Would you stay with someone that kept accusing you of cheating even though you weren't?

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babyharper · Accepted Answer

From my experience, typically the one accusing without reasonable suspicion is the guilty party... When I got to the point that I knew my wife (now ex wife because of her actions ) was cheating on me, I say her down and had a civil conversation with her, offering her the option to get/have a girlfriend or boyfriend or both, as long as she had the decency to tell me before hand, so I wouldn't look like a fool and could also go do my thing on the side and/or possibly participate in her ventures. Well, she was like oh hell no, that's just fucked up, why would you even offer me that option? Wel, turns out she was fuking a chick behind my back (that I wouldn't have minded getting tangled in between the two of them) well I moved out because she didn't have the decency to to respect my wishes. They ended up splitting up and my wife moved back in with me. Rhings went good for about 2 months, she was sucking my dick and would pin me down to the bed and ride me till we both got off, then I'd take over and try to destroy her pussy, like hate/angry vengeance grudge fuck wither doggy style or with one of her legs on my shoulder and the other under me... So about 2 months go by, and all of a sudden it's like she completely lost interest in our sex life and was always looking for an excuse for me to take our child with me. Turns out she was having an affair with my neighbors 24-year-old unemployed son who had just got out of prison. So, to sum it all up I guess it just depends on how you look at it. What you're willing to let happen and how open/ adventurous you are in he bedroom

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

I would say it's a major red flag, and not just because it's wrong to accuse people of such trash.

Think about this... why are they accusing so much?

There is a healthy chance that unwarranted accusations stem from what they are doing themselves. It's like cheating 101 to accuse the person you're cheating on for cheating so you don't get caught cheating yourself... or to justify your cheating if you get caught.

I think you're linked up with a cheater... or... If you're texting with guys and going to clubs, you're obviously really are a future cheater and just don't know it yet. He probably sees the writing on the wall, but you don't see it and are probably still in the phase of "I would never do that," until you fuck around so much you'll find out he was right all along. I don't know, I'm not there and I just don't know if that is really you or not.

I would need more context to be absolutely sure about what is going on.

But yeah, either you are, or they are... it shouldn't be such a fucking issue if it's just not part of the equation. Look at it mathematically like that.

Beatrix7 · Accepted Answer

if they wanted me to prove it i would secondly i would say u want me to prove it another thing if they are giving you signs they are ask them to prove it if ure a l9ver you have a right ask them if they can show you there phone if they say no they are defos upto some shit behind your back because lovers have a right to look at each others phone it should be aloud if they dont something is wring thats why i knrw my ex was and he was for 2 years if he didn't have abything to hide he would have proved it and wouldn't carry his phone every where after a year of a relashionship he started cheating if you feel this watch your lover like a hawk like i done with mine listend to everything he said watched his body laungage his eyes his reactions his nerves smile words dont miss a thing if you think they are but also ask them to prove it first to see if they are willing to do it and if they react in a nasty way they dont want to talk about it cause they have done something bad keep ure eyes and ears open more than your legs when ut comes to this to find out if he's cheating

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

What about if a person has evidence that the guy is cheating, and he stands his ground and says he's not cheeting when he really is. Then he tells you if you accuse him one more time of cheating that he will move out and leave you.
Evidence such as coming home wearing a black hoodie that wreaks with some nasty cologne on it? Says he will be gone one hour, which turns into 3 or 4? He has a prescription for erectile dysfunction pills, but when you find the bottle, all of the pills are gone. Used up, but not with you? Says they didn't work, yet he get's a prescription in the mail every month and you find the empty bottles again and again and all he says is they don't. He didn't even try with you.
So, everytime he is gone for hours at a time, and you don't know where he is, and he denies cheating, what are you supposed to do? What about the fact that he never ever answers his cellphone when you call and there is no voicemail set up?
This is a different situation but it still comes down that the person being accused will leave you if you ask him about it.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

He is only saying this to shift the focus away from his unemployment. Is he drinking and using drugs, also?

AviatorTom · Answer

Your boyfriend is trying to control you by making you feel guilty. You can do better. Time to say Goodbye boyfriend.

Summeroflove · Answer

No… There isn’t a point. If I knew I did nothing wrong and they kept on. I would probably find someone else

Lliam · Answer

Nope.

He's trying to find ways to manipulate you into letting him move in and leach off of you.
By accusing you of cheating, he is hoping that you will fall for his ploy by proving that you are dedicated to him by letting him move in. What a worm.

He wants free sex and a place to live. He doesn't love you because love is built on trust. If he doesn't trust you, he doesn't love you. He doesn't even know you.

What does this guy have to offer besides dick?

Would you even consider letting a good for nothing like that impregnate you?

If I was with someone who accused of cheating, I'd dump them in an instant.

Leapfrog00 · Answer

I was with a girl that used to accuse me of cheating. From my experience, people who accuse you of cheating are the ones cheating. Use extreme caustion with this.

There are ways you can find out. Ask him why he thinks you are cheating? Then, ask him if he's been with any other girls. Then ask him again. When his story changes and he keeps adding to it, that means he's cheating.

Has he been doing a lot more nicer things for you? That can be sign too, but a lot of times that one's a hit or miss. I'd still keep an eye out.

Ask him why he thinks you're a cheater and whatever excuse he gives you, tell him straight out that you believe he's cheating and see how he responds. (Don't accuse him, just ask) If he gets upset, he's probably cheating.

