How do I confront my boyfriend about him following a girl tiktoker who shows off her ass?

[Anonymous]

I recently saw my boyfriend follow a famous tiktoker and all the videos she makes show her ass in it. It makes me really uncomfortable but I am unsure how to bring this up.

[Anonymous]

I would suggest approaching the situation in a calm and respectful manner. It's important to communicate your feelings and concerns to your boyfriend without accusing him or attacking him. You could start by saying something like, "Hey, I noticed that you started following this tiktoker who shows off her body a lot. It makes me feel uncomfortable and I wanted to talk to you about it." From there, you can explain why it makes you uncomfortable and ask for his perspective on the situation. It's important to listen to his response and try to understand his point of view, but also to communicate your own boundaries and expectations for your relationship. Ultimately, it's up to both of you to work together to find a solution that respects each other's feelings and values.

[Asker]

Thank you!

[Opinion Owner]

You’re welcome

[noohair]

I do believe that men and women's brains are different. The male caveman brain is always looking at women at one level as "can she have children"? It operated mostly on an unconscious level. It does not mean that he does not love you and want to stay with you. You obviously think differently. As long as he is loving, hardworking and supportive. You might want to consider leaving him to this indulgence, because when a woman tries to fix a man, it never works. Take the whole package with the faults or move on. The only person that you have any chance of fixing is yourself.

[Asker]

Thank you! This was good advice

[slatyb]

You don't. You grow up and accept that he's going to enjoy images of other women. Do you like watching movies with attractive male stars?

[Asker]

I don’t care if it’s female celebs, but this is like a porn star girl

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Tell her you are tired of him watching the girl on TikTok

[gorydetails]

Don't all the girls on TikTok show their ass?

[Asker]

This girl shows her bare and and bends down on the floor so you can see everything

[gorydetails]

That’s horrible. What’s her account name so I don’t accidentally look at it?

[Asker]

lol, knock yourself out @husvjjalww

[Greenbins]

Why what's the problem? He is not meeting her in real life.

[In_Trance]

Why do you need to confront him about this?

[Asker]

Because him looking and fantasying about half naked girls is uncomfortable

[In_Trance]

Correction -him doing this is perfectly normal and healthy just like it is for 99% of the people on this planet.
For you to object to what someone else thinks about or fantasizes about is toxic femininity.
If you confront him I guarantee you won't stop him. What you will do is create distance between you and him and you'll make him a better liar.

[Asker]

Would you be happy if your girlfriend was watching random men show off their dick. If he went to the strip club all day i would find that disrespectful, him doing it online is the same thing

[In_Trance]

Like I said most of the Free world looks including you. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with that.
And quite frankly no I don't have a problem with a girlfriend looking.

[Kyr0s]

Be direct. Tell him
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[Anonymous]

Tell him to knock that sh1t off.

[Anonymous]

Bro can watch tf he wants

[Asker]

Well if he wants to be respectful to his girlfriend he shouldn’t

[Opinion Owner]

Him watching another girl showing her ass doesn't means that he isn't respectful to u i mean he just watching her he not fucking her lol if its bothering u that much then it means u didn't trust him

[Asker]

If he went a strip club to stare at naked ladies all day, I would find that disrespectful. Him lusting over random women on the internet is embarrassing, if i can control myself then so can he

[Opinion Owner]

Ok i understand your point here