What kind of man should I look for if i'm looking wanting/desire having a family with?

[depeche2015]

basically i never had the family i wanted, my family are all selfish and only care about themselves and their "relationships" they dont have family values.. at all. it made me feel alone and i'm worried i won't have the family i always wanted.. i do want a family though but i been unlucky when i do talk to guys and try feeling like i belong when it comes to them, because all they care about is THEIR FAMILY and not us, they will give them 100 percent and me like 30 percent. i want a man who wants to make us a priority and build a family of our own and create life our way. my family i don't think will be the family i want even if/when i do have children. i want a close knit family/husband that takes pride in putting family first, and a strong unbreakable family. what kind of man should i be looking for? how do i find it? tips, and any way on how i should act on how to attract these types of men instead of wasting time on momma boys and guys who don't want to leave home?

[Reorx]

Where do you think this man spends his time? Not at the bars or clubs; he's working or investing himself at home or with his inner circle / hobbies. Don't be so quick to cast off a guy who cares for his mother, a man who refuses to abandon a burden out of love is a great sign as that means if he grows to love you he'd never abandon you..

Embrace your femininity & wear a dress. Don't be so quick to sleep with him, he'll be willing to invest if he's the right guy & he'll signal this by his actions. Watch him & how he engages children or animals, do they light up or wither? Good men are usually very hard on themselves & if they carry too many burdens they won't pursue anything because who drags someone they live into a bad situation?

Lastly understand that a good man chooses to sacrifice for the ones he loves & contrary to what women say they want they're not much interested in a good man for biological reasons.

[caring__1]

Look for someone who is already like you, not someone you can mold into what you want or the opposite of who you are. First be the person you want to be, and then choose a compatible partner. No one will make you whole or turn you into the person you want to be. The life you get is the life the two of you choose to create and nurture, not anything handed to you on a silver platter. When you choose a partner, avoid all potential partners you wouldn't want to see your daughter with.

[Anonymous]

Must be loyal. Can take care of you. He loves you.
gives importance to family

[Avicenna]

Someone who shares your goals and values, especially about family. Someone who is reliable and respects you. Preferably, someone who comes from a loving family.

[lightbulb27]

you'll have to find someone raised in a church, or old culture line chinese or indian... traditional values and has good family. Then, he can model your family off of what he was trained.

How to attract: Be a woman of high morals and value yourself, be confident.

Be willing to say no and hold boundaries. I'd be looking for mentors and people to model my life given you didn't see that at home.

I wish you good fortunes in finding and building what you want.

[NYCQuestions1976]

You need a guy with similar goals going into the relationship. You can't start dating an overall nice guy who wants different things than you and think you're going to eventually "change" him. It'll never work out. Good luck! 👍

[VikingWarLord]

Pretty much the guys that you "friend zone"

Those guys that you really don't want.

Don't expect it from the bad boy types that you truly desire though.

Pretty simple as that

[Guanfei]

Me, I suppose.

[depeche2015]

you want the same things i do too?

[Guanfei]

Yeah, except for the "him 100% and me 30%" that I don't understand.

[Someonerandomgirllol]

A husband

[Anonymous]

A Shy Guy.