Why do people still hookup with their Ex?

[Jersey2]

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Quick and familiar it seems.

[JamesDiaz11]

I've hooked up with girls I had broken up with and we were in a long ambiguous transition following that, but I've never fully broken up with someone and gone back. My understanding is that many girls do this for several reasons. One, they don't want to add to their body count (because they know this matters), so they just hook up with someone they've already been with when they're horny. Another reason may be that there are lingering feelings there and they want to get with the person to get it out of their system, possibly even exploring the idea of getting back together (seeing the relationship with clear eyes).

[Jersey2]

This is understandable that they do it given that background.

[serious]

That is because their decision making capacity is poor. I mean an ex is an ex and logically they should have no contact with them whatsoever and irrespective of their relationship status.

Going back and hooking up with their ex just shows their decision making skills are poor.

[JohannaKas]

Because sometimes we just need a good fuck. Let's say you get out of a two year relationship. Cause you both agreed it doesn't work for you anymore.

You can't just forget that you've spent those past two years "training" each other to perfection, for two years you've been "training" your girlfriend on how to give you great orgasms and vice versa.

So when the new person comes in your life deep inside you feel annoyed that you have to start over. That annoyance builds up "steam" and we all know what a good "steam" release method is...

[Jersey2]

My mind was always elsewhere when I broke up. She was dead to me, including the sex as I had moved on. I usually had little down time in-between GFs so I didn’t give it a thought. I get how it could be the easy button for some quick sex though. I can think of one ex who I actually had little feelings for but the sex was great. She was more adventurous than I was in bed. That could have worked for ex-sex.

[JohannaKas]

Yeah i understand that, but that depends on the break up. Some break ups are mutual and on good terms. If there was cheating involved and stuff or some form of abuse or violence i wouldn't go back obviously. I was only talking about the "good" break ups.

[Jersey2]

Good point

[Quackthulu2]

Because the sex is good but the drama isn’t worth it. and yes.

[Guy13]

None that I know. They are do fine that there’s nothing there even after 3 months…

[AMS700CX4u2]

quite simply, the sex was great but living with them was intolerable.

[Jersey2]

I can think of one girlfriend I had that was a freak in the sheets. I guess I would do it with her since I never had great feelings for her. Good point.

[JDAC092299]

Quick sex with someone you’re familiar and comfortable with and chances are they’re less likely to have an std I’d imagine

[Jersey2]

Good point.

[Berethor]

A hookup with ex don't raise the body count, so it's not so bad, especially for women.

[Jersey2]

I never thought of it that way.

[midnightcavern01]

Trying to claim a bit of the past when they're struggling. The past is easier than the present in some things

[McKellar]

I don't know, I've never done that before at all.

[Jersey2]

Neither have I, which is why I don’t understand it.

[CateM]

Because deep down inside, they're not ready to move on

[Twalli]

Usually, because the physical attraction remains, and if you're both willing to fulfill each other sexually before finding a new partner, why not?

[Damcky]

Familiarity. You both already know the other person and what they enjoy. No learning curve. Much more comfortable.

[Kelly6]

People who separate without any fight are the one who hookup for sex just as friends with benefits.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Ease of access. Rather than find someone new, get your rocks off with your ex.

[shanshu]

Because even though the relationship was no good, the sex was great

[Nikki1989]

It is possible to have a purely physical relationship.

[OddBeMe]

Why do watch old episodes of friends?

[Jersey2]

I don’t understand.

[OddBeMe]

We gravitate toward the familiar.

[Jersey2]

Good point

[OddBeMe]

It’s actually Frasier episodes for me.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Sex... attention... and the opportunity.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

They like to make the sex! Is nice!

[chicken_nugget24]

Attachment issues maybe

[Anonymous]

Familiarity I guess, they already know each other