Last night my boyfriend was texting his buddy for over an hour. It was like he was writing a novel.
So I asked him what’s going on? He gets mad at me and says I have trust issues.
He said I am my own worst enemy. Which I can be. I’m an over thinker.
He always tells me he has nothing to hide. That I can read his phone any time I want to.
I have such a hard time leaving things be sometimes.
What are your opinions on this matter?
Please help.
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Well that depends, has he given you a reason to doubt him? Has he cheated or shown unloyal behaviour? If yes, then you have a right to be suspicious.
If no, then you have your own insecurities and doubts to work through, perhaps with a therapist or counsellor. Figure out why you have trust issues towards him.
Although it is strange for him to get mad about you asking what’s going on and then suddenly say you have trust issues. Either there’s context missing to what you’ve said, or he’s got something to hide and is trying to make you feel crazy for asking.
I do have trust issues from a past relationship. I need to understand that can make someone crazy by being so insecure.
Thank you for this. I do need someone to talk to.
He has always said he’s a one woman man and his ex wife they were married for 25 years and he never cheated on her. I need to believe him.
It’s very common for people who’ve been cheated on in their last relationship, to bring that trauma and trust issue into their next relationship. It’s you’re responsibility to work through those issues with someone who can help, so that you don’t continue to doubt your partner. Doubting him over nothing will only push him away.
Thank you. I appreciate your help!
You need to learn how to trust and one way of doing that would be to say yes to reading his text messages.