Should alpha men go for alpha women?

[Anonymous]

I don't really believe in the "alpha beta omega omicron" dichotomy, but I do think that an assertive woman and an assertive man could make it work if they set clear boundaries.

[dynamicyandere]

If they make a good team, they make a good team.


Chemistry is complex.


But, I believe things run smoother if there’s a designated leader, just like efficient companies do not have 2 CEOs at once.


There’s 1 CEO, so that decisions can be made with less clashing and more cooperation.


But, like leading a company, there’s usually someone within the company that is the most fit to lead.


It could be a man or a woman, it doesn’t matter.


Who would make a great designated leader?


And good leadership is patient and compassionate and considerate, yet assertive and decisive.


Alpha + Alpha can work smoothly with a designated leader.


But, without clear boundaries on who takes the lead on what, it can also create constant clashing or slow things down if every decision made needs to have a negotiation first.


Two perfectly in sync Alphas may work out, but they need to be patient and flexible and truly considerate team players that proactively check in with each other.


But, I’d say that’s hard to find, and like I said earlier, it would be like 2 CEOs coordinating everything together.


There’s a reason why C-level execs have their own areas of expertise like COO, CMO, CFO, etc.


Two people in the exact same role will often clash and/or slow things down.

[dynamicyandere]

I personally prefer a very competent and capable woman that enjoys having me be the designated leader as she supports me and follows my lead, so that we can achieve our shared vision together, as a team.

If she’s not competent and capable, that’s no problem either as long as she’s willing to learn and grow together so we can both pursue our true potential, create the best relationship we can together, and live our best lives.

[RavVid]

The broad categories of men are about right except for 'omicrons' which is a covid variant. Some are missing. I would say I am a Sigma for example.

I could see an Alpha female yelling "You can't tell me what to do" to her Alpha male in much the same way my female housemate yells that to me. It won't be a match made in heaven.

Their are significant consequences to hypergamy, the female desire to mate up to male of higher status and capability. There is consequentially a female need to feel respect for her man in a way men just don't feel the need to. If a female doesn't feel respect or loses respect then she will think she hasn't the type of man she wants/needs.

Men are happy to date/marry up or down. The male equivalent to respect is a need to prize their woman, like jewel, for the value she gives. These are quite different concepts and mate selection criteria.

An Alpha female's problem is there most likely not enough Alpha males that are clearly superior in status & capability. It might be less a problem if they work in different fields. A male and female lawyer couple will be directly competing for professional status and recognition with each other inevitably. Competing professionally is not going to be good in a marriage.

An Alpha female's second problem is that males have different mate selection criteria to females. The superior Alpha male might see a check out chick as delivering more prized value than the Alpha female and she misses out on one of the few males she could be happy with.

The beta male is really the 2IC type and gets more a bad rap than deserved. An Alpha female could be potentially be happy with 2IC husband but probably isn't going to be.

So an Alpha female and an Alpha male are generally going to be a bad match.

[Anonymous]

As an assertive woman, I tend to be pretty attracted to guys who can out-do me. It's nice when someone knows what they want and goes for it. I need someone who can match my energy but at the same time we have to be able to work well together and communicate effectively with each other. I don't know that alpha men SHOULD go for alpha women but I do see why it would be an attractive feature. I think if it works for them then they should do it. If it doesn't work for them then they should go for what does work.

[LazerBean]

I do think the man always needs to be more assertive than the women. Not infrequency, just in capability. An assertive woman needs an assertive man, and it tends to work out extremely well from what I've seen. A couple that has an assertive woman and an even more assertive man is most likely to have a healthy relationship, admire and respect eachother and their opinions, and get shit done. That's just my observation though.

[AmandaYVR]

I don't believe in these terms at all.

And the wolf biologist who originally came up with it has since tried to redact the theory, as he realized that it was concluded on captive wolves, not wild. And, spoiler alert, people are not wolves. And, in wolf society, if the main alpha male and female have to leave to go hunt farther abroad, they will anoint subs. So, the whole thing is moot. And kind of gross, particularly given our gigantic-by-comparison-to-all-other-species brains. Human society is far more intricate than animal species behaviour. Their groups are much smaller, too.

[coachTanthony]

No because we want peace at the end our day. We want femininity. We don't want masculine energy banging up against ours.

[Effably]

Should and should. A so-called powercouple has its merits. Absolutely could.

If we stereotype a bit:
Men tend to be very goal oriented. That is, tell a guy about a problem and he'll try to provide a concrete solution.
Women tend to be more focused on the lived experience. And so telling a woman about a problem you would generally get emotional support.

These two work excellent together. One providing a concrete solution and the other the strength to pursue it. Coincidentally this type of reasoning is also behind the notion that behind every successful man there is a strong woman.

