Was this a form of meddling from his brother or was he right?

[Anastacia1989]

My boyfriends older brother is always meddling in his business and is always concerned with what we’re doing…

he keeps asking why I haven’t moved in with his younger brother yet, and that he hopes I’m putting my family before him and that I shouldn’t be one of his priorities…. then he proceeded to say his bro is a jerk and that he doesn’t care about family and why I live his younger bro so much…. he then proceeded to say that I should only be his priority only if I move in

was this meddling and an asshole thing to say to me knowing that me and his younger bro are in a serious relationship?
secondly I’m not yet ready to move in with my bf…. his bro has been pushing since last summer when we were only 6 months into dating

Older bro is meddling

He had a point

[SteveSmith1985]

No this guy is clearly meddling. In an inexcusable way. He's definitely an asshole. I can't believe your boyfriend hasn't told his brother to fuck-right-off already. This is inexcusable. He has no right to say shit about your relationship. This guy's something else.

(and... yea. Don't move in with a boyfriend of 6 months. That would be very stupid. Stay smart.)

[Anastacia1989]

Ya 6 months would’ve been too soon…. I wanna move in but not now later on down the road

[SteveSmith1985]

Yes. Like a normal, sane person. I support that.

[Anastacia1989]

His bro was also telling him to get a better job full time at the airport but it’s far for him and he would have to work weekends and holidays and then we won’t spend as much time with me….. my boyfriend has a steady Mon-Fri job…. so why would his bro meddle with his work for?

[SteveSmith1985]

He shouldn't be meddling. but it's shouldn't be your job to tell him to but-out. It's your boyfriend's job. But there is no excuse for any of this. His brother can comment on his own life, but needs to but out of his brothers. Why does he feel you or he care what he thinks... about anything?

[Anastacia1989]

My boyfriend doesn’t listen to his bro and has told me his bro is an idiot and to ignore him

[SteveSmith1985]

Yea, but he needs to tell his brother to butt-the-fuck-out! You shouldn't have to ignore him. Your boyfriend needs to put a stop to it.

[Anastacia1989]

I agree he should stand up to him….. his mom even told him to mind his own business in a firm voice when he was arguing on his bday about me taking the bus home

[SteveSmith1985]

Alright, so, next step is to tell your boyfriend to stand up to him. It's not just about him anymore. He needs to stand up to his brother FOR YOU. So tell him to deal with it.

[Jdjfjcjj]

Is this the same family as gfs mother telling boyfriend to move in?

[Anastacia1989]

Yes….

[Anonymous]

Definitely meddling and I don’t even know why he really cares

[Anastacia1989]

Exactly!!! He even went as far as telling my boyfriend to get a better job but he already has a stable job and if he got the job that his bro suggested it would be too far for him plus he wouldn’t hve his holidays or weekends off

[Sevenpointfive]

he wants you to saddle his face in front of his brother.

[Anastacia1989]

What does that mean? Explain please

[KostasKouvalis]

He sounds jealous and insecure, that he's no longer the center of his attention

[Anastacia1989]

His brother sounds like he’s jealous of him?

[Anastacia1989]

His older bro is married with wife and kids lol

[KostasKouvalis]

Maybe he's one of those people who just thinks he knows everything

[Anastacia1989]

Ya he’s very pushy and always wants to know what we’re doing…. unless his brother is attracted to me or something?

[KostasKouvalis]

Now that would be messed up

[Anastacia1989]

His bro is always concerned with what we’re doing and he does stare at me at times I’ve noticed