My boyfriend of two years went to a club with his friends recently and had a girl come onto him and kissed him. He was very drunk and kissed back for two seconds before realizing what he had done and left the club. I understand that alcohol is never the excuse, but I am aware what it can do to a person's head. He came clean to me right away. I could tell that he was genuinely remorseful and regrets what he did. He let me know that what he did had nothing to do with me. It was all him making stupid decisions. He answered all the questions I had to the best of his knowledge. His friends also confirmed everything he said. Obviously I was severely hurt, but in the end I told him that I would give him a second chance and he told me that he would do everything he can to help rebuild my trust and make our relationship stronger. Before he confessed, he had already thrown away all of the alcohol he had and decided to ultimately give up drinking and came clean to his family about what he did (we were childhood friends, so I’m really close with his family). He was fine with dealing with the backlash from his family and friends, as long as he can prove to me that I can trust him. After several days, we were able to sit down and talk about what he can do moving forward and he was 100% on board with all of my wishes and boundaries.
I know some may disagree, but I’m glad that it was only a kiss and not something premeditated or him just straight up having sex with her. That would've been a whole different story. I still trust him, just not at bars/clubs. Before this, he has never given me a reason to think he’s unfaithful. Our relationship had always been great. We rarely ever fought and we both communicate with each other really well. What are your guy’s thoughts?
