Have you ever fallen out of love? Has someone ever fallen out of love with you?

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What happened next?

Sunssong · Accepted Answer

@trueconfection  You don't fall out of love.  It's something you let happen.  For example, when you are trying to get over someone what do you do?  You try to stop thinking about them. And if you find something to actually dominant your attention... You feel fine. That's why you feel fine when you sleep too because your consciousness is off.  Well... that's the same way you fell in love with them. You started thinking about them in favorable ways and got emotionally involved. People don't far out of love, they let it happen because they don't understand.  Same thing with confidence. You don't feel confident because you look good today... You feel confident because you  finally gave yourself permission  to feel confident. Love is something you feel. You can choose to build ideas in your head and get emotionally involved with them if you want.  Why do people take things for granted? Because they aren't emotionally involved with the idea of that thing.  People cheat because they dont love the person they are with. When they cheat they are getting emotionally involved with cheating and if they have done it before they may not even need that. If you were truly in love and feeling love you wouldn't do that. But when they cheat they aren't feeling love. It's more deep but  I can teach anyone how to stop cheating.  Pretty much overnight too.  Why do you think people watch motivational videos on YouTube before doing something or listen to music when they work out. It's all chemically driven.  I can go on about this for hours. I even have built a whole philosophy on love and it is pretty sound and tested.

ArrowheadSW · Accepted Answer

Most relationships are temporary. So, yes, that has certainly happened to me. I think probably most people over a certain age have had that happen.

Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

Yes, I have… it’s the actual act of losing passions, and emotions- dying.

At first, you feel the friction; the pain, and then those go numb. Like when our physical nerves burn in fire 🔥, or get frozen in the blistering cold. ❄️ It hurts at first, until nothing is felt, at all because they die. 🧬

Do they regenerate? Sometimes. It’s not likely, and so it’s good in the aspect of: falling out of love with someone who was actually bad for you- it means you cannot continue to be tricked by them because you’d have no emotions to work with or manipulate and abuse- those emotions for them are all gone. Faded. Passed.

The thing to be mindful of is: to still be passionate about LIFE ✨, and living, and one’s self and family, so that you don’t lose passion for all other possible suitors because of categorizing them all as the person we had fell out of love with.

No, not all in the human entirety, manipulate, and not all wish to hurt us.

I say “not all,” but just because I said it doesn’t mean these numbers of ‘good people’ run largely or are even common.. no, they’re certainly aren’t.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

Yep.

My ex-fiance.

But while he loved me, he loved me fiercely.

You’ll listen to our story and you’ll want to see a movie about it.

It’s a perfect story about the love many women dream about.

I lived a fairytale for too long.

That was beautiful. His love to me was heart-melting and innocent.

If I die, I’ll be happy I’ve loved and I was loved back with a matching intensity.

But everything ends in the end.

And there’s nothing wrong with, that’s just how it works, either they die, you die, they leave or you leave.

I am happy he is somewhere out there and I hope he is living a wonderful life.

Yes, he fell out if love with me. But I don’t blame, while he loved, he made me live in a paradise. That’s why it hurt so much when he stopped loving me.

Paris13 · Answer

With My Ex, Sort Of... When I ended Our Relationship. xx

Guy13 · Answer

Ebb and Flow…Commitment survives. What’s your priority…Lust or Relationship

fibs4kt · Answer

i’ve had people fall out of love with me before and either cheat on me or just leave me. but they never left by telling me straight up they lost feelings, i had to overthink every time and it’d be when i couldn’t take the stress of thinking that i’d ask and they’d confess that they’ve been dragging me along for weeks

but my last relationship that ended Monday, the best relationship i had and someone i still love and want to be with again, she left me because she fell out of love. but she did something different that i respect. she was straight up with me and told me she was losing feelings, she didn’t drag me on

our story is a crazy story, it’s not a long story time-wise, but it’s a long story with the amount of details i can include. but the reason i lost her was because i was overthinking about our future since we’re a LDR due to me moving from state to state every year. and with her maybe not being able to call me and us stay in touch, i worried too much and let everything get to me personally so the energy i had changed. she had even told me but i didn’t think of it at the time, but i realize it now and it’s late, but i’m working on myself and she’s still in my life but claims she doesn’t give second chances. but knowing her, it’s a 50/50 chance

she fell out of love with me, but still cares about me. she told me last night that she tries to act like a “b-word” (she said it herself) cause she doesn’t want to read my sweet msgs and cry because of how she feels bad for leaving me and she doesn’t want to remember how good of a guy i am. i don’t know if she still loves me because she said she doesn’t, but it seems to me like she has mixed feelings. she’s a sensitive person, she has mood swings, and she claims to be bipolar. i personally love everything about her; her sensitivity the most. i also love her mood swings because although they can be difficult to deal with, they show how genuine she is and how human she is (maybe i just love her too much)

