In your opinion, are stay at home husbands LAZY or BRAVE?

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AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

Neither. But they have enough inner confidence to shirk social customs, or societal 'norms' and live their life as works best for them and their partner. I think it's a good sign if a man can think independently of others.

WowwGirl · Accepted Answer

Brave its not a easy job

Guy13 · Answer

Hey, put the boy to work with the same exact demand that my Proverbs wife will be doing. Eventually, handling joint monies, home schooling, teaching how and making money from some sort of home Business, and organizing all the secondary things that go into making a power couple successful. Hop to it Daddy Darling.

Send the workhorse out or Mare in this scenario and be the backbone that makes all the crap come together. No time for hanging out with Mommie, Gaming, Masturbating, TV, or Social Media etc...

And yeah, babies take time so get over... you didn't have to pop it out.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Depends on the husband in that situation… No two husbands are the same 😁 my second hubby I guess would have been labeled a stay at home husband once he couldn’t work anymore because of his health but he still helped cook, clean, etc but he did all that even when he was working so 🤷‍♀️

RavVid · Answer

I know a guy who did this for a while. It was a pragmatic decision after he and his wife had a baby. His work had become toxic and they wouldn't allow him to be in the same city when the baby was due and the wife had got a new job lined up for after the birth.

So he quit to be stay at home father. Since then he got a better job and they are swapping parental roles as necessary. I think it was fairly brave to fulfill his role as father at the risk of his career. I know women do this routinely but...

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I would have enjoyed it, if I was able to stay home. I would have taken my daughter everywhere.

I took her to work with me a few times a month. She liked when I was doing fisheries work and collecting herps (snakes, frogs, turtles, etc.). I used to make them dance and sing to her.

She'd ride my back when I waded into water inserting and collecting traps. She loved going in the canoe or the boat. She would pass out in no time.

Qdbrown · Answer

I would say a stay at home dad is either very brave or very foolish.

I personally think every home with children should have a parent home raising the kids, and not some child care play with the workers paid a bit over minimum wage, as you get what you pay for, type care.

The problem is that the wife/mother will have to take a good paying career to make that happen. When she gets there, she is going to be enticed with getting up with guys that are at, or above her level, and women in general are very socially connected creatures. They will seek out those better connections, and when she does, she will begin to lose respect for her dead weight husband. Once she loses respect, in most cases it's just a matter of time.

ShiftingMonke · Answer

To each their own; I've done the SaHD, it drove me crazy. It just made more sense financially at the time. Now I work and she stays at home: we love it.

I dont think less of men who do it, but I hope he pulls his weight around the house and doesn't make her do all the chores when she gets home from work.

Wade12345 · Answer

I need a BWW. I find an intelligent, self-made woman super sexy. I've done tax returns for women like that. They exude confidence. The 90k per year pharmacist makes a joke that her 40k per year husband got a "big" raise this year. lol. If the woman is smart enough to make that much money, why stop her? I'll do the house chores and change baby diapers while she makes the real money!

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t know why it would be “brave”. It’s “just” the same thing as a stay at home wife but not as normalised.

And it’s definitely not lazy. Taking care of a home is almost a full time job and that is something everyone that have lived in an apartment or house by themselves knows.
When you are two or more living together it’s a different thing… but it still takes up a lot of time that could have been real free time… and by having someone staying home and do these things it’s way easier to have quality time with your family when they’re home from school and work.

The problem in many countries however is that it’s to expensive to be a stay at home wife/husband… if I would have a wife that earns enough to comfortably pay for the home, food etc… I could definitely accept being a stay at home husband… or if I would earn enough I wouldn’t mind if my partner would like to be stay at home

genericname85 · Answer

i think the fact that the stay at home husband is not aggressively promoted like the career woman is, shows that politics was really just trying to increase tax generation by making women work. it was never about improving society or "equality" at all.

MysticDevice · Answer

Since you specified stay-at-home HUSBAND and not stay-at-home DAD, i'm gonna say lazy lol.

But, there's nothing lazy about a stay-at-home parent. There's nothing brave either. It's just another thing that has to be done.

