I plan on dating a girl for 2 months solid and then getting married if those two months workout. Will this plan backfire?

[Anonymous]

If she is living with me most of the time over those 2 months I think this short time frame is enough to make an informed decision. What do you think? and what if any tests should I put her through? or are tests unnecessary?

Yes, it will backfire badly

No, it will probably work out great

Other

[OlderAndWiser]

1. Why ITF are you in such a hurry?

2. You should date at least until you have had a few disagreements, spent time travelling together, and realized what you don't like about each other.

3. How can you possibly be 30-35 years old and think this is a reasonable plan?

[Avicenna]

With that tight of a timetable, it's guaranteed to backfire on you spectacularly. You should date for a few years before getting married.

[Asker]

I don’t believe in long term dating , years sounds incredibly long

[Jamie05rhs]

@Asker Wtf do you think marriage is? 5 years?

[Anonymous]

did you know they have divorce parties now? i'd definitely like to go to yours! because you'll definitely have a divorce soon if you marry so quickly it's kinda laughable.

[EmmaMary]

What absolutely downright ridiculous thinking! 🤣

[Asker]

I thought it might be a good idea on first take but now i'm second guessing it.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[andreasderjuengere]

Isn't it better to run several parallel test sites?

It widens your range of choice,

Although... perhaps it's YOU who needs a test... and a therapy?

[Asker]

I don’t think I need therapy, I don’t have any blaring issues. I just don’t like the idea of long term dating

[Asker]

I think you should just pick a pretty girl that’s the right type and make it work if you’re a man

[es20490446e]

https://youtu.be/ByUx6ihXJxs

[Nikki1989]

2 months?

You are rushing things, don't you think?

[Asker]

yeah maybe

[D_Bone_Steak]

Considering that marriage is one of the dumbest ideas of modern times... yeah it will backfire.

[Asker]

yeah its risky nowadays. if you focus on the negative nobody would ever get married.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I would push you to think about the negatives... this is coming from a married man of 14+ years. Pretty much everything bad is going to happen eventually. As a man, you will not walk out of it with all the cash and prizes like a woman.

I got married because the military only pays for dependents if married. I was ex-military so I thought it would just work. Wrong. But I saw it coming... refuse to work, and the kids are with me. She still tried the cheating shit, got played, and then realized it was going to be her paying me alimony, child support, and I was taking the kids... I cheated back like times 20 and there was nothing she could do or say about it. I finally calmed down but that still sits in the back of my mind.

She tried to cheat and then run me over by using the system just like basically any chick in Hollywood does. They're all the same... and just 2 months is going to just find that quicker than I did with years. I also have high doubts you'll be living off her like I did with my woman (still do). So if you work, it's your shit family court will take.

I still feel the same as before I got married... it's not worth it. The only reason I did it is because I know her moving overseas and all over the place without me was not going to work... and I'm not just going to be a single Dad. If you don't have circumstances like that, then there is simply no benefit of marriage for you. You only stand to lose in that situation. Don't bring that shit upon yourself.

[itsaboutthyme]

If you have to plan it, it's already not going to work.

[Asker]

I'm planning on spending that amount of time with someone and then evaluating the situation at that time. I'm not saying for sure I would end up marrying, its more likely something will go wrong or they won't be right.

[TheSpaceGnome]

2 months is not long enough to figure out if she's your match.

[Asker]

2 months of all day every day being around someone is kind of a lot for me but yeah perhaps

[TheSpaceGnome]

It takes years to understand a person.

[spartan55]

I think you've lost your mind.

[Anonymous]

Its already set to backfire.

[Asker]

how so

[Opinion Owner]

Because two months is a ridiculous.

[smashleyy]

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