but yeah, i think i spoke too much and maybe didn’t answer the question right. but i’ve had people fall out of love with me and i’ve always been the one to still love them and want them in my life. i’ve gotten over every ex in my life, some were harder than others. but this current relationship i just got out of and want to have a second run with is my favorite and the hardest to get over

so many memories created. so many movies watched together at night, so many laughs shared, so many random conversations that only we’d have with each other, me helping her realize her life is valuable and she shouldn’t try to end it, me talking to her while she cried because she felt bad for being mad at me all day (she was on her monthly cycle and her mood swings make it worse). just so many things i remember

i even wrote down every movie we’ve watched, and i remember the ones i didn’t write down. from the first ever “texas chainsaw massacre”, to “the nun”, to “bad trip”. so many movies watched, songs listened together, these things are things i never did with anyone else

sawno · Answer

For me it happens after the fact, but it also happened in my first relationships where I was still learning and discovering. Its when you realize trough more experience in life what you really love, and that by comparison you no longer love them. Usually in those cases contact is just not a thing anymore, neither is there an interest for contact.

But my last relationship was entirely different, that was my first relationship after I had that shift where I could only love someone again if I truly deeply loved her for who she was, and was no longer able to do it by just being love blind.

As a result that love has never gone away on my side despite us no longer being together. In fact, it has grown further since. We ended on an "I love you" so that also is very telling. We shared immense love and separated due to reasons beyond our direct control. I do not think this is a love that will ever go away on either side, she has a special place in my heart.

So in this case it set me on a journey on improving myself as much as I can and she (indirectly) motivates me every day to keep striving to hit my goals. If there is ever a chance of us making it work in the future I want to be ready for it.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Yes. I tried to be open and tell him that things had changed too much and that it was making me fall out of love. Instead of hearing me out and trying to improve things, he got super offended. So we supposedly both put in more effort with the date nights and stuff and worked trying to fix us. After a month, we were seemingly back on track. Then this mf tells me “Actually, now i dont think im as in love with you anymore”. His punkass ego couldnt handle my previous constructive criticism (that i made sure to deliver as nice as possible). He just haaaad to “even the score/get me back/get revenge/boost his ego”. We broke up 6 months after that. I gave that stupidass mf a real good cussin out once we were finally over for good and told him what i truly thought of him during those last few months when i gave my all and he was being a pos. He wanted to go low, so i went even lower

Lliam · Answer

That was a really poetic analogy.

I've fallen out of infatuation but not out of love.

Infatuation is the feeling we associate with love. It's intense and amazing. But it wears off.

I've only been deeply in love twice.
There is my wonderful wife.
And there was a girlfriend that I lived with for over a year when I was 37. We had to separate but l never stopped loving her. She connected with me on Facebook 20 years later and I was really happy to be in touch and to know that she was happy. But five years later I read that she died from a sudden medical problem at age 55. I was devastated. I will never stop loving her and will never forget her.

exitseven · Answer

I had a relationship with someone for 4 years, 3 of them were long distance. She lived 1509 miles away in a time when there no email or cell phones. The relationship was serious enough that we would talk about marriage.

The last time I saw her I went by plane. When she met me at the Airport she was wearing a dark blue hoodie that was covered in dirt and she had her hair in some weird perm and it was combed over to one side. She told me that she almost forgot to pick me up at the airport. And just like that suddenly I saw her as maybe she really was. As it was she put very little effort into our relationship. I spent a month in the hospital once and she couldn't even bother to send me a get well card. I tried not to think about it but as the week went by my doubts just got bigger.

4 or 5 months later I called her on the phone and broke up with her. I don't think she was really that broken up about it

On_cloud_wine · Answer

I fell out of love.. what happened next? I lost all interest and motivation to stalk his social media or who else he was trying to talk to and instead prayed for him that he would find someone perfect that will make him happy someday. It’s like a beautiful relief.

now, the fact that I got over him made me think he wasn’t the one for me because I believe if he was my soulmate, I’d never get over him.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I haven't fallen out of love, and hope she never fell out of love with me, but I lost my one true love about a decade ago. She will be in my heart till the day I die. All I have are photos of her to remind me of the way we were. I can only look up, smile, touch my fingers to my lips, raise them to her and thank her for giving me our daughter, who is a true likeness to her.

molonski2 · Answer

I'm not sure its a case of falling out of love , I think at times its a case of " reality bites " may start as a small thing , then you realise you've made an horrendous mistake.

On part B , well they must have because there has been a few leave over the years , but maybe the same reasoning as A.

