My boyfriend gets upset when I talk on the phone?

[Anonymous]

I’m always at my boyfriends house and he was upset recently that I was on the phone with my cousin (she’s my best friend). I had stayed at his house for about a hour waiting to go to class, but when I noticed he was upset and I confronted him about it, he told me it’s because he didn’t get to spend time with me and actually hold me. He claimed he wanted “atleast 10 minutes of my time.” but the thing is, we just got back from vacation so I was with him for a week straight; and for the past 6 months we’ve been together, he’s the only person I hang out with. Am I in the wrong, or is he? Please help!

[HollyK21]

I think you need to set some healthy boundaries with him. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with cuddling frequently, spending a lot of time together and all that — it’s normal. But when you’re only hanging out with him and he’s requiring more and more of your focus without a regard to the other people in your life, and you adhere to that, then you’re setting yourself up to be isolated.
Personally I’ve been with my boyfriend going on two years and he’s the main person I’m with all the time, main person I text and talk to, and I’m with him 6/7 days of the week. We respect each other’s lives outside of one another though, because it’s important to maintain a sense of self. Don’t be afraid to express this to him in your own way.

[Marked_Man]

Your boyfriend might be a bit clingy but that's because guys never get any affection from anybody but their girlfriend, so he actually wants to cuddle with you. He just shouldn't get mad about it, but talk about his need for affection.

[slatyb]

He's wrong. This isn't healthy.