When do you know that you are eligible for a relationship or a marriage on a personal level? When you are self evaluating yourself?

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

[OlderAndWiser]

When Should You Get Married?

[Justneedtokno]

If you are a self aware person person like me, you are always self evaluating. Even for Reg day things.

As far as a relationship goes you know when you know how you want to be treated not just by someone else but by you. Have you dated yourself? What type of energy do you give off?

[Justneedtokno]

Well thank you

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

It was you anyways. Glad the system chose you.😄

[Justneedtokno]

Ahhh 😌 the system 🤣

[menina]

If I'm speaking from my own perspective, I can tell you that I'm not eligible for a relationship at this moment. Let alone a marriage.

I guess that's up to you and your SO.

[Adam1978]

That up to the partner to decide, not you. You should decide if they are eligible for it with you.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Adam1978 You also have to consider if you yourself are ready as well, though.

[Adam1978]

If you aren't ready why are you looking for it? That said it's like kids you can't prepare for all of it, you just have to deal with it as it comes.

[OlderAndWiser]

Sometimes people are looking for a marital partner because of pressure from parents ("you need to get married and give us grandchildren!") or they are lonely and have the thought that marriage will "magically" solve their problems.

[Adam1978]

Well these people need to have a relationship to figure those things out. Experience something and learn from it. Saying that they aren't ready wouldn't do them anything good. Because they wouldn't get what part of a relationship they aren't ready for and which they can solve on the run.

[OlderAndWiser]

My comment was about people looking for a spouse, not just dating. I agree that you learn about yourself and how to be a good dating partner by jumping in and dating.

[Adam1978]

I think most people start dating to find a life partner eventually , they might change their mind later. at least if they had a good family home.