What's the number 1 reason you would reject a man when choosing a partner for relationship?

[RARETRAMP]

[Anonymous]

• High Body Count
• Cheater
• Cheated on his Exes
• Has kids when I don’t
• Is on ChildSupport
• Has STDs STIs, HIV
• Has Tattoos on Hand
• Has Tattoos on Face/Neck
• Smokes anything
• Overweight
• Has no muscles whatsoever, cause who TF are you supposed to defend/ protect family 🤡
• Addict to anything
• Drinker
• Consumer of XXX
• Small under the hood 🤏
• Broke
• Lives with Mom

The only problem is that I can’t find all these features in one guy. It’s one or the other. If the guy is a cheater and has kids and is on child support. It’s likely he’s sexually appealing and has swag as well as a GREAT D-K 🍆.

If he’s overweight, and NOT BROKE. It’s likely that he’s has smaller size. Doesn’t know how to obtain women. Has no swag or confidence, I’ll be turned off sexually. I’ll go dry. He’s likely a PO-RN CONSUMER. He has no testosterone, no muscles, and wouldn’t be able to protect me or the kids. He would be able to feed the kids. But not be able to protect and be in physical fight.

I’d much rather SHARE the PlayBoy, Alpha, CHAD, BRAD PITT, SUPERMAN. Who has STDs, on Child Support, Lives with Mom, Not very Smart, Smokes Cigarettes, Cheated on his Exes due to his likability. Has deep thunderous voice. Can win in a physical fight. Looks like soldier. Looks and is strong. Hands look like he can knock someone out with one hit. I’ll go wet because he’s seductive. He’s something good to look at always. Looks like action figure, Looks like Hero.

.

My animal brain, my reptile brain tells me to go for this man.

If I were to lie to myself to go for someone I’m not visually attracted to. To go for someone who does have a GREAT JOB. Who does have money. But this man is loosing hair, this man is overweight. This man hasn’t lifted a single weight in decades. Sex would be uncomfortable for me. I would find it hard to go wet. And if I marry or stay with someone like this. My reptile brain is gonna make my eyes wonder around. And I’ll still go for the SUPER MAN BRAD PITT. I might end up cheating. I’ll be so miserable and bored with that type of man.

And I’m speaking for every woman. Because when I worked at a mall. The majority of women were banging the CHAD/ BRAD/ SUPERMAN/ BRAD PITT of the entire mall. M—er-F—er looked like a boxer. We all operate with our animal brain. We feel romance and love with our animal brain. Not with logic and reason. This is biological.

[Opinion Owner]

Also those P—RN CONSUMERS.
Those XXX consumers…
It’s likely that those are p—dophiles at this point.
Because the more they consume that, the more that the XXX needs to get crazier and bizarre.
The consumption of that leads a man to watch something with animals or younger people.
It gets more and more demonic.

I wouldn’t want to give birth to children would be abused by some p—edophile. Now pe—phile. Because the XXX turned them into that. They turned into monsters.

The more an unappealing a man is. The more likely it is that he’s consuming that DEMONIC SHT.

This is the reason women seek partners carefully. An attractive CHAD is more likely to get constant attention and he gets real constant sex from women. He not gonna seek an easy out with XXX CONSUMPTION.

This is why women are naturally wired to obtain the best strongest SuperMan we can. We know deep down that this isn’t a troubled individual.
@raretramp

[virtue2332]

Who fucked you over? How does porn turn people into pedophiles. People need to stop living with all of these scare tactics that the spread around trying to control peoples behavior. I dont understand why people act like if a guy sees a naked female he turns into some kind of depraved monster that can't control thier sexual urges. What makes people have unhealthy relationships or problems with porn are all the these insecure people that are afraid of educating themselves by talking about something as natural as sex. Your parents did it probably after watching porn get over it. I hope your dads not a pedo. In all seriousness it is sad that some people turn to porn to find out about what everyone is not talking about because of fear of being shamed. Its crazy how fucked up people are about something that is the sole reason we all are here. We all are sexual beings and the ones who chose not to be will be the ones who are the last branch on that family tree. Your gene pool was not strong enough to move on to the next round. That's why you all secretly want the chad that sleeps around has hight numbers with that good D. Its because he is what offers you the best chance of your gene pool moving on to the next round. Dont worry we are evolving and im sure that the big strong protector will fade and your great great grand children will grow to want that nerdy guy that can control tech and science because that will probably be the best chance to pass on those genes unless Chad keeps on thumping and taking it by force

[Opinion Owner]

@virtue2332
If I breed with some inbred looking guy. Lacks testosterone. Lacks masculinity. Is overweight.
Consumer of P—RN daily.

