Why is my boyfriend using a finsta to stalk his ex?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend put his phone down but forgot to close it. We were cooking dinner so I grabbed his phone to move it off the counter but I saw that he was on insta looking at a girls page. I also saw he was using a finsta.

I took a picture of her insta because I thought he was cheating. He isn’t- just secretly watching her insta. He doesn’t even follow her, just watches her page.

This made me really insecure because, 1. it’s weird he’s stalking her. 2. She’s really pretty, mature, intelligent, educated. 3. We started dating one month after her. Now I feel like a rebound.

He seems to like me but most of our communication has been text or phone calls because he works a lot. We’ve been together for 3 months and have only had about 6 dates. Why is he stalking her? Could I be a rebound? Should I talk to him about this?

[ManOnFire]

Very unfortunate situation. What he's doing is super common, exes stalking their exes on social media. I even used to do it. And people do it because they're not really over their ex.

You said they broke up a month before you started dating him. That is super soon for someone to get into a new relationship because they often will still be very volatile and can go back their ex extremely easy.

Not exactly sure I would say you're a rebound, but things could end in a heartbreaking way for you, knowing what we know about his history. I think you should talk to him about it, yeah. And ask him where do you two really stand in the relationship.

[Wise4myage]

Dude has issues and you should be aware of that.