Is it unrealistic to find a guy who would want to have 3 or more kids?

[Anonymous]

I want 6 kids

Yes

No

A total of 43 votes were cast: 16 girls and 27 guys. See detailed results

[SteveSmith1985]

I don't know if it's 'unrealistic'. You certainly need to look outside of the usual places. You can't just expect to stumble upon a guy like that on Bumble.

So, I'm not sure if you're 18, or if you're 24. I'm not sure what point you're at in your life. There are clearly some practical problems with trying to have 6 kids ASIDE from finding a guy who might actually want that many kids.

Namely, the cost. Kids are expensive. 6 kids is expensive no matter how much you try and stretch a dollar. So, I would assume, that you picture yourself not working in order to be at home raising your 6 kids. That's all well-and-good, as long as you find a guy who makes a shitload of money.

A family with two 'normal' incomes would have an extremely difficult time (financially) raising 6 kids. You need a man who not only wants 6 kids... but one who also will be making extremely good money.

Your best bet for finding a guy who wants 6 kids, is to look more at people who tend to be religious, or tend to be 'traditional' (just don't get into that trad-wife-nazi-shit). Most guys do not want 6 kids. But there are going to be 'subgroups' of guys where you have better odds.

If you are looking on 'regular' dating sites. Be super-up-front about wanting 6 kids. Put it in your profile (not even joking). That way, when that one freak-guy who DOES want 6 kids, will be sure to notice.

Basically, you're strange on this. You need to find your counterpoint: a strange guy who wants 6 kids.

Good luck🙂

[Asker]

Haha okay thank you

[Black_Ivory]

My maternal great grandmother had 17 children with one man. She married him at 14 years old and he was 30 when they married. She was a mail-order bride from China.

Think what you want about the weirdness of the situation for the early 1900's or 1910"s, but I truly believe she must have loved him because I do not think a woman could give a man that she did not love and could not stand that many kids.

My maternal grandfather was child #9, the middle child, and had 8 kids with my grandmother.

My paternal grandfather had 6 kids.

And I would love to produce my own football team myself. I would love to have 12 kids.

But intelligent people will tell you with all the inflation and cost of living prices going up. It it hard enough to take care of yourself, much less a spouse and children.

So the smart people are the ones who wait until they get their financial health set.

You need to make enough money to afford each mouth to feed. So if neither you and your partner make a 6 figure income, then you should develop your financial skills and certifications first before even thinking about having children.

If you 6 figures and have the ability to save half that after taxes, then it is safe to have one kid. Every additional 100k equals another kid you can have.

Otherwise prepare for a long life of struggling and no vacations.

Good luck to you. Hope you find an already established partner to have kids with. But should be working and making 6 figures each if you want to have 2 kids.

[Catarine]

Definetly not. My boyfriend wants at least 3 kids and I want 1, max 2, so I guess if you aren't looking for a man who wants 3+ kids you'll find him XD

[Anonymous]

Look around.. there are plenty of men like that.

[BeMuse]

If you have like $3 million plus sitting in a trust fund set aside just for raising kids, I guess it's no big deal. That should cover the expenses to raise 6 kids from birth to 18, a house large enough to house 6 kids, and pay tuition to send them to a local public college or trade school so that they get an average start in life. Otherwise, you're asking a man to up his average salary by $70K to $100K per year just to maintain your baby fever. If you personally earn like $200K a year and want to pay for it, that is also a reasonable path to compromise.

[HighValue]

I would want 3 to 5 kids with the right woman. She needs to have no kids from any ex, no contact with any ex, not post provocative pictures or videos online, no past of drug use, no heavy alcohol drinking, no promiscuous past, not fat, no tattoos, NOT taken the DNA altering mens vaccines, is trustworthy, fair to me, initiates affection sometimes, has mostly conservative morals, not a vegetarian, is at least a 5 or better in facial looks, and likes playing board games with me.

[Asker]

Not even a nun can fit your entire criteria lmao

[HighValue]

Why not? I am better myself th than what I listed for a potential partner. So you are saying that I am better than a nun too?

[Berethor]

If you live in Africa then no, also you the one who give birth, so it less of a issue for the guy.

https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/2/2e/Countriesbyfertilityrate.svg

[SnowedIn]

Not unrealistic but probably less common so it may take you longer.

[SnowedIn]

Thank you for mho!

[Kaneki05]

And they wonder why the world has problems with having to many people.

[Asker]

It’s not a problem as to the amount of people. It’s too much people with the WRONG mindset and the cultures that allow bad behaviours.

[Kaneki05]

That makes no sense. Obviously more people is a bad thing without even naming the simplest problems that humans make just by existing let's just go by the simple logic of too much of one thing is a bad thing.
Balance is needed within all things. How are animals balanced you ask? They have predators along with parasites that help keep there population not one way or another. How are plants balanced? Again eaten or often combat each other.
Now humans? How are we balanced? We are not in fact we do everything in are power to remain not so, we want to live longer and spread more. Now if everything else has things to try counter them to balance it out what makes you think us not having that is a good thing lol.

The world has recently nearly hit 8B people. Meanwhile species are dying off left right and centre, wanna guess how many lions are in the world? I'll give you hint it's not anything close to a Million. If you don't see that problem right in front of you, it explains why you would think 6 kids is a smart idea just like how China thought the same until one day they want ah shit turns out not so much.
The problem may not seem large to you while you sit here living your average life but if you want a fast track to global collapse your doing that well at least.

And then it won't even make sense because then you just had 6 kids just so they can die in a catastrophe or live in much worse conditions don't sound to bright.

[Asker]

I think I hit a nerve

[Kaneki05]

Nope just facts. If you don't see that you really need to learn more about the world around you because it's a pretty clear fact that humans are not a positive impact on the world.

[heavymetalbrotha]

Most people with 4 and up that i know of a constantly broke or just worn out just hits like a bad idea when you could pick up a skill, a hobby or travel or take a unscripted nap just whenever.

[AnUglyBarnacle]

Outside industrialized countries, it wouldn't be difficult at all.

[Anonymous]

This isn't the 1800's. The mortality rate for children isn't 50%. And you don't need extra hands to tend the farm. So a guy has to REALLY want a big family to make that kind of a commitment.

[Anonymous]

If would love to have 3 - 6 kids with the RIGHT woman.

[Anonymous]

No, not at all, are you even real? I would make a kid every year until you can't anymore if that is what you want

[Apple1996]

Nah I think a lot of men want that

[Summeroflove]

No. I’m sure there is men who would want to.

[FunkyMonkee]

I wouldn't mind having at least 4

[Shamalien]

Yeah I want at least 3

[shortster]

I would like 6. So no, it isn't unrealistic.