My kids are gonna be born with defects. They’re gonna be born with hormonal issues. Something will go wrong.

[Anonymous]

Men that rush or clingy is annoying for girls at 20s that was me you feel like you have time!
But once you get into 30s you went thing to evolve asap you don’t have time anymore to be girlfriend and boyfriend for 5 years , travel for 2 years and getting to know each other for 9 years. I’ll die from natural causes of old age if I wait 16 years. I am not saying things get done in a month but time is precious at 30s + 40s etc for both MEN AND WOMEN — ideally don’t spend time to find if they are the one within 3-6 months that’s All.


I would reject only because I’m simply not attracted to him MENTALLY.. men who don’t find jokes normal part of life and also never joke. Men who are stingy with helping and showing some care. Also when they are very perverted how they see things sexually etc When they don’t even TRY at all to ask for you number or anything and yet they get sad why women don’t like them it’s like wtf!! You didn’t even try~ I call them marshmallow men’
Things like this..

[Sunssong]

I think people should be how you are but in their 20s. I think the reason people aren't is because they dont actually know what they want. I don't agree with calling men marshmallow men because neither of you pulled the trigger; especially in 2023.

[Opinion Owner]

Honestly nowadays especially in the US life is a mess. Marrying at your 20s might be damaging. Especially if you are a men and have a child and get divorced that’s saying bye to your life..

So waiting a little more into 30s and knowing you won’t get divorced is way better. Than rushing just for an early “fun”

[pass_the_celery98]

I don't think marrying at your 20s is damaging. It's rare but if two people find each other and have good morals and ethics and are genuinely two good people who don't give a fuck about what the rest of the world is following they should be fine. Back in 1990s which wasn't that long ago, it was normal for people to get married in their 20s. It's just that people waste their time in their 20s hanging out with bad crowds and bad friends with bad influence. End of the day, a friend you were cool with in high school may drift apart from you 10 years later. I like the traditional sense, finding someone, settling down. I don't care for this idea of going to strip clubs, having sex with different girls and then settling down because I "experienced" life in my 20s with doing rambunctious shit.

[blueonblack22]

Of course multiple girls have long laundry lists of reasons on this one. Of course of course

If you want to have “standards” fine. But never have higher standards for the person you want to date then you have for yourself.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Well the number one reason would be because I'm a straight male, but also if he doesn't compliment my eyes or notice when I got a new hair style

[OddBeMe]

Your butts been lookin good lately too.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Omg, you're making me blush! Stop it!

[OddBeMe]

Boy, you been pumpin them free weights!

[WanderingLoveWizard]

And I'll be pumpin that dick too soon, daddy!
(Too far?)

[OddBeMe]

Never

[WanderingLoveWizard]

😘..

[Bethany22]

If he's definitely prone to cheating. I could put up with him smelling like drugs and cigarettes, and drinking problems (as we could always get separate bank accounts), but the thought of him giving me stds from all his other relationships is the final straw.

[Avicenna]

Women usually reject a guy because they don’t find him attractive

[Rosexøxø]

He didn't LOVE ME

amen. 😌

[DubiousIntentions]

If he had more ink on him than in a 20-volume

set of Encyclopedias.

[ElGato31]

Number one reason is him not being alternative. I like alternative music, I dress like that, I'm into odd stuff. If he is "normal" (I don't mean anything bad by it), we are not on the same wavelength.

Number two is lacking confidence AND sense of humour.

[Anonymous]

I have a bunch of number ones. I'm going to list a few.

Temper

He cheated

He did hardcore drugs

He has a incurable STD

He is a drinker

He smokes cigarettes/vapes

He's bad with money/diamond Jim Brady

He can't keep a job

He's an ex-convict

Tattoos on his neck/face

Not a man of his word

I hope that answers your question.

[Razp_Sorbet]

There could be a whole lot of reasons, would be hard to narrow it down to just one. Usually it isn't just one reason either it's a few. Like being dishonest, being rude, no respecting boundaries, being overly sexual from the get go.

[LivDev]

I don't put up with submissiveness or low confidence from a guy. MASSIVE ick and SUPER draining. I'd rather have to ask him to ease off the machismo than tell him to man up.

[OddBeMe]

Really? That bugs you more than the machismo controlling thing?

