Why is unrequited love so painful?

[Anonymous]

[BlueScorpio]

Because it's unrequited, and unrequited means rejection. Your heart wants that person but can't have them, that's why it hurts. I've been there before a few times in my life. It hard but you get over it after a while.

[rienna888]

Because love and mating is a priority to almost all humans. We like to deny it and pretend romantic relationships are not important but they are. When someone we love loves us back, we feel alive again and that our half reciprocates our feelings. But when we’re rejected by the one we love, we feel like we lost everything because they literally meant the world to us.

[TroyDT2]

Because you are suffering the loss of your idealized "what might have been." I say idealized because a lot of people do tend to idealize possible partners. The reality is rarely as endlessly blissful as what we imagine, but when it does not happen it is easy to imagine it would have been perfect.

[CallmeTheKnight]

Because it's rejection via your most vulnerable moment. You have your heart ready to be received by another and they don't accept it to take care of your intimate needs. It's heartbreaking

[letuswaltzforthedead]

Because when you have fallen in love, you imagine a lot of things. You think about the person too much not too, you even do it with crushes. This is the person your heart has chosen and the person you want. When the love is unrequited, you know the person devoid from what you are experience. They do not think of you often or think about 'what could be' between the both of you. It's a reality denied to you, not exactly out of wrong, but because it never existed.

[OddBeMe]

Because it’s not. You’re deluded into thinking it’s unrequited and that you missed your only chance. But that’s nonsense.


What you should be crying about are the decent women passing you by as you long for some chick you had a crush on who could never have lived up to your fantasy anyway.

[CA4444]

I don’t know, this is almost a definition of love.. you want to be loved and I’m a way unite with the person and it’s very painful not to… all relationships go around that theme of feeling valued and loved by the loved one

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

Because we have expectations from the other person of finally being with us. Even when we are the ones doing the waiting and all. The waiting does not hut. The collapse of expectations does.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

'The waiting does not hurt.'*
Sorry.

[PhenomenalQueen]

I think it’s because we love them and deep down inside we know that they will never love us the same way… or most of the time we know it will never happen.

[Haha456]

i remember it feeling like the way you feel when i was younger. now i am used to it. if you take life too seriously, you never make it out alive.

[Red-Blaze]

Becouse no one likes to be rejected, but you should try to not drwell on it, and find someone that will fit you better and you fit them

[Anonymous]

This is tougher for some people than others. I was one of those who had a hard time getting over things. I still got heartache about one ex many years ago.

[CloudMassacre]

Because it feels like you’re doing something wrong, and you wish you felt different but you don’t

[Jltakk]

Its not reciprocated, so you have to deal with the pains of a strong feeling with no one to share it with.

[Twalli]

Because you know it will never result in a relationship.

[Cedman]

You emotion your investing isn't being repaid. Being rejected hurts.

[Cali86]

Because nothing hurts more than not getting back something you're giving.

[Account]

It isn't. You are choosing to make it painful.

[TheSpaceGnome]

This is correct, specifically the choice to ignore that if a person doesn't love you back, you have no reason to love them. Compatibility and sexual attraction are only 2 of the requirements for love, reciprocation is another.

[Account]

@TheSpaceGnome Moreover, People have the tendency to forget that we have a 100% control over our feelings and emotional state. Sometimes we just don't make the choice to get over it. There are reasons for that, but I won't go into that depth.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Partially.

If something you genuinely enjoy is lost, the response is based on genetic predisposition to stimuli. So while we cannot choose what we like/want, we can choose to look at things objectively, to see things for what they actually are (assuming the person is intelligent enough, which also has genetic roots as far as comprehension goes).

[midnightmoon05]

Why? Only you can answer that.

[iceprincess8]

Because of the rejection

[Midgetmcwidget]

Because it hurts. 😭

[Midgetmcwidget]

I hope you feel better soon I hope I feel better soon

[disgustingweebtrash]

Because you never find out how it would have been