Would you stay with someone who’s cheating?

Question

I know of some people in my life that have stayed with them but not understanding why

Gibbons44 · Accepted Answer

Short answer: no.

Long answer: first of all, all should be open and up for agreement. Certainly no hidden agendas allowed - at a minimum, those preclude complete intimacy, which is the best part of being in a relationship.

Sexual variety - it's a question how much of that, if any, is needed. The worst of it would be a person who gives themselves such rights but gets insanely jealous at even eye contact of their partner. At a minimum, I'd want equal. Is she was happy for me to engage in sexual intercourse with other females and I was her only male - I suppose I'd accept having such a right. Not certain I'd practice it, though, because a day only has 24h and any of those I can - quality time - I'd probably want to spend with her, not with another girl. Plus, assuming we'd be getting to pregnancy, childbirth - with working, politics, responsibilities, and the rest of logistics of life (whether getting sick or dealing with climate change etc) - would there even be time to get involved with any other female (except non-sexually, e. g. female colleagues or managers etc)? It all seems easy enough on TV, but real life gives thousands more options and isn't directed nor produced nor choreographed by others - it's as huge a responsibility as can be imagined, with budgets one has to earn (snd account for and even defend legally) by themselves. Endless effort, endless reward - and balance to be found and crafted/defined individually. In that regard, any cheating is catastrophic, so, I would not accept it/would kick out such a person out of my life right away.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Like my boss. I'm convinced that her husband is not around. He is a truck driver whose only has two nights off a week and the work different hours. I know this because she has mentioned this to me before. Said they were like two ships in the night and when he is home they (her and their kid have to be quiet so he can sleep. Also she has to do everything run errands and take care of her kid. While you guessed it works. You can't tell me that isn't by design and she can't possibly be happy with that. She works all the time as a manager and I don't think she gets the appropriate attention or appreciation that that woman deserves.

That's where I come in, though married myself, I spend the days in the office daydreaming about her and chatting with her innocently of course building up and praising. I even bought her a gift card to her favorite restaurant with a thank you card. That has to feel good to someone to finally get that attention from somebody to feel like you are alive and wanted and valued. I spend the nights at home up alone doing all the household work myself so I know exactly what she's feeling.

PrettyPriya · Accepted Answer

Not a chance in this world. I would never for a second stay with that person or have anything to do with them ever again. That would be it for us, forever. Cheating is the most despicable act of betrayal in a relationship in my opinion. It is unforgivable.

There are certain things that I think are key to a good relationship. At the top of that list are things like trust, respect and communication. Technically, once cheating has happened, you have ruined all three of those things.

Trust is the obvious one. I am never going to be able to trust someone that betrayed me by cheating. Just not going to happen. The other obvious one is respect. What sort of person that respects their partner would go behind their back and cheat, whether physically or emotionally?

Last thing about communication still applies. You are communicating with your partner. You are sneaking around. So, I think the things I value most in a relationship would all be broken after my partner cheated on me. That is basically game over for him should that ever happen.

crazy_worthless · Accepted Answer

Unfortunately, I've stayed... . . w/ my ex ,... a few times
I honestly do not know
& my husband, who I'm still w/today. 1 night he never came home. I waited & waited all night long. He never showed. So 7:30am next morning I went to his parents house where I felt like he was. I was right. &more I feel like other things time have happen. I can feel it n my gut. He'll never admit to it tho. There's been waaaaay too many red flags & signs that say he's been FUCK'N around on me for over 20 years.
... yet I still stay

Guy13 · Answer

If they are married then I understand why, otherwise, I don’t understand it either. Insecurity and living in Fear life is a terrible to subsist

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

Not for anything in the world. I'm so gone. Or rather, she is.

mstbooblover · Answer

The answer on such a question is not easy, because as always the circumstances and the plain human nature have an influence. Indulging or not depend on many factors.

My wife, as far as I know of course, never cheated on me, and would never have accepted me to do that, but to be honest, a very few times I was not far to indulge due to circumstances.

Getting involved with a partner, married to or not, does not make all other potential partners disappear as by magic. I like the female nature, and thus indulging or not outside an existing relation is a matter of choice which, let's face it, may not always be that easy to make. Let's not emit judgments too quickly.

To answer your question, if my wife would have cheated on me, I would most probably have stayed with her, because we felt good with each other and had regularly good sex. I guess in some circumstances it may even have been rewarding to have very occasionally a third partner ;0)

Anonymous · Answer

Only if she cheated on me with a girl.

Before anyone attacks me, at least hear me out...
First of all, it's kind of hot, so I'll just get that out the way. But there's also no competition aspect to it, in my opinion. If she sleeps with another guy, that would hurt because she can get that from me, and what makes him better than me? I'm supposed to be her man.
But if it's with a girl... I mean, I don't have a vagina. She can't get that from me, so if she's into that, more power to her. I don't care.

Maybe it's stupid, but I've just never had a problem with it. I've heard all the arguments why I should, but I simply disagree

Sorrento-Sun · Answer

No. I value loyalty above all else. If someone can't be loyal, all of their other qualities would be worthless.

Once someone breaks my trust, it can never be regained or rebuilt by the person who broke it. If someone cheats, it shows you what their future potential is. Infidelty is painful, so I'd never put myself in a position for them to hurt me that way again.

Anonymous · Answer

Not likely.

If they’re hot. I’d just cheat back. Get a side piece. A side plate. A BOY TOY.