[LivDev]

@OddBeMe Yeah. Because there are legal/social reprocussions for trying to take control I'm not willing to give them yet. It's a self-regulating "problem" for 99% of normal men. The vast majority guys have the self-control to not lose their minds because you aren't mindlessly obeying them.

It's not illegal to be a little bitch, and I'm not their mom. So yeah, it bugs me more.

I want a man. If I wanted a pet, I'd get a dog.

[OddBeMe]

Obviously the guys above are extremes. But what legal reporcussions you talking about? Just in a relationship it’s best to have as close to 50/50 as possible right?

[LivDev]

@OddBeMe I can go to civil court and file a domestic restraining order against you for basically any reason. Without needing to notify you either. And the moment you violate it (even without knowledge of it) it's a potential felony. Just as one example of the "repercussions".
The law is wildly and super unfairly (let's be honest) skewed in our favor. So unless my judgement fails me and I pick Buffalo Bill, I'm pretty confident I'll be okay.
Machismo and excessively controlling don't go hand in hand and to pretend it does just insecure internet virgin talk. It includes things like manliness and virility, things that make you feel safe, wanted, protected, etc.

I don't know, call me old fashioned in that way but I'm not looking for a roomate when I consider a relationship.
So like, define 50/50. Because that could mean tons of things and I think most people don't actually even want true 50/50. They want it went it's convenient and then gender roles when it isn't.

[OddBeMe]

Yeah women do get special treatment. You are most likely to be the victims of crime. So I’m not sure there’s a massive civil rights issue yet against us men yet.

[LivDev]

@OddBeMe That's statisically incorrect even within the confines of relationships but it is true that we're probably easier to kill without premeditation so... I guess there maybe could be a case for the special treatment. Even if it technically does fly in the face of "equal before the law".
It's not very feminist tho :T

[OddBeMe]

No women are waaaay more likely to be victims of violent crime.

[LivDev]

@OddBeMe Objectively and verifiably incorrect :T

I'm sure this patronizing, white knight routine goes over well with other girls but it's lost on me. A feminist, I am not.

[OddBeMe]

They’re not the only victims dummy. But
https://bjs.ojp.gov/content/pub/pdf/fvv.pdf

[LivDev]

@OddBeMe There's more than a few reasons why using. gov tables and interactions that require a police report is a statistical faux pas when it comes to interpersonal gender relations, but! I see your point I think.

That being said, there are TONS of other disparities in crime by demographics that we as a society still don't tolerate as basis for discrimination. (i. e. African Americans being treated differently despite unfortunate crime by race statistics. Or the fact women are more likely to kill their daughter than men are.)

Equal before the law means EQUAL before the law. Not "Using irrelevant external context to this circumstance, we're gonna justify treating you like X"
Men receive worse sentences than women for the same or equal crime across most all measures.

I shouldn't have to go to these lengths to get the point across that there shouldn't be special treatment in the justice system. Regardless of how chivalrous it makes people feel.

I also don't think clogging up the answer section of this question with all this crap is a very considerate thing to do.

[OddBeMe]

How else would we measure it? If not by police? Or Dept of Justice?

[LivDev]

@OddBeMe Men and women are both not 100% likely to report those kinds of things, especially police reports. Men much less so. Because there is little sympathy or resources for men in those situations.
You can measure it all you want; but forming legal precedents and mindsets against or for groups based on stats like that is beyond stupid, regardless of the evidence the data may be incomplete.

For example >2% of the population makes up over 40% of pedophiles. Are you gonna start gay-bashing? Advocating for harsher standards for openly homosexual people to work around children? Are you gonna support racism against or in favor of any group based on crime stats? No. Because that's dumb af.
We should be treated like everyone else.

The country and justice system are supposed to go off of individual value and individual responsibility. Not some group culpability garbage.

[OddBeMe]

I understand that, but we go off the numbers we have. Maybe make things easier and more assaults are reported. But basing shit off “feel facts” is how we got Trump.

[LivDev]

@OddBeMe
I knew it. What a waste of my time.

[OddBeMe]

Sorry I base my decisions off verified data. Good day to you!

[HelpMe06]

I would reject someone if they become too clingy too quickly. I always get scared if they start that way then eventually when they get more attached they will become controlling.

[devilish-cutie]

I am not attracted to him; if i am attracted than if he is too experienced, that really puts me off :)

[MsTaniaUncensored]

If he doesn't have a job or any drive to get one then i think he needs to get life in order before dating.