Now of course this is generalising. And of course it won't be accurate a lot of the time. But my point is that having complementing attributes is good too. Power and Empowering if you will.

[Asker]

"Power couple" I really like this term, I see my own marriage like that.
Excellent answer, thank you for sharing.

[Adam1978]

Why in the heck should they? Just because you can handle tough times doesn't mean you want them. Same here you don't pick problems if you can avoid it and get a better life doing so. So they will pick what is best for them. Alpha women have to settle with the simps.

[Brittanyroseee]

Simps are pussies lol

[Brittanyroseee]

Im an alpha woman so i want someone on my level. Not a cringe ass pussy boy lol

[Adam1978]

True but men don't want alpha women. So you won't be able to keep a man. Only simps are so unsure about themselves that they might stick around. All other men keeps walking.

[Brittanyroseee]

Nope. Untrue. My male coworker is 67, his wife is masculine. Soooo stop talking lol.

[Asker]

@Brittanyroseee why don't you share your opinion? Everyone is entitled to their own.

[Adam1978]

I am pretty sure your coworker is a simp at home or she isn't an alpha woman at home. And one exception wouldn't make it false. The majority of people want a submissive and easy woman to deal with. Not a struggle.

[Brittanyroseee]

Learn to read dumb ass. My coworker is a male.

[Adam1978]

I did read. You have a male coworker I never contradicted that. It doesn't make him an alpha or her a strong woman.

[devilish-cutie]

yes, i also dont believe in "alpha" people but really "strong" men should go for "strong" women cause they would want someone on their own level

However being 2 strong personalities can only work if they agree, otherwise it would be a bettle

[Pegases]

It wouldn't make sense. We are all attracted to polarity, so an alpha man will naturally be attracted to a softer woman with more feminine qualities, because she is the opposite of an alpha man. Alpha women, tend to be masculine, and in most cases may say they want an alpha man, but often cannot handle the requirements of one.

[Pegases]

It's also interesting how most women tend to get this wrong. Women seem to think we want Alpha women, because they view it as an accomplished woman, whereas men tend to view Alpha women as more masculine than feminine, which is often the case.

[Nivinxus]

No, but can they? Yeah sure. Every person has their preferences despite their 'alpha' or 'beta' personalities. It is just unlikely that an alpha man and woman could last, not impossible, just unlikely. There is a reason why there is a generalisation of men not wanting alpha women at all.

[Anonymous]

They would probably not last a day together.
Those toxic alphas need someone without personality very submissive. "Alpha" women need a simp they can boss around doing anything they want them to.
Neither are dating material but would only enjoy power.

[Leopard23]

Alpha men should go for best possible partner that adds to his life regardless if she is an Alpha.

[SweetTwistedSatanist]

I think it's best for a thriving successful person to go for someone who is also thriving and succesful. They both know what they want, are on the same wavelength.
I just remembered a question here about some guy who said he isn't 'good enough' for his partner, but he's the only one of the two who thinks that.

[Christoff92]

Well don't really know about that 🤔

[melanieeeB]

The "alpha males" should start living in reality first lol

[WanderingLoveWizard]

"Alpha" women are a bit high strung for me. Obnoxious even.
I get it, you like to grab the bull by the horns and you've got a lot going on, now please leave me alone so I can breath lol

[anon1903]

Assertive people are the best. They should date each other. In fact, most relationships I have witnessed with partners being assertive have been successful.

#AlphaBetaIsTheZodiacBSForMen

[JesseP1nk]

Firstly, dont call yourself an alpha. I dont care if you are man or a woman. Its like calling yourself smart. Let others tell you if you are or not.

Second. I dont wanna date "alpha woman" You think after hard day at work i wanna argue at home with someone? No. i want feminine woman who is my sunshine in this shitty world.

[bamesjond0069]

No. Stupid asf. I run a company. I lead my friend group. I just do things my own way. When I come home my girlfriend says yes sir and how high should I jump.

I find "alpha" women huge turn off not into at all. They don't offer anything that I find valuable in a woman and have an abundance of everything I don't want.

[stratford]

I don't like the concept of alphas - it suggestions superiority, so yes, I would let alphas be with each other so they aren't interfering with others lives.

[JamesDiaz11]

No, absolutely not. Assertive men want a complement, not a supplement to their assertiveness; same for "assertive" women. They'll just end up fighting over every little thing, trying to get the upper hand, and eventually divorce.

[cherryxox99]

Yeah well the funny thing is i have almost never seen a ceo and another ceo maintain a happy marriage. 2 bossy people can't ppossibly have room to understand or cave in to the other's needs. In a marriage or rs, someone has to compromise somehow

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Very few men are "alpha" if you put these so called wanna be "alpha" men in the toughest prisons they will be getting screwed within a week or couple of days of being there.