Girlfriend ignores my texts for a few days?

[Anonymous]

So would it make you anxious I'd your girlfriend with depression ignores your texts for days sometimes? I feel like I'm spiraling into a an anxious attachment with her. We're both in our 30s and I've brought it up with her. I've asked for at least a I'm okay text once a day. Is this asking to much?

[HollyK21]

So here’s the thing. Depression can be hard-hitting, and the side effects are different for everyone. For your girlfriend, she could struggle with self worth, push you away, or ultimately just doesn’t want to talk to you or anyone else and feels like distancing herself is more helpful.
If you’ve never dealt with a woman who struggles with mental health to this extent then I understand why you’re feeling anxious and worried, but you must keep in mind that her actions aren’t about you.
Right now you need to first ask yourself if this is something you can deal with. Not every situation is meant for every person, and if this relationship is becoming too mentally or emotionally taxing then maybe she’s not the right one for you, and you have to be honest with yourself about that.
Should you decide to stick beside her, then for now, give her space.
No, she will likely not want to text you once a day. It may be her checking in once every few days, even once a week. Can you handle that? Without panicking and getting overly-anxious? That couples with being honest about staying in the relationship.
You may just have to stay preoccupied during these spells and support her from afar. Tap in once in a while with a short text just saying you are thinking of her and you love her. She will come around and when she does, just ask that she keep you in the loop as her boyfriend. Communication is key.
Hopefully she’s sought professional help, because dealing with this on her own isn’t easy and she needs healthy ways to cope that doesn’t always involve shutting you out.
Lastly, if this continues in a downward spiral and the cycle becomes destructive then you may need to end the relationship. No that is not ideal but everyone has a limit and pushing yours too far is unhealthy. As much as you can support her, she must do her part as well in order to be a good girlfriend. If she can’t be that right now, she should tell you.

[Anonymous]

It's understandable that you may feel anxious when your girlfriend with depression ignores your texts for days. However, it's important to remember that depression can affect a person's ability to communicate and respond to others, and that it's not necessarily a reflection of how they feel about you.

It's good that you have communicated your needs and concerns to your girlfriend and asked for at least a daily check-in. However, it's also important to be understanding and patient with her, and to recognize that she may not always be able to meet your expectations.

It may be helpful for both of you to have an open and honest conversation about how her depression affects her and how you can support each other in a way that works for both of you. Additionally, it may be beneficial for her to seek professional help and support for her depression.

Ultimately, the key to a healthy relationship is communication, understanding, and mutual respect. It's important to prioritize your own emotional well-being and to support your partner in a way that is healthy and sustainable for both of you.