How to tell my BFF I have feelings for her?

[Anonymous]

Hey everyone, I started to have feelings for my best friend a few years ago now and the feelings is turning more into really in love with her. She lives on another side of the country from me and I am wondering a few things

How do I go about telling her I want to be more than just friends without ruining my friendship with her if she ends up not feeling the same way?

If she does like me this way could it work out with me and her being we are so far apart in our offline lives?

[Anonymous]

Telling your best friend that you have developed feelings for her can be a difficult and risky step, but it's important to be honest and authentic about your feelings. Here are some steps you can take to approach the situation:

1. Choose the right time and place: It's important to choose a time and place where you both feel comfortable and relaxed, and where you can have a private conversation without distractions or interruptions.

2. Be honest and direct: It's important to be clear and direct about your feelings, but also respectful and considerate of your friend's feelings. You can start by saying something like, "I have something important to tell you, and I hope you can hear me out."

3. Be prepared for different outcomes: It's important to be prepared for different reactions, including the possibility that your friend may not feel the same way. It's important to respect their feelings and decisions, and to try to maintain your friendship regardless of the outcome.

4. Communicate openly and honestly: If your friend does reciprocate your feelings, it's important to communicate openly and honestly about your expectations, needs, and boundaries in the relationship, especially given the distance between you.

Ultimately, the decision of whether or not to tell your friend about your feelings is up to you. However, it's important to approach the situation with honesty, respect, and empathy, and to prioritize your friendship regardless of the outcome.

[Anonymous]

you're risking the friendship

[Asker]

So should I just let her be the one to say something first?

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe hint at it or joke and see how she reacts