How not to be hurt from unrequited love?

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He doesn’t even care about me as a friend i am crying literally

Simspawn · Accepted Answer

Find your own self worth and value. Why would someone who doesn't value you mean so much to you? Ask yourself why you put so much value into someone you know doesn't value you the same way, if at all. It is a very very sad thing for someone to be hurt by living someone who doesn't love them. Why would you do that to yourself and why do they matter to you?

My biggest pain and regret in life also stems from living someone who didn't love me. It hurt, a lot, when I finally realized it. It destroyed me to find out they didn't feel about me the way I felt about them, and that they used me to booster their own ego, on purpose, knowing what they were doing and what they were doing to me. I understand what you are going through. Just put an end to it and admit/accept the fact that it isn't a thing, it will never be, never was, and you just have to move on and get over it.

Sonorous · Accepted Answer

In order to avoid the negative emotions that may come from situations like these, you mustn't associate your value/worth so deeply with other people's feelings, opinions, behaviors, or decisions. Once you stop doing that, you may stop being bothered by rejection.

It's also good to remember that were all just human. None of us really above another person in terms of value/worth. So it will definitely help to put them on the same playing field as you in that regard. This humanizes them more & allows you to see their pros & cons more accurately. Because we've all got flaws.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Sorry if this comes off as harsh but, unfortunately there's not much you can do but try to move on with time and patience-

He's not entitled to like or be your friend if he's not romantically interested in you. He's basically telling you, "I don't like you, find someone that does."

And you should. I know it sucks; trust me, I've been rejected more times than I care to admit. But ask yourself this: do you really want a guy that doesn't even want to be friends with you? You deserve better.

MuskratLove · Accepted Answer

The most smartly guy on this site, was a steward in the Navy. I always thought that Bumfuk Egypt was an imaginary place. It's not. My friend said the food is good, but don't drink the water. I asked him this very same question. I didn't really understand his answer, but he said "hair of the dog that bit you."

How not to be hurt from unrequited love?

He said it was the best way to get your mojo back on track.

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ilikesnow · Answer

it's impossible to not get hurt from unrequited love. trust me, i know how it feels, but the best thing to do right now is to try forget about him. forget that he exists. yes, i know, seeme pretty impossible. i experienced what you're feeling right now 2 years ago, and i still haven't fully gotten over the guy. i still feel jalous when i see him talking to another girl, but at least i no longer feel pain from that situation. i no longer feel pain because i have accepted the truth that he does not like me back and there is absolutely nothing i can do about it. one thing that helped was talking to my friends about it (DO NOT TALK TO YOUR FRiENDS ABOUT IT BECAUSE THEY STARTED TELLING EVERYONE) so a better alternative is to write on a notes page to let all your pain out.

hope this helps :)

SnowedIn · Answer

You sadly have no choice but to move on. You are hurt. That's your reality. So, cry. Hurt. And then make dinner. And sleep. And have coffee in the morning. One foot in front of the other. Do things intentionally that make you happy. He is NOT in control of your life or your happiness: you control those. It sucks that he doesn't care (or whatever it is) but just live your life. Yes, it's easy for me to say, I know. But it's the right answer.

sunkissedwolfe · Answer

I am so sorry that sucks. The main thing is to not beat yourself up over liking him yeah? Understand that it's not a you problem. You have so much love to give, it doesn't have to go to him.

Or do what I do and clearly recognize his flaws and let them override my feeling😂

DribbleGodCurt · Answer

If imma be honest you cought feelings he didn't which sucks, you'll get over it eventually, just stay strong!

Fireguy17 · Answer

It can take a while. It is easy to say not to dwell on it, stay busy, go out with friends, but in the end, it is really a grieving process, and everyone processes it differently.

Anonymous · Answer

if there's nothing you can do about it, you shouldn't waste your tears for too long. cry and feel what you need to and then move forward

SunnyRS · Answer

Well it hurts, but if he didn't have feelings for you, nothing can be done about it.  You would have to be strong and keep moving forward.

Anonymous · Answer

maybe he does love you, you just hurt him so bad and caused him so much pain and suffering and heartbreak he just got tired of the abuse the emotional abuse and mental abuse and the constant cheating

Anonymous · Answer

you've most likely friendzoned a few guys in your life yourself. i suggest trying to go with one of them instead.

Anonymous · Answer

He is your friend not boyfriend... Why would he care for you?

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