My boyfriend is always on his phone?

[Anonymous]

(Long) My boyfriend is usually on his phone watching random videos whenever we lay down on his bed. I personally doesn’t like to use my phone when I’m around him or friends. Whenever he felt like it or need attention, he would put his phone down and hug me but mostly, he’s always on his phone. 💀 I’ve talked about it to him once but it’s not improving and I’ve let it go multiple times. This time again I talked to him about it again and he said he didn’t know what he did wrong when clearly I’ve told him about it before I even fully confronted him. So I asked if he felt like there’s nothing wrong? He said he was just minding his own business and it hits me so I told him that if he felt like nothing is wrong about that then I wouldn’t want to force him then. He asked me what I wanted him to do but I didn’t want to TELL him what to do because what’s the point. He told he already gave me attention so he’s just minding his business. 💀 Personally, me, his girlfriend, was there next to him I would at least think we could just talk and actually spend time. Do you think it’s normal?

[molonski2]

NO Phones in the bedroom - NEVER , get him to follow this rule. Its not " normal " no.

[Asker]

He said why can’t we just watch the videos together and talk but I didn’t want to watch those “videos” and we never talked anyways when he’s watching.

[spartan55]

So, I'm confused. You talked to him about it, but you didn't actually tell him what the issue was?

[Asker]

I told him, he said sorry and still does it every time anyways and he doesn’t seem to have any problem with it.

[spartan55]

Time to ramp it up. I like the no phones in the bedroom rule. Or a two hour window after dinner (example)

[spartan55]

But why did you say "I didn't want to TELL him what to do because what's the point?"

[Asker]

Yeah about that, I kind of gave up when he said he didn’t seem to find anything wrong with it because I told him at the time and all the time that I wanted to talk to him and for him to give me attention. But the fact that he kept asking what do I want from him mixed with the fact that he said he didn’t find any of the things that happened to be wrong or not normal it’s like I’m forcing him to put his phone down and talk to me and it wouldn’t feel genuine anyways so I don’t know what to even tell him at this point

[spartan55]

Try to set phone free blocks of time.

[serious]

No, this is not normal at all. This is a sign of disrespect.