[Sour-rose]

Because they wanna fk something, but I don't wanna be fked. Just cuddle with me or sum' but no sex. Ever. :)

[melanieeeB]

Lack of true confidence but there are a lot of other important reasons why I would reject someone, that one would be the first that I would notice

[Still-alive]

Do you feel like i got it from what you noticed about me? :p

[melanieeeB]

Until now and just from knowing you online, yeah haha

[Still-alive]

Sweet. You seem pretty sharp with that stuff so had to ask lol

[melanieeeB]

Thanks, I really appreciate that!

[HappyWoman34]

Because he seems mentally unstable or he takes too long to make up his mind about a relationship or plays games.

[sheenagwapa]

if i don't trust you enough that you'd be loyal. i get that there are lots of beautiful interesting women out there but i need peace and security in the relationship

[JosyJosy]

I have too many "Fuck No's" but not having moved on from his past relationship is a big one.

[scooogy]

As if it was about me 😬

[TrueConfection]

Assuming already that he's drug free, straight, and doesn't have any communicable diseases... Smoking.

[CreatingWonders]

Lies, cheating, playing video games 24/7, personal hygiene, has the personality of a tree. Anger issues.


If I got a bad feeling about the person. Many things could trigger me to not want to speak with you again.

[katiesmuff]

He is unfaithful, lazy, trouble seems to find him are a few of the reasons.

[catiecatie]

How he acts and can be age too. Sometimes looks can be a thing as well.

[Singing_Hollow]

There isn't just 1 thing. but 1 of the things id say is if a man is unsure of himself or me.

[desidoll]

Smoker, alcoholic, on drug, jobless, non-believer (I’m a Christian) and stingy.

[Stressyalaire]

I don't get along with him. To the point that even friendship wouldn't work why bother, yeah?

[Amy10223]

Bad hygiene or bad teeth, a nasty temperament or too controlling/demanding.

[welcomemen]

Bad hygiene, I don’t like his personality or I don’t like his looks.

[Gibbons44]

I wouldn't have a romantic/sexual in any way, relationship, with a male. Simply feel no need and no attraction towards males.

[Anonymous]

It's clear to me she's just not in it with me. ALL relationships take work. I'm not getting involved with a woman that from the outset demonstrates she doesn't want to do her share of the work. I'll just save us both the trouble.

[DancingQueen16]

I could never be with someone who's super serious because I like to laugh

[Chthou95]

I love how no woman is mentioning being physically unattractive because this is one of the biggest and most common reasons a lot of men get rejected. The poltical correct crowd is amusing

[KrissAvarr00]

I would say probably attractiveness, emotional stability, financial security, ability to support both physically and emotionally. Lots of reasons no doubt.

[jennifer_bloom]

Stingy or dishonest

[Ifkyngng]

You delete people’s answersn

[EmmaMary]

The list is far too long.

[Catharine_N]

Doesn't act like a man

[Catharine_N]

By that I mean like he is rude, arrogant, etc. I don't mean like he has to be big and have muscles. I like guys who show respect, nice to everyone, etc.

[SnowedIn]

I was told "too nice" once.

[Pacquet]

I hate when women say that, it doesn’t make sense. I’ll usually reply with “I’m not nice, I show respect” and then I step on their shoes to show them how mean I can be.

[SnowedIn]

Lmao...

[Nikki1989]

No common interests.

[Biancam13]

A personality I do not like.

[Puppystarfish23]

Bad with money and likes sleeping around

[Flower7]

He’s too arrogant.

[DarkLegacy]

Because i am straight, lol

[jshm2]

That he is a man, and I am also a man?

[fonduegirl]

He's got gambling problems

[singlemombizz]

BODY ODOR! dresses like a bum, no taste

[megabamse]

Well my nr 1 reason would be the fact it is a man

[Babygirl_S]

A high body count (>4)

[NostalgiaSenpi]

That I'm not homosexual

[Anonymous]

Illiterate/ cannot write or speak properly

[Ellierome001]

Emotional immaturity.

[Anonymous]

Being cheap or half gay.

[Xoxocutekitty]

Lack of maturity.

[LovingLoverReturned]

Evil.

[Annie_16]

I can't trust them to be loyal or honest

[Anonymous]

Bad track records from previous relationships

[Anonymous]

Because I like women and not men.

[TT1227]

Selfishness.

[Blackcupcake]

he’s selfish

[MeiAndYou]

Lies or is very mean

[Sam2021]

Religion

[magiusX26]

am a hetero guy

[Anonymous]

No chemistry.

[WowwGirl]

Immaturity