Was my brother's guilt justifiable?

[Anonymous]

His wife had a hard time conceiving their first child for nearly 3 years. She finally naturally gave birth at the age of 34. Their daughter is now 4 years old. Her egg count was much lower than usual for her age; between ages 23-26 were her good years.

He felt guilty for making her wait too much when they were boyfriend and girlfriend, for taking her for granted at the time. He proposed shortly after she broke up, she forgave him, accepted his proposal and they got married the following month. He was willing to pay for her whole fertility treatment. He didn't want her to help him with the bill. At the time, he kept telling me ''This is my fault. I'll never forgive myself if she can't get pregnant''.

Was his guilt at the time justifiable or was he being too hard on himself? From time to time, he still feels some guilt that they can't another child nor two more. He blames himself.

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3 mo

His own words he recently told me ''If I could just turn back the clock, I wouldn't have wasted her time, I regret it. We would've probably had 3 kids by now''.

[Starrrboy]

Yeah, but he's a little too harsh on himself... if she wasn't satisfied she could've made a big move like that way earlier..

[Asker]

Yeah if she wanted kids during her better years, she should've broken up sooner. I have to say my brother has been a punctual person ever since. He used to be carefree and waited till the last minutes; that person I knew doesn't exist anymore. He'll arrive even 10 minutes earlier or pay the bills ASAP. It's like the idea of being on time on everything in life got to him so deeply.

[Starrrboy]

Nice how he turned out to be like that.. for most people it's the opposite they get worse lol.. and how he owned up to things and showed good intentions.. again, that's quite rare!..

[LazerBean]

Yes.

[PrincessFlora]

He is justified

[Asker]

I find it interesting that it took nearly losing her (for him to propose and get married) and then nearly destroying her fertile years for him to changed. I've always known him as a carefree dude that waited till the last minute/moment to take action. Suddenly that person doesn't exist anymore. Nowadays he'll even arrive 10 minutes earlier, pay the bills ASAP and it's into being on time on everything in life; for him everything matters now, no delays. Wow.