Since the dating scene is bad for woman in 30s should I consider not divorcing my narcissistic abusive husband?

[Anonymous]

He's trying to better now as he says but I know it's a cycle. I'll go back and he'll have amnesia and will forget what he said to get me back. Insecure and jealous of my career. Thinks I'm having affairs checks my phone and calls me to shout at me to come home early. Threatens to hit bht never does.

Should I go back? He says he loves me and he can make my pain go away. everyine tells him how he's traumatized me but he says if I meet him once hell make it better and I'm just angry at him but I still love him. He can't live without me.

Is it love? Should I stay with him forever because it's hard for women at 30 to find a partner? I can live alone but eventually most people want a partner right

[GreekLorrd]

No, you should not stay with your narcissistic and abusive husband. While it may be challenging to find a partner at 30, staying in an unhealthy and potentially dangerous relationship is not the solution. Your safety and well-being should always come first.

It's important to recognize that abuse is a cycle and abusers often use tactics such as gaslighting and love-bombing to manipulate their victims into staying in the relationship. It's not uncommon for abusers to promise to change and improve, only to repeat the abusive behavior later.

Leaving an abusive relationship can be difficult, but it's important to seek help and support from trusted friends, family members, or professionals. Consider reaching out to a therapist or domestic violence hotline for guidance and resources.

Remember that you deserve to be treated with respect and dignity in all of your relationships. It may take time to heal and find a healthy relationship, but staying in an abusive relationship is not the answer.

[ohsheeT]

Well if he says he's going to do it that means he could do it if he's saying that he's thinking it and if he's thinking on it one of these days he's going to act on it getting a divorce that's all up to you getting treated the way you want to get treated is all up to you you have to make that choice who do you want to be in life how do you want to feel in life how do you want guys to treat you in life it's your choice and you're the one that has to make that happen by doing what you have to do to make it happen

[EpicSnail]

It's pretty simple, you either stay with this guy for the rest of your life, or you take the plunge, ditch him, and venture out into the mating market.

[LiamJHayden]

No. The dating scene might not be perfect, but I am certain you can find someone who is not abusive.

[FilmGuy93]

I wouldn't stick around, if I were you.