You ever just fall out of love with someone?

[Finchie40]

You still love them as a person but you realize you aren connecting like you use to , so it’s either you stay with them or move on , what would you do?

[NotTacocaT6969]

I’m in that situation.


I’m basically torturing myself by sticking around and remaining loyal to avoid hurting him.


But I can’t bring myself to hurt him by leaving…

[Finchie40]

So what are you holding on to if you don’t love him anymore? What do you think will change?

[NotTacocaT6969]

The only reason either of us has a place to live is that we split the cost of everything.

I can go live with my mother, but he would be left homeless.

[Finchie40]

Sadly that happens to a lot of couples , and they just stay together for what’s invested and they really have no other place to go so they turn into roommates but the passion for each other is gone , my advice to you is to have a long talk with your partner and tell him you want an open relationship , it’s better then cheating on someone but with an open relationship you can get your wants and needs met elsewhere while you are still living with your roommate , You have to remember you have to make yourself happy or you are just going to live your life with regret and resentments if you stay with someone that you truly don’t love and have passion for , you will begin to become numb and not really know what you want or feel anymore , life is too short to stay with someone just because it’s convenient for them , you weren’t put on this Earth to be a punching bag or a convenience to someone , I have slept with married woman that were going through the same thing as you , the only reason I slept with them was because they were honest with me , I am very turned on by a girl that is honest , even though I felt bad for her husband I realized he treated her like total shit and just was constantly rude and mean to her so in a sense he dug his own grave with her but they were just together as roommates , because of what was invested, I hate to say this but it was the best sex I ever had cuz I felt like I was saving her and making her feel wanted again , the passion was out of this world and she treated me like a king , so when it comes yo girls’ that are in relationships that are clearly unhappy and honest with me I don’t hold back anymore , I know people will judge and criticize me for this but I been through a lot and had my heart shot on a lot to a point I don’t really care anymore , if someone wants to rock my world and make me feel wanted I am all about it

[Finchie40]

Someone else’s problems is their own problems and issues , something they have to deal with on their own if they choose to stay with someone that treats them like shit or the passion is gone , that’s something they have to deal with on their own , I am not saying I jump in bed with any girl Thea’s in a relationship, only the ones that are honest with me , I use to say no way to this until i realized life is to short to be miserable and unhappy , If I commit to someone I am in it for the long haul but if they aren’t standing by my side and removing their selfishness for me they are best to keep walking cuz I am not a punching bag or a sitting duck for someone that doesn’t want to make me feel want or valued , when I express my feelings to her and she doesn’t care then I am sorry I am going to be open to someone that cares

[MementoMori777]

Move on, is there really a point in holding them back if you fell out of love with them? Let's not forget you are holding back yourself as well.

[Redstang88]

No but I’ve been on the receiving end of it a couple times

[gag37627]

It happened and she told me, but she started to cry and changed me.