*soul tie* Do I move on or wait?

[Anonymous]

Myself and my first long term partner split in September 2022 after a domestic dispute, he was away from home going a lot, partying and just sort of pushed me and my child (not his biologically) to the side. in the beginning we were a solid family unit since my child was a year old. A lot happened in the four years we were together: loss/abortion of babies (4), him cheating multiple times, verbal and physical arguments (when my son would go to stay with my mum but around him we always kept things so healthy)
After about 2 years the family life begun to decline, he’d be out until 11pm weeknights at least 5/week, mens holidays and nothing for myself and my child, contributed little to the house financially but I kept bottling it up incase he left. Then in September I snapped, we begun rowing (I was heavily drunk) the next morning awoke with a black eye and him packing his bags, he has never admitted giving me the black eye and maintains I done it falling over but I know he didn’t like me nagging. He decided it was best to separate himself from my child, and has seen me a handful of times when my child is away/at school but contacts me at least once a week/sexts/tells me how much he loves me and it’ll never be it for us. Last week I found out he’d met someone, and is giving them everything I’d ever asked for, he seems so loved up and she is a girl with prospects, not a single mum who can’t drive (myself) she is beautiful. He accidentally sent me photos of their romantic getaway meaning to send them to his mother, I’ve broken down. I cannot eat nor sleep, I put on a brave face for my child but cannot imagine my life without him, for three days he maintained this was it and he had to move on, but then I received a message saying “it’ll never be goodbye” along with another sexting session, he blocks me when he is with her and then unblocks me when he is alone/at his mums. This man is all I have. He is my god. What do I do? I am so lost. I am so lonely without him

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you have been through a lot with this person, including multiple losses and instances of cheating, verbal and physical arguments, and neglect. It is important to remember that you deserve to be treated with respect and love in a relationship, and it is not healthy to stay in a situation where you are being mistreated or neglected.

It is understandable that you may feel lost and lonely without him, but it may be helpful to take some time to focus on your own emotional well-being and healing. This may involve seeking support from friends, family, or a professional counselor, and practicing self-care activities such as exercise, meditation, or creative pursuits.

It may also be helpful to consider the potential for a "soul tie" in this situation. A soul tie is a spiritual connection that may form between two people in a relationship, and can be difficult to break. However, it is important to recognize that a soul tie can be broken through intentional spiritual and emotional work, and it may be helpful to seek guidance from a spiritual leader or counselor in this process.

Ultimately, the decision to move on or wait is a personal one that only you can make. It is important to prioritize your own well-being and emotional health in any decision, and to seek guidance and support as needed. Remember that you are deserving of love, respect, and happiness, and it is possible to find these things outside of this relationship.

[Guy13]

Alright, best...

[Asker]

I don’t understand?

[LazerBean]

You will continue to have a pathetic life with that mindset. I doubt you can be helped.

[Asker]

I really appreciate your advice but I struggle to see it as pathetic, I love this man with everything as you are supposed to

[LazerBean]

You aren't supposed to choose to love abusive, whorish losers. Any yet you think you are, which is why you cannot be helped and will always be a failure.

[Asker]

But there is another side that is so wonderful I cannot put it into words. I wouldn’t necessarily say I am a failure as I have accomplishments way beyond what I’d ever dreamt for myself. I didn’t choose this for myself, it is a question of leaving the past behind or sticking and hoping for a future

[LazerBean]

My point perfectly proven.

[Nikki1989]

You will need to change your entire attitude. Most of this is really sad.

[Asker]

There are so many good times, it is so hard to forget them

[Anonymous]

There is no such thing