Honestly I have mixed feelings about this...
I'm poly, so I totally get her having either feelings, lust or both for another man.
And I wouldn't mind sharing her if I trust both of them...
But if she did it without telling me and asking for my consent then it's cheating also in a poly context...
There's such a thing as pilyfidelity after all.
And she would have violated my trust in her...
I'd probably *try* to make it work.
But honestly it's kind of hard to overcome that violation of trust.
You're incredibly vulnerable in a relationship, you're lowering your guard to let someone else into your heart, trusting them not to hurt you.
How can you do that again after they've violated that trust?
If we're good at communication perhaps we can overcome it.
But it's hard...
And no, I wouldn't be angry.
It's not her fault that she had those feelings.
But she could have handled it better and been honest with me.
Ps. I've shared a girl before, it's not easy.
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Well it all depends. I have gotten involved with women that I questioned before. But the sex was good so see not evil hear no evil. I enjoyed it for as long as it lasted. But I never got my feelings hurt over it honestly. Once you suspect a person is cheating they probably are... but it all depends on where you are in the relationship and if you are getting what you want out of it for the time being.
No I would never marry a women that cheated on me, but I would not necessarily or immediately break up with her. If the sex is good I might let her know that I know but I am not upset about it if she still wants to keep hooking up or whatever.
I never cheated... and as look back I wish I had on few women when I had the chance.
Absolutely not! Sexual discipline is something that I am very firm on.
I need to know that if I were to travel long distance my partner would practice sexual discipline. If I were to fall pregnant and give birth to his son and be unable to be with him for those couple of months he would practice sexual discipline. God forbid I fall ill.
Cheating is not something that I forgive under any circumstances. It's a reflection of a person's lack of morals, failure to acknowledge and sympathise with his/her partner's feelings and plain disrespect and therefore character.
'I could tell if your boyfriend cheated on you... You'd probably shoot him.' _My bro and friend
'Depends on the circumstances of the cheating.' Me, mussing him
I told him about how it's a pity that they hadn't beaten my father when his affair was discovered when I was still a newborn... So, yeah that can tell my attitude towards a cheater 🙂
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No, no way. Even if I'm in a poly relationship and they can sleep with other people, but hid a relationship from me, it's over. To me that suggests not just that you got cucked, but they're going to be open for a better option and have no respect for you while being unworthy of trust.
I did try to make things work in my first marriage when she cheated, then she cheated again, and again, and we got divorced. She already had an exit plan with someone else. When someone cheats they completely disregard you and your relationship and need to be eliminated from your life pronto. Trying to make things work is just setting yourself up for more falls.I don’t think I would. Once trust, respect and love is broken…it’s very difficult to put it back together.
Hell to the NO! Once I found out and confronted the other woman, I was so glad to gtfo! You can have him. 🤣
I would never stay with someone that cheated on me. That is the ultimate betrayal of trust in my opinion. That would be the end of the relationship no questions asked.
There is nothing a person could say to me to make me change my mind. Going outside the relationship for companionship or intimacy means the relationship itself is dead.
I’m lucky to have never been cheated on (to my knowledge). I also would never commit the act myself either. If I even had a thought or desire to be with another person, I’d realize that there is something very wrong with the relationship I’m in and that it is likely over.
It honestly depends on a lot of factors. One of the biggest ones would be how much time I had invested in the relationship. Let's say it was a year or two then maybe not. But if it was 5 years then I'm probably madly in love with this person and want to spend the rest of my life with them. I believe in making mistakes and second chances so I would try to mend the relationship. Also if alcohol or drugs or some other outside factor that caused it I'd consider forgiveness. I guess I can't reslly say unless it happens which I pray it does not.
No, i am not a cuckold. Might keep her for sex only.
This is getting out of hand, so i won't be any part of this. Better being single or friends with benefits than being cheated on for the second time.
I have before and regretted it, he didn't cheat again but I was never sexually the same or felt enough for him, I had an eating disorder for a short while until the point I couldn't walk upstairs/would faint. It affected me really badly, when really I should've just realised it was a him problem, and he cheated so no I would not stay.
I made the mistake of “trying” to stay. People who cheat on you have serious issues that they like to blame you for. Regardless, no one should ever have to go through this.
Once that trust and love is broken, they can easily break it again. It just feels one sided and like I am doing all the work to maintain a relationship that I didn’t walk away from. Not worth it, folks.I once had a gorlfriend cheat on me. I chose to forgive her and leep going. She broke up with me the day after because of her guilt. Then, a week later, she gave me a letter begging me to come back and that she needed me. I gave her that chance, after two days she broke up again.
I learnt a lesson that day: if she treats you like you're expendable, then she is no future wife material.Hell no. They might cheat again... or not. But to feel like i'm not enough so they gotta get it what they want somewhere else hurts enough as it is. Sooo stay with that ho, hope she serves you oreos and milk with strawberries to keep you healthy.
It depends on what type of relationship I was having with the person. If she was the "love of my life" and was planning my life with her, I wouldn't stay with her. But if our relationship wasn't that meaningful, I would stay with her.
First off Staying implies I don’t have my own Crib secondly What made you feel to ask such a Ridiculous emotional Question thirdly I don’t date homeless girls fourthly clearly you do fifthly
Like I’m gonna give a shit to Help some homeless Girl
Sixly she put herself in that homeless situation I’m not Gonna be her was out of homeless she doesn’t get to Use me she doesn’t get to make it my problemNo. I'm pretty open. You want to have sex with other women to quel your appetite or whatever? Ok, let's talk about it and set boundaries. But I don't tolerate being lied to and having things done behind my back
Truthfully... I have stayed with a girl that cheated on me. A year after we got together she apparently decided to cheat and admitted to it after I found out. I gave her a second chance and another year past before we both decided to end things. Seeing as we both were not fully happy with each other. And, we needed to work on ourselves as well.
No, go full cheat as in developing feelings and sleeping with another person while we are still together is the one time split, it’s never a “mistake” and you can’t blame me, if you full cheat your ass is sent across that bridge and it’s getting burned to ash, try and swim across and I’ll send in the gators 😬
I think once someone cheats the trust is gone even if you did stay, it won't be too long till you actually break up because you will constantly wonder if they will do it again.
You could even it out and sleep with someone and you'd be square but things won't be right with you both sexuallyI always said that I would not but now I think that if she was repentant and really sorry and it would never happen again maybe I would give her one more chance/.
Have done in the past. Didn't benefit either of us and was really unhealthy. Then I started feeling guilty for not trusting him. Probably wouldn't do it again.
No. I don't trust easily and it just wouldn't work. Trust and loyalty is so important to me and without it we could never have a healthy relationship.
No, I definitely would not. What’s a relationship without trust?
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