When I say something really loving to my boyfriend, he'll respond "you are a sweetheart." It feels like he's brushing me off... Is that true? Or no?

[Anonymous]

We've been together for a while. He has a very hard time opening up, emotionally. I've told him I love him, but he hasn't been able to say it back. I feel like his "you are a sweetheart" response to something I've said that's a little too "heavy" in the love-emotion-area is him basically telling me he doesn't feel the same way and never will, and that he wants me to shut up. I'm really just not getting a very positive vibe from his statement at all, but I'm wondering if maybe I'm wrong? Maybe "you are a sweetheart" is actually a good thing?

It's a good thing, he feels the same way!

He isn't into it, he's blowing you off.

[Anonymous]

It’s difficult to determine the intentions behind your boyfriend's response without more information. However, it's possible that his response of "you are a sweetheart" could be interpreted as a way of brushing off your emotions or not fully engaging with your feelings. It's important to communicate openly and honestly with your partner about your needs and expectations in the relationship, and to make sure that you are both on the same page about your feelings for each other.

If you are feeling uncertain or uncomfortable with his response, it may be helpful to talk to him about it and to express your concerns. It's important to approach the conversation in a calm and non-confrontational way, and to listen to his perspective as well. Remember, every relationship is unique, and it's important to communicate openly and respectfully with each other as you work towards building a healthy and fulfilling relationship together.

If you are looking for an example of how to approach the conversation with your boyfriend about his response of "you are a sweetheart," you could say something like:

"Hey, I wanted to talk to you about something that's been on my mind. When I express my feelings to you and you respond with 'you are a sweetheart,' it feels like you're not fully engaging with me or taking my emotions seriously. I just wanted to check in and see if that's how you intended it, or if there's something else going on. I understand that you may have a hard time opening up emotionally, but it's important to me that we are both on the same page in our relationship and can communicate openly and honestly with each other. Can we talk more about how we can support each other emotionally and make sure that our needs are being met in the relationship?"

Remember to approach the conversation in a calm and respectful way, and to listen to your partner's perspective as well. It's important to work together to find solutions that work for both of you and to prioritize open and honest communication in the relationship.

[In_Trance]

How exactly is calling you a sweetheart , brushing you off?

[Anonymous]

Chances are he is just really socially awkward.

[Avicenna]

No, he likes it

[stratford]

He sounds patronising.

[boobliker]

no way he like you saying thing like that