I’d do his best friends. His hot Dad. His brother. A BBC. 😈 He brought it on himself so…. WHY TF NOT 🤷🏻‍♀️You’re not about to make me look stupid. 🖕

hIopinionated_ · Answer

That’s something I would never ever do and they better be really good at being a manipulative cheater because when I find out, it’s over. I don’t care what the situation is, how long we were together, the nonexistent children we have, etc. It would be over and they would be dead to me

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I think some people feel as though they to invested in the relationship to quit or they are just afraid to be alone and start over, so they put up with their SO's indiscretions.

I myself could not do that. If I essentially take a vow to be faithful in the relationship, then I expect the same. It is not only disrespectful but it shows the person's true character.

curiouswomman · Answer

A few years back my stance on this is clear: hell no! I’d immediately turn my back on him, move forward with my life, and never return. Right now I would say, it depends on the severity, reason, my love for him and my love ones who will be deeply affected by the decision that I’m going to make.

Our mom stayed with our polygamous dad to keep our family whole. She sacrificed her freedom, happiness, and life for us—her daughters. The was part about it is that we misjudged our mom because dad was more amicable and fun to be around than our strict mom. When the truth came out after our dad’s passing, we apologized, thanked her, hugged her, and said we’re here now, mama. Our relationship with her now is great, she’s at her happiest! 🙂

Angelo75 · Answer

That person can't live on his/her own financially.
Kids.
Afraid of being alone.
Or even because he/she feels that he/she can't fully satisfy the cheater. So as long as the rest of life goes on, he/she will tolerate it.

The list is long.

Bottom line is, a lot of people do it.

Vegasrunner · Answer

The type of man that can cheat isn't going to concern themselves w/ a woman that wants to cheat he's simply going to replace her. For a better version, when women cheat to get back they fail to understand that they are only raising other men's body count while lowering their overall value.

Anonymous · Answer

As someone who has stayed with a man that’s cheated in the past…absolutely not! I was young and thought he would change but they never do. If they respected you enough and truly loved you cheating wouldn’t even cross their mind! Goes for both men and women!

JDAC092299 · Answer

Only if I wanted revenge by making my cheating partners life a living hell, Same goes for her other man lol in other words I’d only stay to gather information on them both to use later after or during the relationship they have with me 👌

Sunssong · Answer

Well I want to say no but I know the cure to cheating and so it they were truly willing I could cure them of it however I just dont think I could stay with them. I'd rather just start anew.

Sun_Kim-Ai · Answer

I've already said that my opinion will be unpopular, but depending on the situation, I could stay with someone who cheated on me. I actually did in the past.

Dachshund_guy · Answer

I did. Big mistake. She didn't really love me. We were married 18 years when we got divorced. She just went through the motions for 11 years after she cheated.

RockyHammock · Answer

No I wouldn't. Her cheating shows me that she has no respect for our relationship. A lack of respect will have many other issues down the line and its impossible to get back once broken. End it now and end it mercilessly

Valso · Answer

NO! At the first sign of cheating - a kick in the butt and farewell! If I can be faithful, so he/she should be as well! I forgive many things and I'm open minded about many things, but cheating ain't one of them!

pergamon300 · Answer

No way. No matter how sorry they act, they'll either do it again, or at the very least, you can't trust them again.

ManOnFire · Answer

Somebody who could stay with a cheater does not respect themselves in the least.

Amy10223 · Answer

No. I could not stand a cheater. The trust would be gone.

Stressyalaire · Answer

I have, for revenge. Me and the other showed up at the same time and dunked our drinks on his head.

LavLavLuv · Answer

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Anonymous · Answer

of course not!! if they cheat it means they don't love you enough and decided to ditch you for someone else..

Dargil · Answer

Cheating is the ultimate betrayal. Violence of the mind. I'm gone.

douride2 · Answer

Not a chance I would stay with a cheater. You cheat your out on the street.

es20490446e · Answer

No, because I want to be with someone who I can trust.

rienna888 · Answer

Because they love them and don’t think they can do better

AdithyaR · Answer

Nope, never can, never will. I'd be out of there faster than cat on 3am zoomies.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, but there would be consequences, rules and enforcement mechanisms he or she would absolutely loathe in order to make it work.

jennifer87 · Answer

I've been through this, he was cheating online and started getting angry at me, because in his mind, i wasn't good enough. Never stay with a cheating partner.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Women would rather share an Alpha than be stuck with a faithful beta.

TheAfrikan · Answer

Unless when it is a Netflix 🎬 show, but real life nope.

Jjhgygg · Answer

I love being cheated in makes my sex life more exciting no knowing which std is coming next

Anonymous · Answer

With me or on me? Makes a difference you know

Puppystarfish23 · Answer

Not a chance in hell

Agape93 · Answer

Nope. I don't hate myself that much

Flower7 · Answer

Ew, no. That problem would only get worse.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

If the sex was good I would think about it.

Nikki1989 · Answer

No, I would be gone in a heartbeat.

megabamse · Answer

Nope I'm out of there right away

BrookeS · Answer

Never Stay With Them!

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

Nope. They betrayed me.

Echosoul · Answer

No. No respect for them.

mathew1543 · Answer

I've done it before but not anymore

xJayleenx · Answer

Hell to the no

Teriyaki70 · Answer

Absolutely not

Jltakk · Answer

Happens a lot around me and I just don't get it.

Anonymous · Answer

No, I'm not a cuckold.

straightmax12 · Answer

Hell no. Once you cheat on me, we're fucking done.

tzdc21 · Answer

Uh... no

Akam93 · Answer

Hell no.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Nope.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I cheat too

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Am I a cuck? No.

DreamGlow · Answer

Heck no

LiamJHayden · Answer

Never.

Gabriel-Chicanito · Answer

Do the same?

Anonymous · Answer

No, not at all.

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