Kinkyhubby · Answer

I think it depends on the situation. Over the last 2 years dur to an injury I became the stay at home dad. While my wife was able to hold the course at her job. We both have good paying job, and I'm still bring home good money on disability. It has actually help us, because I'm around more to help out bring the kids to after school activities, when I use to get stuck at work for overtime. It isn't always easy standing up to the norms of society, but in today's world, a lot of people work. crazy hours all around the clock anyway. The only lazy stay at hone dad would be they guy. That doesn't do anything at the house and just plays video games all day.
Any real man that has work hard his entire life; will still work hard maintaining his house.

LivDev · Answer

I find that this question only gets asked as an attempt to rationalize taking the perceived "easier" job. Not some stand against gender norms.

I have no issue with stay-at-home dads Statistically, stay-at-home dads and single dads actually tend to raise children that outperform the children of their female counterparts.

I just don't like the idea that men usually seem to bring this up like being the stay-at-home parent is the easy way out.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Oh shit this is me... am I lazy or brave folks? I'm currently talking my wife into buying me a sex doll. That has more balls than most dudes have to begin with.

And that's why some of you dudes are single. Don't even have a woman willing to support you buying a sex doll and shit... and with her money. Should be ashamed of yourselves.

lightbulb27 · Answer

@midnightmoon05

I'm some of each. I do work and keep busy as I'm a busy body, but I don't go as fast as I once did. Our teamwork is good, so it's working. I think I could go up the hierarchy of self actualization to feel more fulfilled and I'll get there.

TenderFantasy · Answer

There's nothing "Brave" about being a stay at home anything. If you're raising children and taking the place of a SAHM THEN that's okay... otherwise...

Either that or if you're are too disabled to work, THEN you can stay home, but other than that...

or too old and retired..

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

If they don't do housework, they're lazy. If they do everything like a housewife would then they're brave.

Gibbons44 · Answer

Depends. If there's no need to work for an income - both could very happily just be raising children.

If there is, who works and who minds the young ones - question of how to best distribute effort.

That on assumption no crime, no infidelity and no prostitution are involved. Otherwise it is chaos, not marriage.

AsaKyo · Answer

It would be nice if both spouses worked, unless one is physically or mentally handicapped, then that's alright  But if nothing is wrong, then it is lazy

HighValue · Answer

They could be lazy just like the majority of stay at home wives that do far less than the working parent, OR they could be staying at home to help properly educate their kids to counter all the persistent liberal lies taught in schools.

petitedollbabee · Answer

Lazy, unless the wife can easily cover all finances with her job, or if the husband has medical reasons to stay at home. Stay at home fathers are brave though. That’s not easy.

worldscolide · Answer

Neither. Honest to goodness, in this day and age if both partners work but they need only one income, it should be the higher earning partner that works while the other stays home and takes care of the children.

melanieeeB · Answer

I don't think it's brave but normal and healthy ego. If one parent can afford to stay home and both decided it should be the dad, great.

alice55 · Answer

Lazy, extremely lazy and they're also cheater, at least all the one I know have been this ways.

XXblack88 · Answer

neither if the guy wants to keep up with the house and run errands while the woman brings the money home that's between them.

exitseven · Answer

They are neither. The guy and his wife are choosing to live a little differently than most people and if it works for them that is all that counts.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

Neither. If you consider a stay at home wife to not be lazy, than a stay at home husband wouldn't be either. It all depends on the individual and how they handle their responsibilities.

Jdjfjcjj · Answer

They are likely in a female dominant relationship, so it probably won't last too long anyways

CateM · Answer

The only difference I see between a SAHH and SAHW is who stays at home and who works

humanearth · Answer

Brave because many men can't handle it

BarryLiverstone · Answer

It’s not a binary like you suggested. They can at times be lazy and at times brave. It’s just a choice they make with their wives.

Anonymous · Answer

He could be either, or neither. It depends on the circumstances of each case. But if there are children involved, he's a better parent than most mothers are today.

Hardworkingguy · Answer

I believe it depends on the situation however if you're doing it because your wife can get much higher paying than you than perhaps it's a good idea

Anonymous · Answer

I'm a stay at home husband. Except I don't have kids. Or a wife for that matter

jshm2 · Answer

Neither.  Needs must.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I don't know but I'm not into that.

rienna888 · Answer

lazy unless the wife makes millions

Babygirl_S · Answer

Hardworking

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Lazy and a punk.

msc545 · Answer

Brave or indifferent to scorn

Adam1978 · Answer

Neither

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Stunning and Brave.

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