people out there that don’t cheat , you are missing out on true love by hanging on to this douchebag , Get away from him and pretend he doesn’t exist cuz you are only hurting yourself thinking he loves and values you
You need to stop worrying about why he acts this way and question why you find and tolerate these relationships. Call the battered women's shelter in your area; they can help you to leave him.
He has already knew that you ain't going anywhere becouse he knew you have no money and no where to go, that's why he is treating you the way he liked... is better you leave him i know you will definitely find another love
Sorry for being rude and straight forward. But it's your fault to all all this happen to you. Take control of your life and people who you let in your life.
Very sorry to hear your going through that no one deserves that I hope everything gets better for you ☺️ like the picture as well your a good looking woman you will be fine