Do yourself a favor and break up with him. This is only going to break your heart in the end. You can do so much better!

Alexandrubaschet08 · Answer

Toisix mentality, personaly i will not even deal whit it.
In your case i will make thins kinde of ridiculos acusations if they are not true even more worst, telling things that will shok him and make him even more paranoic.
My girlfriend have anxiety and depresion and some time she come whit come ridiculos acusations in that moment i'm telling moust of the time that they are true and i alwase did what she belive whit no proves.
Then she calm down because is kinde imposible to mach all the bad acusation just by guesing.
So she make a step back.

CrypticMoon · Answer

Sooooo this is called "abusive behaviors". He's trying to control you by baby-trapping you, isolating you, and then accusing you of the very thing he's most likely doing himself (why else would he accuse you?) Red flags all over. If you have a baby with this man he will ruin your life.

Mangospacho · Answer

So basically he won’t get a job and he will ONLY “give” you a baby, which I’m assuming you want and he doesn’t but he’s willing to negotiate if there’s a good deal. Why do you stay with this guy? He’s not only accusing you of cheating; he’s a child in a man’s body. He’s just magically going to become a responsible human being only if you let him mooch off of you by moving in?

coconut94 · Answer

No, I’ve been there and that is a sign of a deeper insecurity issue that isn’t just about cheating. I left a man when this started happening. The cheating accusations were just the front page to a full book of insecurities I could never fix.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Dated a girl who did that, eventually I asked her to stop because it was beginning to make me think she was thinking about cheating and the fit she threw after was a great hint that I didn't catch in the heat of the moment.

Belgie · Answer

Hell no. Accusing me without giving me any benefit of the doubt? Why are you even in my life? Doing it more than once? Get the fuck outta here.

Justmeagain1 · Answer

I have stayed, I tried to help him heal and it didn’t work- doomed I tell ya doomed unless he gunna have a big glow up about his self worth and baggage he carrying

glennos89 · Answer

Sooner or later it will be fatal for the relationship. If there is no thrust... you can't build a stable relationship

richardcory · Answer

I wouldn't. Trust matters to me - and of course needs to go both ways

NathanDavis · Answer

nope... if I wanted endless drama, I would just watch all seasons of Grey's Anatomy instead...

Iron_Man · Answer

I would take my cell phone and every time that she would call me up that I’m out I would videotape the place and say today’s date and time and show her that there’s nobody here until she finally realized

Jocktober · Answer

You can't really prove a negative, so I'd say you have to just plain tell him, maybe even yell, that you're not and he needs to stop. And if he can't, it's better to move on. It's not a hassle you should have to deal with constantly.

MementoMori777 · Answer

The truth is that I can't blame her because the world is fucked so I'd assure my loyalty to her, I'd offer her my phone and stuff

TacosRAwesome · Answer

No I wouldn't. I'd probably laugh in his face for thinking that. On a more serious note, you need to figure out what to do with that boyfriend of yours.

Gent207-2 · Answer

I better have done something terrible because otherwise it's not worth it.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

No, but before I leave I dare him to prove it. Cause if I leave he might think it is just because I'm cheating.

itsaboutthyme · Answer

Your boyfriend sounds like he needs a job, not a plan to impregnate you, wtf

bolverk · Answer

If I was accused of cheating the relationship would be done, Period.

Jazzy54 · Answer

No. That person (the accuser) is either paranoid or cheating themselves.

Anonymous · Answer

If they want to b-ch about you 🫵 cheating when you’re not. GIVE THEM A REASON To B-CH 😆😆

Fireguy17 · Answer

No. You either trust me or you don't. If you don't I am gone.

itsalyssaagain · Answer

If someone keeps accusing you of cheating it’s because they’d cheat or are cheating on you.

Anonymous · Answer

Hard to say, but it would definitely make me question what I might be doing that makes him insecure.

LiamJHayden · Answer

No. I don't cheat. The first time she accuses me, I show her the door. I have no tolerance for manufactured drama.

Greenbins · Answer

I'd try to work it out first... and if that didn't work I'd move on.. it's soooo annoying being accused of things.. the worst part is they usually accuse you of stuff they did or do

es20490446e · Answer

Do you feel guarded up most of the time due to how he behaves?

Reorx · Answer

No, from what I observe constant accusations of cheating when you haven't been is them projecting they are.

Anonymous · Answer

No way because if they kept accusing me of cheating then to me that means their the one more likely to cheat

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Stop dating losers. Problem solved

slatyb · Answer

No, I wouldn't. The first time would be the last.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Probably not.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I would cheat.

AimeeKyle · Answer

No. It would be a waste of time.

Sparkie460 · Answer

No. I'd get tired of the accusations and I'd leave

Wise4myage · Answer

No, that sounds like a nightmare to me.

whereismyjohnny · Answer

Nope.

shades777 · Answer

Thats an obvious no...

EaterPeter · Answer

I have, should have left sooner

Actor3 · Answer

No and you should not too

Andres77 · Answer

Nope

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

Nope.

Anonymous · Answer

Most Girls do, But I wouldn't though.

LavLavLuv · Answer

Oh bye

dudeinohio · Answer

Nope

Anonymous · Answer

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eagle1951 · Answer

probably not

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