Anemone978 · Answer

I don't think anyone ever falls out of love if it was real love... I think they just get lazy or tired of trying to work on the relationship... As for me I don't think it was romantic love I felt for my partner it was like platonic love... So I still care about him and get along with him, it just isn't the love I really want to go my whole life with...

SnowedIn · Answer

It's happened before, yes. In those cases we weren't in long term (like live together, married sort of) relationship. We made the decision to end being a couple.

I cannot speak to the question from a married perspective.

I do believe that love can be somewhat tidal for what that's worth.

opheeowlscout · Answer

I fell out of love with an ex of mine. I told him I wasn't comfortable with sex and was questioning if I was asexual and he broke things off with me. So when he begged for me back? I didn't feel for him anymore. He broke that trust I had for him. Ever since, I tend to fall out of love whenever a man is very pushy abot sex.

Anonymous · Answer

i rarely fall out of love with people, it's always them falling out of love with me.. like the time where my friend really liked me then when i liked him back he fell out of love with me after a week. even though he loved me for longer it feels like he has already gotten over me, while im over here still suffering from the heartbreak..

Anonymous · Answer

Yes to both it sucks, especially when you know they’re looking for their next partner before either of you even admit it. I must of got the wrong end of the stick, I thought when a relationship goes stale or has problems you try to fix it and make a grand gesture to show them you still love them to reignite the spark not go out bond with new female and male friends by slagging off your partner and finding a new spark with one of them.

Kreneman · Answer

I was in love with my friend with benefits and then I learned how to fall out of love with her because I was motivated to founding the one, which I did and now I am engaged with the love of my life.

ChillaxingLove · Answer

Yes I’ve fallen out of love before once. But I didn’t think it was possible for someone to do so. I stopped talking to them. Then next step is deleting their number, that’s ganna be hard.

Saarr · Answer

Yes I have, I expressed my feelings and broke up with them. I kind of broke their heart since they were still in love with me, but the love had been fading out on my side for a while...

Freyke · Answer

Yes to both. Well, she was all smiles in public but a horrible human being behind closed doors. And in the other case, a girl really liked me and I didn't like her back so I had to make clear it wasn't going to work.

Anonymous · Answer

I can't really say it's falling out of love but it's him showing a side that told me what I fall in love with in first place is mostly an illusion to trick out of me what he wanted from me, naturally I broke up soon after the realization.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

I nearly lost all my respect for one my ex boyfriends.  Falling out of love for him eventually followed.

XHopelessRomanticX · Answer

Only when I realized they were not good for me.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Yes it happens. Very few things in life stay the same.

SolitarySolace · Answer

Have I ever fallen out of love with someone? I once. Has someone ever fallen out of love with me? Constantly

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Yes for both. The difference is that I was honest about how I was feeling and he kept denying it.

Redstang88 · Answer

No, and yes. Short story she blocked me, moved back up north to her parents and haven’t heard from her since

domenico07 · Answer

I just left without explaining too much. But i told her to get help from a professional and that I can’t put up with her shit anymore until she gets help. I still ain’t going back

wannabecuck-2 · Answer

Someone ignored me for 3 months they came back they lied a lot to me so i lost trust nd both feelings for them after wards.

serious · Answer

No, I have always been single, never been in love. Never want to be in love either about the other part even that has not happened yet.

DiegoO · Answer

Yeah. I just couldn't go further with the relation. It was drawing me to insanity.

BrookeS · Answer

Someone has fallen out of love with me and it feels like my heart was ripped out of my chest

Likes2drive · Answer

Seems like my ex wife did and then so did I afterwards

Juxtapose · Answer

Yeeeep. You can only be treated like shit for so long before your love disappears.

strlb · Answer

Yes, dated someone for several years unfortunately we didn't work out so I fell out of love with her

Gabriel-Chicanito · Answer

Yes, I feel out'uh love with someone, and got my # "changed!"

Confusedashell123 · Answer

If it is your destiny to be with that person you will never truly fall out of love with them and it will be lasting. If it’s not meant to be then it won’t

LiamJHayden · Answer

I have never fallen in love. All of my breakups have been amicable, but I still cannot answer the the second question.

chicosuave · Answer

i dont think men can fall out of love. i think its a womens thing cuz women can fall out of love quickly and they initiate most divorce and break up so that explains it.

sheenagwapa · Answer

my soulmate i think this is the end for us

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, I’m falling out of love now

Guardian45 · Answer

I never thought that jeans could be so prophetic!

Fuentes · Answer

I was never in love in the first place lol

EaterPeter · Answer

Yes. 🐌 slow painful break up.

HappyWoman34 · Answer

Yes I have.

Gentleman0 · Answer

Yess

eagle1951 · Answer

yes to both

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