Is the relationship even a relationship?

[Anonymous]

i’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year now. i haven’t meet his family. when i bring up the fact that i want too, we will set up a day for me to meet his family and i never do. this has happened 3 times. every time we ever do anything together, he always just comes to my house. there’s no indication on any of his social media that he’s even in a relationship. he told me is we broke up, he still wants to fck me. i just kinda feel like maybe that’s the only thing he’s there for.

[Sunssong]

First, you cannot know another person intention until they tell you.
Never ever assume you know their intention. That is a habit of self sabotage.

HOWEVER, you should leave him. Like right now. Seriously right now. Stop reading this and go end it.

I'm not joking. Emotional scaring is not a joke, especially if you don't understand the mind.

Look I figured out 100% of relationship problems are due to a lack of a conscious, joint vision and or wavering from that vision. Without such a vision you are operating on 2 unconscious visions. One his and the other yours. At the moment these two visions are battling each other because they aren't in harmony. That's why you're having problems. It will 100% manifest itself physically and lead to a breakup. Right now it is just an inner disharmony but it will manifest make no mistake. Probably already has in small ways.

Why am I telling you to run?

Because, this guy doesn't desire you. He wants you but he doesn't desire you. Desire moves the inner workings of the subconscious and there is no shortage of action and excitement. You both don't know what you're doing and you're gonna program yourself and ruin your life going forward. You may not understand the mind but trust me if I were you I'd run for hills. It's gonna be uncomfortable but that is natural.
Don't learn the hard way. I don't think this relationship will last, I KNOW IT WON'T.
The family thing is not weird nor anything else he isn't doing. That's not the red flag. The red flag is that you're here asking this and he has no desire for you.

[Anonymous]

What’s his relationship like with his family? Are they close?

[Asker]

immediate family and a few others he’s close with, yes.
his cousins whom he’s close with have asked to meet me a lot of times, but he just never seems to want me too.

[Opinion Owner]

Gotcha. I think it’s a good time to ask yourself where these doubts you have stem from. Like will meeting his family genuinely add or take away from feeling like you’re in a relationship? Is it a want or a need?

I only ask you this because I’ve had to ask myself the same thing in the past. My relationship will be 2 years old in October, and the only family I’ve met of his is his mom, but in passing, we were dropping something off that she came out to the car for so just a hand off and she waved at me when he introduced us, then hurried back inside.

Normally I think this would upset me a bit, however I knows he’s not close with his fam the way I am with mine. This is where yours and my situation differ, because if your man is close to his family then yeah, I’d want to meet them. On top of all this, your boyfriend is doing other things that only deepen your uncertainty, and altogether I think it’s unhealthy. So if you’re not really feeling like a girlfriend, then the answer is simple — don’t be his. I would’ve left my man long ago if I felt not only hidden from his family but used for sex. It’s just too much of a sacrifice for your mental health and your heart really.